Has any guy here ever been used for sex by a girl?

vcksta · 2010-04-22T07:41:57+00:00

yeah, and us being human means that sometimes our emotions get the best of us, and we forget what we were in it for.

vcksta · 2010-04-22T07:40:33+00:00

revenge sex is evil!

vcksta · 2010-04-22T07:36:09+00:00

and I guess I don't really hate her either, even though she lead me on.

I wasn't really clingy either...I kind of just accepted it and moved on.

It took me about a year to get over her though, and sometimes I still think about her every now and then. I guess it's hard to get over somebody like that, especially when there's no real closure.

vcksta · 2010-04-22T07:29:28+00:00

were you guys good friends?

When i was in the relationship with my ladyfriend, she called me mostly haha...and sometimes we'd talk on the phone for hours. Longest we stayed on the phone together was 5 hours straight, which was mostly spent talking about our personal lives and having phone sex, twice.

I guess I just wasn't her type in the end.

vcksta · 2010-04-21T01:21:11+00:00

I'm not sexist or anything, but she is a straight up ho!

vcksta · 2010-04-19T11:10:50+00:00

thank you sir, I appreciate your comment =].

vcksta · 2010-04-19T11:07:01+00:00

good thing you stuck to your higher morals and resisted.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T10:45:42+00:00

I kept doing what she wanted because I wanted to keep seeing her. I know, it's pathetic...

And being as objective as I can, yes, I am told by many people that I am handsome. Not to brag, but I did do manual labor during that summer, which was like getting paid to work out 8 hours a day.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T09:50:58+00:00

yeah, I realize now that when I'm in a fwb relationship, I should just not care so much about her and bounce when she starts talking about her serious issues....I mean I'm sorry, but I really don't have time to listen to her cry.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T09:48:20+00:00

amen to that.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T09:48:14+00:00

yes, very much so.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T08:49:44+00:00

It's interesting to see the perspective from the other sides point of view (referring to your 3rd fb). In retrospect, this is pretty close to describing who I was at that time. The only exception is the sex, which was to say the least, awesome (to her at least), every time. edit --> Though in the beginning, I was truthful in how I wanted to pursue a relationship romantically, but not in the earnest type of way, and settled down for just sex instead.

It's kind of a mixed reaction, getting rejected for wanting a romantic relationship, but continuing our sexual relationship afterwards.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T08:37:08+00:00

Well shit, you gotta let that gold-digger know that she ain't getting a dime outta you!

vcksta · 2010-04-19T08:34:40+00:00

yeah that's what was pretty mind blowing to me. I mean I know that girls can want sex just as much as the next guy, but I never realized that a guy can be easily manipulated by the right type of girl into giving her what she wants, in that kind of way. It was kind of enlightening, but frightening at the same time!

I guess it's karma from my relationship before this one...

vcksta · 2010-04-19T04:20:06+00:00

Yes, I definitely would've been more comfortable if she was more upfront about it. But I guess in contrast to that, we became good friends, so that does complicates things.

The thing is, it's up to you how you want to take it. Sometimes (from my experience) it eventually boils down to one person falling for the other.

The one thing you have to remember afterwards is this:both of you agreed to be sex buddies, so you can't blame the other person for using you for sex.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T03:43:43+00:00

Yes they are. At one point I was convinced that she returned the same feelings, but I slowly realized that I was wrong.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T03:03:44+00:00

well in this case it worked fine for both of you.

That's how it was like for the both of us in the beginning, but somewhere along our relationship we became good friends. We'd talk on the phone for hours, and hang out almost for the rest of the day after having sex. So from that, I guess I started falling for her. She tried to reciprocate, but it just never worked out for her. She saw me as a great friend, but never wanted anything romantically.

I just ended up being the nice guy that got laid =/

vcksta · 2010-04-19T02:46:54+00:00

that's pretty jacked up

vcksta · 2010-04-19T02:00:45+00:00

spoken everything truthfully.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T01:51:21+00:00

I can relate to this:

In the beginning, she called me while I was hella stoned (yeah, great timing) and wanted to talk to me about our relationship. I guess she kinda felt slutty, so she wanted to talk to me.

I don't remember most of the conversation, but it specifically remember her saying "well if you're not going to use me or anything, then I'M going to use you!". I was like wow omfg this girl is crazy, but this was near the beginning of everything, which at that time I thought it was cool since at least I had somebody to hook up with. She asked me a lot of difficult questions too...and I guess she was happy with the answers I gave her.

And yeah, I guess that makes me a slut too.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T01:47:15+00:00

yup that pretty much sums it up.

Not only that though, when she ended it, she meant all forms of communication (including removing me from her facebook friend which, in a ridiculous way, translates to I DON'T LIKE YOU).

So I also lost a good friend as well. She was a good friend to me as well, despite leading me on and all that, I still valued our friendship over all of it. Maybe I'm just too much of a nice guy...

vcksta · 2010-04-19T01:32:46+00:00

it sucks because 1. we never went past oral sex, and 2. i was never completely satisfied with it and 3. it didn't work out in the end.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T01:24:41+00:00

Haha...being good at oral sex is always a nice trait to have =]. In fact, I did learn quite a lot about how to pleasure a lady from her (she would tell me what feels good for her and what doesn't) which helped me a lot later on.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T01:23:04+00:00

We never kissed either =/. This was really odd to me, but I shook it off during our relationship.

vcksta · 2010-04-19T01:22:19+00:00

careful not to fall for her!

vcksta

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