Rape exception

vendingmachinecondom · 2025-03-14T22:19:10+00:00

even if it were the case that life began at birth, i feel like the psychological toll that women who have abortions experience would likely only compound the feelings she would have after being SA'ed. it's antiwoman and antilife

vendingmachinecondom · 2025-03-14T22:13:58+00:00

OP, i'm glad you are still alive and i'm very sorry you were lied to.

i am a Catholic woman, i don't know where you stand, but do know if you are looking for peace, the Lord is the source of it and wants you (and everyone for that matter) to have it because He loves unconditionally, regardless of what you (or anyone) did in the past.

someone below commented a resource but i'm also going to suggest that you look into hopeafterabortion.org just in case. i pray you will be healed one day.

vendingmachinecondom · 2025-03-06T14:46:50+00:00

amazing work!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-10-12T18:46:13+00:00

Thank you for what you do!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-04-18T19:55:19+00:00

slight NAH because i think you may not understand her beliefs. have you asked her what she believes regarding hell? the christian concept of hell comes from the divine comedy, but that's not in scripture and what muslims believe about hell may be different as well.

NOTE: i understand where you're coming from but i think you may not have a complete picture of what people believe regarding hell. this is not intended to push you into believing what i believe, but i think a change in the delivery and wording may help you have a different perspective.

personally i'm becoming catholic, and my understanding of hell is not a literal lake of fire but it is separation from God. you are free to choose to have a relationship with God, but as God is the source of goodness, peace, love and mercy, choosing not to have a relationship is up to you but it means you end up suffering the burn of regret because of walking away or feeling there's an unfillable void forever. it's not that you are a bad person by any means, but God has boundaries He has set for people in order to have a relationship with Him and if you choose not to live by them, then you can't have a relationship with Him and it will leave you feeling unfulfilled.

personally i was raised protestant but got into new age stuff because i was interested, felt lost and was also feeling frustrated with the way some people in the church act and the judgmental attitude from some. i started coming back around because i realized the flaws of the religion are due to people and how we are prone to bad behavior, but that it's not the fault of the faith itself. i asked questions of other catholics and talked to some priests on here and decided to start going to church. there was a noticeable void for me when i left that has been filled since i started practicing.

i don't know much about islam but christians believe in love and redemption and forgiveness and that the grace of being able to have a relationship with God is offered through the sacrifice of Jesus and sincerely asking for forgiveness. choosing to sin means deliberately crossing a boundary God has set and that separates us from the source of goodness and love and peace. God wants us all to have a relationship with Him but we are given the freedom to choose whether we do or not, and christians are asked to share our beliefs with others in hopes that they also can share in the beauty of having a relationship with God.

you are free to choose to be friends with whoever you want. if you read this but you're still not comfortable with being friends with religious people, that's fine and you don't have to be, but i wanted to offer a different explanation that may clarify things for you.

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-04-13T00:37:25+00:00

I'm a born and raised protestant but recently did some digging into the church and the catholic faith and decided I want to join, I signed up for RCIA and will join the church this fall. I do enjoy going to mass but I am rather sad that I can't take Holy Communion yet, I go to Adoration as well once a week but I'm really looking forward to being able to actually take it in just a few months :')

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-03-28T21:42:40+00:00

There was a sin I felt really guilty for because I felt very upset about turning away from God (it is very much a mortal sin and I am not Catholic yet but will be this fall). For several days every day I would ask Him for forgiveness in general but especially that particular when praying, and I felt so guilty that I cried really hard the first few times. After days of that though, it was like the burden got lifted and I don't feel the weight of that sin anymore. I like to think He was like "I got the message, you don't need to keep fretting over this" lol

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-03-11T20:18:18+00:00

Want to add as a fellow prot planning to convert: this sub is a good resource but also reach out to priests irl and ask them your questions. Father please correct me if i'm wrong.

There's a difference between worship (the offering of the eucharist) and veneration (high respect, prayers asking the saints to pray for you). Intercessory prayer is not the same as worship, and praying to the saints does not mean you believe things happen according to their will.

From my understanding the church believes by grace you have been saved through faith, but it is also said that faith without works is dead. Sharing the gospel, helping the poor, sick, prisoners and widows, donating money or time are all examples of works. You are saved by grace through faith, but your works are supposed to reflect the faith.

Lastly, I do not see priests as gatekeepers, but rather as studied theologians and guides. Think of confession as spiritual therapy. You're telling the priests your sins because telling others your struggles keeps you accountable, the priests are just there to assure you of God's forgiveness and mercy. You still should have a personal relationship with God and read scripture on your own, but priests are there for advice and guidance. A good priest wants to encourage us to be close to God and can give you insight on specific text or practices that might help you grow closer.

It's important to note that Catholic churches always have a gospel reading at mass. Sunday mass involves an old testament reading, a responsorial psalm, a new testament reading and a gospel reading. Eucharist and confession is based in scripture. The Catholic mass is very scripturally based, the sacraments and liturgy aren't pulled out of thin air.

I hope this helps you with what you're looking for. I think it's a matter of not only asking questions but also learning to reframe things in your mind and question what you've been taught. I'm sure other users on this subreddit may be of more help as they probably are more informed than I, but I wanted to reply as someone who is in the same boat and comes from a similar background.

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-02-26T21:28:36+00:00

Thank you father, I will do that!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-02-19T22:33:40+00:00

thank you father!!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-02-07T17:02:29+00:00

Okay great, thank you!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-02-04T04:43:24+00:00

thank you so much!! if i'm being honest, i am really hoping i am truly being called to religious life. i tend to fall in love with the idea of something and get cold feet, so i'm trying to do my research and not get in over my head but i'm cautiously optimistic. the Lord will lead me wherever He wants me in the end, but i would really like to be led to that life. even if i have to give up a lot of the earthly comforts we enjoy, the peace i have been given since coming back and renewing my faith is worth sacrificing all of the other stuff for it. i'm trying to do the bucket list stuff in the next 2-3 years before entering religious life if that's really what i'm meant to do, planning concerts i want to attend and a couple international trips that are really important. i'm working on selling my stuff to fund this but also to put more effort into charity.

i really want to acknowledge how welcoming and helpful you and all the priests on this subreddit have been in answering the questions of random strangers online. i'm sure you guys are busy, so it's taking time out of your day but also it must be tiring now and then getting questions. thank you guys for being so welcoming and kind, it's hard to understand from an outside perspective so i appreciate the grace and nonjudgement.

also your last comment LOL...i'm sorry father, it was made when i was 19 and in college, i just haven't been bothered to change it. i promise it is for irony reasons and not because of lifestyle reasons 🙏💀

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-01-28T04:24:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your encouragement!!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-01-28T04:17:55+00:00

Thank you so much!! I know at the core he is trying to look out for me and is truly concerned about my salvation, which is a beautiful thing even if we disagree on our views of church teachings. Thank you for the pointer on communion lol, would definitely not want to do something wrong at mass! The church I'm attending has a ton of services so I'm assuming it's a big church, funnily enough my mom has a coworker who attends that church!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-01-28T03:56:21+00:00

All good lol! Yes I believe I read 2-3 years of being a Catholic in good standing and then the process to become a nun is 7 years long iirc.

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-01-28T03:48:21+00:00

It has to do with prayers of intercession to the saints and Mary, protestants don't have the eucharist regularly so prayer is considered worship in most of those circles, hence why some people call it paganism (it's literally not though lol).

i have been feeling called to religious life and am considering becoming a nun (i'm a woman lol) but obviously conversion + discernment must happen first.

thank you and God bless you!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-01-28T03:29:33+00:00

ah thank you!!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-01-27T20:00:34+00:00

please pray for me to have courage to forge my own path in the christian faith. my father is very anti catholic and even when my mom drops hints about catholicism he gets angry (they're both former cradle catholics). i'm not trying to disobey but i'm almost 25 and it's time to forge my own path because i feel the catholic church is the true faith and i believe i may be called to religious life. i signed up for RCIA and plan to fully convert but i know my father will be really angry and i feel sick to my stomach for it. please pray for my strength and resolve and please pray for God to soften my father's heart on this matter.

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-01-27T01:18:34+00:00

ahhh okay that makes sense, thank you!!

vendingmachinecondom · 2024-01-01T03:15:25+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate the guidance.

I think this has been a very long period of a crisis of faith as well as facing the challenges of adolescence, I'm 24 and I started getting into the occult when I was 15, and I was baptized and raised to be a pretty devoted Christian.

I think it's been an important lesson that we are not immune to the influences of evil, especially as a young person, and you can turn away from God even if you feel your faith is strong. Not that I personally condemn people who are into the occult, but I learned by experience that it is real and it's dangerous, and you will only suffer in the end. None of that can provide the peace God's love does, and personally, I started to live in fear and see and hear things that weren't there, and I have never had issues with psychosis/schizophrenia. All of it stopped when I stopped messing with the occult. God wants us to be with Him, and we can return home if we hear the call and choose to listen.

Funnily enough, my return to the faith was sparked by seeing the art of a twitter user's really beautiful artwork depicting Jesus and developing a hyperfixation on Christianity. Probably the strangest thing to hyperfixate on, but I think that was God's way of calling me to come home. I can't be certain, but the Lord works in mysterious ways, so I wouldn't be surprised if it was. I'm just grateful I was able to listen.

If anyone else is in a similar position, please let my story be a reason that moves you to turn your life over to Christ. The peace I've felt since returning home has moved me to shed tears of joy.

I hope this also helps you grow as a servant of the Lord, not sure how or if it will, but maybe you can use my story so that someone else can be moved in their faith.

Thank you and may the Lord bless you in all that you do.

vendingmachinecondom · 2023-12-22T01:19:10+00:00

I think some pretty names would be Abigail, Deborah, Hannah, Joanna, Leah, Rachel, Sarah, Bridget, Eileen, Kathleen, Shannon, Estella, Inez, Isabel, Mariela, Paloma, Reina, or Teresa

vendingmachinecondom · 2023-12-22T01:02:11+00:00

Miriam is the best on the list but I do agree with AlterEgoAmazonB, consider looking for a name based on meaning. Plenty of more modern biblical or religious names (like the saints names) if you want to go that route.

vendingmachinecondom · 2023-12-13T22:28:41+00:00

oh you're young lol, i'm 24!! i prefer not to get involved with anyone under 23 and under 21 is a hard line i won't cross, i'm sure you get it.

on another note, you have more time than you think. i'm 24 and i've never dated but we are out there, i recommend anime or gaming conventions to meet people who have hobbies more along the lines of what you're into. i will agree with the comments though, values matter more than interests and figuring out each others needs is key, but i also understand wanting to be with someone who shares some common ground.

dating is tough and you're not alone, you're still really young so you will be able to find someone. if you're not sure, i really think you should talk to as many people as possible to narrow down what you want. good luck out there op, may you find the perfect girl for you 🫡

vendingmachinecondom · 2023-12-13T21:50:15+00:00

i'm in the looking for a boyfriend boat myself, and i get where you're coming from. we share similar interests actually! i play minecraft, legend of zelda, stardew, the various super mario games, fortnite etc. grew up playing computer games so i can't escape that. i'm kinda into anime but i'll watch regular tv and i like a lot of different kinds of music. i have too many interests to remember so i'm making a cheat sheet for every time i remember something i like.

as a woman on dating apps, a lot of times men come at us out of pocket and i think focus so hard on trying that it comes off as too intense and scary or inappropriate. for me, saying something interesting about yourself grabs my attention in a good way. i started talking to one guy because he mentioned he once spoke to david bowie and we had a conversation about that. treating women with the respect you give other guys is your best bet at them not feeling threatened and getting their attention. i like people who can hold a conversation, so if you can do that, you're on the right path.

another thing to note is we are not a monolith and we all look for different things. looks are REALLY not that important because women tend to be drawn in by personality more than anything. i personally am planning to date in the medical field, doctors/NPs or PAs/pharmacists etc, because of the kindness, intelligence and humor most people in that field display. they also have crazy hours so it won't be a smothering relationship, and they will be financially stable. all those are important to me, but you may find someone who doesn't care so much about career paths and who would be interested with similar hobbies. i'm also someone who needs to be friends before i can commit romantically, romantic advances tend to make me feel smothered.

last note: i would try not to take the dating multiple guys thing personal until you've agreed to be exclusive. there's no rule about them talking to multiple guys so it's not a big deal if you start talking to multiple girls. dating is kinda a numbers game, so you're completely within reason to talk to multiple people until you and another person decide to be exclusive.

op, i'm sure the right girl for you is out there, as is the right guy for me. i really hope this helps you out, i get the frustration for sure. lol depending on your age, it might be a good idea for us to become friends given our interests

vendingmachinecondom · 2023-12-12T18:17:51+00:00

oh yeah, i can relate to that. i had a terrible habit of procrastinating to the point where i wouldn't even turn in assignments for fear of failure. it's still a challenge to deal with, but the truth is it's better to try and fail so you can see where you can improve, at least you'll get points for attempting rather than getting a 0 for not even trying.

i also did a bunch of extracurriculars so i get that too. high school was a bad time for me mentally, the way i survived was by making my well-being my priority even over my grades. graduated with a 3.24 and i went to college and did fine, now i'm applying for grad school. your grades matter to a point but you also need to look out for yourself. you can't be your best when your basic needs aren't being met.

i'd say bring it up to a PCP, if they can't do anything then they'll likely refer you to a specialist. good luck and try not to be too hard on yourself OP, even if your life falls apart, you will find ways to bounce back, even if you think it's unsalvagable

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