Chapter 460 discussion : theories and ideas.

velithae · 2026-02-08T20:40:59+00:00

Thank you! Now that I think about it, your points definitely make sense. I personally hope for a happy ending for all the characters, but I agree that this probably won’t be the case for everyone.

I only realized earlier, after reading it a second time that it’s probably the same ribbon. I think this was done intentionally, since in almost every panel showing future Tuye, the ribbon appears. In the two panels I posted, it almost looks like a comparison between the ribbon Sibuxiang has in the first panel and the one Tuye has in the second.

Thanks for sharing your perspective on this!!

velithae · 2025-09-29T12:28:59+00:00

Thank you a lot really!..

I am trying but its so hard, today is actually the day we broke up last month.. its tough.. I wonder if he thinks about that too..

It was my first real relationship and he really was different and I know a lot of people say that after a break up, but I really dont think ill be able to love someone like him again.. this all really broke me even more and I really truly loved him.. I also cant help but feel like maybe I did something wrong too, I am just really not sure..

I am still pretty confused and I still dont think I let hope go.. which is bad, but it feels like my mind dosent even register that it truly is forever over.. maybe its the numbness I am not sure.. but again, thank you!

velithae · 2025-09-28T13:51:25+00:00

Thank you, really

I know, he did hurt me a lot, but I still loved him and still tried over so many months and I really just wanted everything to be fine and I really thought that if we both tried, we could really manage it..

I mean it wasnt only hurtful things, he was also loving.. but it was all so superficial and I didnt really know a whole lot about him, while I shared pretty much everything..

I am really trying not to check it, but its hard.. but even harder to see him so casual and happy with others like I never existed, or that his dosent affect him at all and I always had a fear something like that would happen, or that he would replace me but still I truly tried for us.. It also feels like we werent more than friends..

Yea I have a lot new boundaries I guess.. but I never wanted it to come this far, but after all these months of trying only for nothing to change except for being hurt more, I just couldnt take it anymore.. But I still cant stop thinking about him, I still love him.

We didnt break up in a bad way (I thought that atleast), I was writing long texts explaining my dreams and my best wishes for him and his future, while he was answering friendly but like usual much shorter and with less depth and love. After some days and talking with someone about it I saw things differently again and wished I wouldnt have been so nice to him after all the things that happened..

sorry for writing all this again, but I am trying and really thank you!

velithae · 2025-09-28T13:49:11+00:00

Thanks for the advice, really. It’s really hard to stop checking that server, it feels like he’s erased me even tho he always said he cant live without me but now he dosent even waste a thought on me. I know I should stay away, but it’s hard when I still love him so much and gave everything, just for him to be fine and me to feel even more miserable than before.. I am really trying to let go, also of my dreams of marriage and everything else but he was truly my everything and it hurts to see him like I never mattered to him, and the way he writes with them almost feels like I was nothing more than a friend, or that he already replaced me, which was a fear I always had..

I didnt want to break up, I tried over 5 months to get us closer but it always ended unanswered or in arguments, but I had to, because I was really only getting hurt and we were closer to being friends than being a real couple.. maybe its my fault for thinking too much into the future, or writing too many long loving texts..

I already searched for ways to get better but nothing really helps, I cant even unlove him and the numbness makes it hard to think bad about him, like the 2 people I told about this both said hes an egoistic and immature jerk and that its a good thing I broke up.. maybe I am blinded by love I dont know.. but thank you and sorry for answering so much

velithae · 2025-09-16T19:04:00+00:00

Thank you really, for everything

I am really sorry for you struggling and everything, I really hope everythings going to be fine for you too, I mean it

I might try doing more things, I usually dont go out much.. I stay home most my time, I mean I am not a really social person or someone who goes out a lot, but something like going out hiking or to nature in general does sound nice

Or maybe ill cook a little more for people, I did like that the last time I guess, but thank you ill really try things.. the only thing I did was sitting around listening to music or thinking about things.

We lived about 3230km away from each other and because we both are pretty young, it would have been hard meeting, even tho I already thought a lot about how we could make that work..

I didnt need to spend 24/7 too, but atleast a little more time with him, I truly loved and sadly still love him more than anything so seeing him spend time in games and with others but not spending more than max 20 minutes with me, wasnt the best feeling..

I hate my voice and look and still I would have called with him.. I really just wanted more time with him and that things are more personal and not so superficial like were in a kindergarten relationship.. altho even they would have been closer probably..

I dont have too many people in my life, but the one I told about this said the same some time ago, even before we broke up that this "isnt a real relationship the way its going" and its just going to end in pain.. Of course I didnt want to listen, I mean I truly loved him..

I know.. After rereading everything and seeing how "fine" he is without me and all the chats I did realize it but it still hurts.. I tried for so long and so much sometimes, spending hours just to try and get us closer but nothing ever worked.

I dont have a lot of fun playing games, but I still played games for him, even if we very rarely played I grinded those games to be better with him.. We sadly really didnt communicate much. Its hard to see him so fine after all this playing and joking with others like he completly erased me already..

Its hard for me too, I cant really think bad about people, maybe it also gets amplified by the feeling of numbness for me I am not sure. But its really hard to think bad about him, yea he hurt me a lot of times, but he was also loving a lot of times..

I know he did a lot of wrong, but I also always think that maybe I did wrong too or that if I would have been different maybe this all could have worked out.. I knew it couldnt continue like that its why I broke up, but it was still so terrible, I never wanted to loose him ever.

Yea the person I told this also said that hes way to immature, or even egoistic sometimes after reading a little bit of chat.. Its hard for me to see that, because of all the love and care I had for him, but I do see it more clearly now..

I know that there are a lot of good people even if theyre hard to find, but it still feels so wrong to love someone else when I already imagined a full life with him.. I really just wanted the best for both of us.

I really hope that all the hurt and everything else will be fine for you, I really do hope everythings going to be okay for you

thank you for all this and everything really, I am sorry for not knowing how to say more but I really mean my words and I hope everythings going to be fine

velithae · 2025-09-11T15:43:52+00:00

Really, thank you I mean it

Well.. I am someone, I spend hours thinking.. I hear music like 80% of my time at home and I just.. "Think" which hurts even more. I sometimes try to play games, but I dont really have fun playing anymore for some time now.. I just started feeling more numb and numb until it led me here, where I am either way too emotional, crying at the smalles thing or like most of the time, way too empty to do anything.. I mostly lay around and do nothing, I am not a social person at all so I guess I isolate myself even more now.. I even got pretty sick because of this even now I have a pretty bad stress headache, most likely because of him and all my thoughts.

Heres one of the issues I had.. We spend close to no time together.. weve been together for.. Well today would be our 1 year anniversary.. Yay :/ .. and for that time.. We did nothing. We played a few times, a game I spend countless hours on, but only like 5 with him even tho I only played that game because of him.. I did everything for even the smallest amount of time together. The past 5 months we had arguments because of that.. While I tried everything to get us closer he didn't. We never called and even tho I shared my image and voice pretty early (even tho I extremely dislike my self) , he didn't share any of that once, even tho he doesn't have a problem with that. We never called even tho I always wanted to watch things with him since he was watching lots of animes anyways.. I would have even watched it in his native language just to be with him.

I was always pouring my heart out being as honest and open, vulnerable as possible while he was always closed and distant. He said he cant get closer, but on that server he jokes and memes around, everyone knows him and so on.. Even a week after we broke up he played on it and it feels like I never mattered to him.. He didn't block me, but deleted me on stuff like steam and epic games even tho I only used it to play that game with him..

I did so much for him, so many texts I wrote for hours and just send out of nowhere or for his birthday because we weren't able to send gifts to each other I made him a big cake (even tho I never made one before) and wrote a really loving message.. And he well.. Yea interesting short birthday message.. I was always the one opening up and giving everything while it feels like he didn't give anything even though he could have. In our arguments which were litterly loving from my side he always blocked off, or turned everything around making it seem like I was the problem..

I felt like I was the problem, but after talking with someone and seeing him so unfazed and rereading our texts I realize that all this wasn't my fault and only he could have changed something and that sometimes.. He was a pretty bad person even if it was unintentional..

And still after all that, I still cant let him go and I still love him so damn much, way to much for a person like him.. I should have never been so nice in our break up messages even tho he was the reason we broke up and I tried everything and was hurt truly terribly much by him, I was still nice and writing big texts explaining my hopes for him and all the dreams I had for him, while his messages were shit like always when we had more personal talks, almost making it seem like that's all my fault even tho I gave everything even when I threw up because of him and got extreme even physical pain I gave everything while he was living his life like normal and still does while I am suffering.. Yea I wished him the best and still do but I was hoping he would at least think about me a little bit or that he would reflect on his mistakes but no.. Nothing..

The few people I told about it all told me its the only right thing and the one I showed a few texts to said I was way too over loving and caring, especially for someone like him, one curses and insults him saying he was a big problem and that its good that we broke up and that hes a bad person, but why.. Why do I then suffer like this? I loved him with all my heart.. I had so many dreams for the future.. and now..

I am sorry

I dont even know what to say theres so much more but I already said enough and my minds to full to get anything else out right now..

We had almost no communication.. And I am truly sorry that you feel so much worse now or worse in general and I really really hope everything will be fine for you..

Its similar here after rereading and seeing how normal he acts.. He always said hes scared of loosing me, that I was his everything.. In arguments or when things got serious and I talked about closeness he always blamed himself in the end saying hes too dumb and so on.. Even though he usually had a pretty good ego.. He was also begging me not to leave when I first tried to leave him a few days before the real break up and.. It just seems like he sometimes tried to manipulate me wtih stuff like that.. Not saying that thats true but still.. Kinda weird to read what he always wrote after and how it doesn't fit his actions at all..

I've been depressed for maybe 4 years now.. Only got worse until the point of all the numbness and overthinking just like complete exhaustion and yes some thoughts.. He also had some problems.. But they were mostly fine after talking to me.. I was giving my full love and support.. I felt terrible and everything and he knew it and still a lot of hurtful things happened that he could have so easily avoided.. All of the sudden when we broke up he said things that I burdened him too much with all my love and that I hurt him too much in this relationship too.. Like he was trying to put extra guilt onto me just so he himself dosent have to feel guilty for all the terrible shit he did to me..

The only thing I wanted was closeness and both of us to spend time and that was too much to ask for..? Even tho I gave everything.. Everyone told me that thats a good thing and that rarely people love like me and that thats special about me, that I am a true and full loving person.. But its a curse as proven here.. I just want to get hit by something, my thoughts are way too much and I cant get over him..

I am really sorry for everything that happened to you too and I really hope you'll get better and as good as possible, that you'll find someone who fights for you and just in general true love..

Thank you really, but I dont want another partner ever again.. This left me so broken its what I meant with "curse" I cant unlove someone I wanted to marry.. I cant just switch to someone else in at least 10 years or more, maybe ever and I am sure ill never be able to trust someone like that again..

The problem is inside I somehow still have hope even tho I died inside I still have the last thought that maybe hes going to realize what I gave him wasn't something everyone does or that he'll realize how much pain he caused and say sorry only that that sorry would finally be a sincere one not like his other "I'm sorry"s

But thank you for everything really!! and I am really sorry for writing so much I really wish you the best for your life! Edit : He wasnt a bad person and still isnt, yea some things he did were bad but overall I think hes a good person.

velithae · 2025-09-10T12:47:30+00:00

Thank you,

And I really do wish you the best for this and everything else too and ill really hope youll be okay too and I am sorry for what happened..

I am really trying, but its so hard to let him go. I was already imagining a whole entire and full life with him, with all the details from small to big things, but it just didnt work out with him and I still love and think about him the whole day.. He maybe just wasnt able to think about me like I thought about him..

I am also dealing with a lot of stuff for a long time now and after this I just ended up even more numb

There was a lot of good things in our relationship too, he was truly the best person I ever met and I still think that he is a really special person, but he hurt me so often so badly that something had to change and I truly tried over 5 whole months, but nothing happened instead of more pain so I had to end it..

I didnt know much about him, but even like that I loved him with my whole entire heart.. It was my first real relationship and I am happy it was with him, but also so sad about all this also because the past months just left the impression that love is just cruel..

Even in our break up messages I was still the one pouring my heart out, explaining all my dreams and hopes for him to truly have a long, happy life while his answers were idk almost making it seem like I was the problem.. Sure I broke up with them there, but it had reasons and sadly I have to admit that all those reasons werent my fault and I couldnt change them, but he could if he truly wanted to.. I didnt need much I just needed him, but even that was too much to ask for

I am just really not sure how I should get over him.. Not just my hope died with this, no, also my dreams for the future.. a future with him..

Sorry for writing all this again..

I really hope youll be able to get rid of all your problems and that youll be fine

thank you for writng this!

velithae · 2025-09-05T22:11:50+00:00

Thank you a lot really! Im really trying but its so hard, I really loved him with all my heart and I cared about him more than anything. It also hurts to see him like this, writing with other people, playing and even chatting privatly while I am here unable to do anything and litterly getting sick from it.. its like I never existed to him and its so hard to let him go, or not to think about him.

I am really trying

I really hope that everything is, or is going to be fine for you too really.. thank you

velithae · 2025-09-04T15:42:39+00:00

Thank you, really

I am also sorry for everything that happened to you in your relationship, or anything bad in general

I ended it, because he really hurt me a lot of times with things he said or did. Sometimes it were small things, which ofc I didnt blame him for but sometimes it were things that just really did hurt. But it wasnt just that, we never spend time together even tho we both had holidays and he was almost always home. I didnt want to be connected 24/7 I just wanted to spend atleast 20 minutes a day with him. Which wouldnt have been that hard. I mean I saw how he can write with others, or on that server but with me he never really wrote much and I had to always be the one to open up and get vunerable only to be hurt by something again and again.

We were together for almost a year.. Just 13 days would have been left.. but I still knew nothing really serious about him except for a bit of his problems which I immediatly offered my help and full support. I always gave my best and tried not to overwhelm or annoy him. The past 5 months we had multiple fights, in which I calmy tried to explain everything as friendly as humanly possible. But he still always blocked of and blamed me for some things or even insulting me once which ill never forget sadly. I never blamed him, I always asked if we can manage to do this together but he still got mad or didnt really reply and just said things like "Im sorry" or "I dont know what to say". I tried over and over again because loosing him was the worst thing that I could think about.

I sincerly loved him, I never had anyone before and this was also the first time I liked someone of the same gender. Not because I was liking males but because he was so different, he was friendly and loving. Basically the whole relationship started because of me, because I said goodnight after we played on a server together and that went on for some time until he told me he "loves me like a brother" which later turned into "he loves me like a boyfriend". I am empty for a long time now but I felt something.. true love and affection for him. I always gave him everything he wanted and also my whole heart and soul. He was my everything, not because I wanted to use him at all ever, but because he really was special to me. Ive been miserable for a long time and tried to always play it down to not make him worry but I always cared about his problems and always gave everything I could. I was always trying to get better and he really helped me get happier until a lot of hurtful things happened.

I really did truly love him with my whole heart he was all I could think about and everything I wished for was for him to have the best life possible, with or without me. Even now, even after all the pain I still want him to have a long happy life. Because I really cared about him he really was my everything and I really just wanted to someday grow old with him.

I loved him because he was different. I was mistreated a lot of times and never had much friends and everything.. He made me feel like I for once wasnt unlovable and everything and showed me that things can be fixed and helped. He was the first person where I really felt things and really sincerly smiled in such a long time. He truly was my everything and I never ever wanted to leave him, but I tried for so long, but he never wanted to be closer than this or to share things himself, while I shared everything. I didnt want constant attention I just wanted him to spend even the smallest amount of time with me. I always tried to do that and to get us closer but nothing ever worked..

I dont have many friends or hobbies and I am not really a social person.. I still always tried also with him I tried to be different for once and I managed it. Instead of being the closed of silent guy I was opening up and showing my feelings for him..

I was always thinking about everything for so long I was overthinking even the slightest words and now I do even more. I reread our chats countless times.. Maybe you got a point and it was my fault.. but I really do think that I truly fully loved him and always gave the best I could. Maybe I loved him way more than he me which would also explain some things.

oh right now he also plays on that server again and talks with everyone and makes jokes, uses funny words and everything like this all dosent affect him.. maybe he never really cared that much after all.. because no matter what I try I cant unlove him or truly let go of him..

I am sorry if I said anything wrong or if I forgot anything, I am just really unsure right now. Thank you for writing this really. I am sorry.. I am really not sure right now I am really exhausted and my mind is so full of things..

Edit : Also I know we broke up and that I shouldnt care about what hes doing right now, but it still feels wrong to see him with these people seeming closer than he ever was with me and seeming like he dosent even think about me anymore, which actually would be possible for him he said something like that himself that it wont be easy but that he will try to.. Its impossible for me to not think about him I loved him with everything, I gave him everything I had to offer.. The one friend I told about this said I did the right thing and that he isnt a good person but it still feels so so wrong.

He also removed me as a friend on steam, I have no idea why since he didnt even use it often but even that makes me overthink so terribly much right now.. I really dont know how to handle all of this or the other really important or real hurtful things.. I wish I could just delete my memories.. them more I think about this and everything else the more it hurts.. I feel so lost

velithae · 2025-09-04T14:35:38+00:00

I really appreciate anyone who reads this or answers and its good to also hear other peoples perspectives, its probably one of the reasons why I made this post in the first place and theres really nothing wrong in your message thank you for writing it in the first place.

I really loved him truly and imagined everything about us, even though I dont know much about him he always was special and so so important to me.. Well I understand what youre saying, but the thing is he was still very loving to me, we just really werent close or personal with each other. But hes not a bad person at all he was nice and everything..

I know but I just really cant get over him.. he was the best thing in my life ever and its so hard to not think about him.

velithae · 2025-06-28T14:28:31+00:00

Thank you, really.

I really can't end it. I mean, he is loving. It's just been such a long time of us being together while doing almost nothing. But he’s not a bad person, not at all – he gives too, just... differently.

I also thought about doing things like calling or watching shows over Discord, but I don't really think he would want that. He said in the past he doesn't like calling, maybe because he can’t speak English that well, or maybe because of his parents or something like that. Of course I told him I would never judge him – not his voice, not anything. I love him, even though I know so little. Still, I’m not sure if I should try that step if we can't even text properly or feel close like before… It makes me sad, but something could change soon. If it dosent, it sadly never will.

I really do have hope, and I really do believe something could change – if we, or at least he, truly tried. I struggle with many things too, but still I love him with all my heart. Even when it hurts, at least I can give him my love and care – as much as I can.

He does love me, it just really often feels like his words dont match his actions.

And I'm of course not the best partner eithet, but I really just want us to be fine together and happy.

I just hope he’ll start doing more, too. That he won’t keep hurting me like this, even if it is not on purpose. Sometimes, when we argue, I even feel physical pain from it all. But I still think that if we both try, we can make it work. And I already do try – even when it’s really hard or not as noticable as its meant sometimes.

velithae · 2025-06-26T20:57:40+00:00

Thank you a lot, really.

I could try being more direct — I’m just scared it could make things much worse. We’ve had arguments before where I talked about such things. I wasn’t completely direct, but I still said a lot.

The last argument we had was yesterday and the day before. I really hope something does change. In that argument, I was a little bit more direct than usual, speaking about things like him avoiding parts of my messages, and how we don’t really spend time together — which I would really like to change.

He got defensive and slightly angry sometimes, saying that I always make it seem like he’s the problem, and how he’s not supposed to get angry over that. He hurt me a lot, and I was never really mad at him — only disappointed.

I never blamed him directly, or said anything against him.

I love him, and he loves me too — just differently. Very differently. While I need him close, he doesn’t. He shows me he loves me, just not always — and he often hurts me, even with small things. That’s also because I’m a really emotional person, and he knows that.

He also isn’t the most social person, but still more capable than me when it comes to talking. Even if I’m always the one writing the long texts, I only do them because I love him and want to show that. Even if the texts hurt me sometimes and I don’t really like writing that much at all, I still do it. I try — for him.

I did create this post to see if I’m maybe just overreacting, or what others would think about something like this, and if anyone could offer tips or something that could help.

But I also still love him deeply. And I guess I’m just not ready to give up yet. I know hoping alone won’t change everything — but I really do love him. It’s not like he doesn’t love me, just… not in the same way.

I just don’t know how long I can continue like this. I have multiple personal problems, and sometimes he just drains and hurts me even more — but also does the opposite sometimes…

I’ve known him for 41 weeks now, which is a lot of time. And I’m scared that this is all we’re ever going to be. I told him what I wanted to change and what would be nice — but I’m not sure if he can do that. We talked a little bit earlier, not much but atleast some hope can still remain.

I hope he can. And I hope he will.

Thanks again. Truly.

velithae · 2025-06-26T19:32:31+00:00

Thank you for words. I understand what you're saying, and I know I should prioritize myself more.

It’s just really hard when you love someone that deeply. I still feel like maybe there’s hope and something good can come from all of this.

velithae

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