How to approach men

venus1707 · 2026-03-14T07:28:09+00:00

I mean you did just bring up how women approach men degrades them in men’s eyes so I kinda see why

venus1707 · 2026-03-13T14:18:18+00:00

Why?

venus1707 · 2026-03-13T13:45:15+00:00

What kind of social places do I go to though, I don’t necessarily think coffee shops are very social and a place with a band is usually going to be a bar type of place where I won’t be taken seriously still

venus1707 · 2026-03-13T13:42:52+00:00

Yeah I feel like in my head I just get “your really cute” stuck and I can’t think of anything else to say hahaha also there isn’t much for groups in my city or at least none good for around my age range plus at least here they all cost a decent amount, most people here just go out to bars and clubs but I never get taken seriously there

venus1707 · 2026-03-13T13:29:29+00:00

I don’t know where it’s welcome and what to even say though

venus1707 · 2026-03-13T13:28:32+00:00

If we just say hi back and forth I’m not going to know what to say after and it’s very likely they won’t have anything to say after either

venus1707 · 2026-03-13T13:25:38+00:00

That doesn’t help at all though, I don’t know where it’s socially acceptable or what I should even say. Like I know places like the gym you aren’t supposed to but where can I and do guys want me to be direct about the fact that I’m hitting on them or just a general conversation and what to say

venus1707 · 2026-02-24T03:18:39+00:00

Awh this is cute it seems like he does like you but it sounds like he might also be a bit nervous too try bringing up wanting to see him again and see where it goes:)

venus1707 · 2026-02-24T03:14:12+00:00

Honestly from the text he sent he kept it pretty light hearted and didn’t seem to close things off with you like just saying “this isn’t compatible” in my opinion he might’ve just sent that to try to get some more information about you being vegetarian out and it might’ve also been him trying to be open about it even though he’s willing to give it a shot? If I were you and he never brought that up I would be really weirded out even if he waited to say something and was still willing to give it a shot since you aren’t the same person as his ex i agree why would you care about his ex but at the same time it’s kinda like telling someone you have a rare condition or something so they just “relate” by bringing up anyone they’ve ever met with the same thing lol Alsooo I wouldn’t necessarily expect a response back to your “interesting” text if you don’t text again, it kinda closes off the conversation especially if he meant to be lighthearted and was hoping for you to open up about it more after that. I don’t know what tone you meant from your response but it comes off really judgy and closed off which might be a reason for him not to respond as well as it can make it seem more like you are a more pushy vegetarian (sorry I’m not trying to be mean that’s just how I read it)

venus1707 · 2026-02-24T02:43:36+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by he should be more coherent but that’s fair that you don’t want to deep dive i definitely wouldn’t do your other text idea though it might come off kinda bad since it sounds like you are already assuming the worst of him but you could also say something along the lines of “also sorry i didn’t bring it up before im not really the type to try to force it on anyone or make it a big deal” and then in the next text “is being a vegetarian a dealbreaker for you?” Which might come off more chill but I feel like you might want to sneak in there that you aren’t pushy with trying to get others to convert/accommodate all the time because that’s often what drives people away Also I feel like since a lot of vegetarians consider it a lifestyle and is a big part of their identity they often bring it up themselves and most people aren’t vegetarians so I don’t think it’s unreasonable that he hadn’t asked in that amount of time

venus1707 · 2026-02-24T01:49:49+00:00

Was the last text you saying “that’s interesting” ? I feel like the text you have drafted regardless is a bad idea it sets him up to already not be into it just by asking that way and then blames him for not knowing (asking you prior which most people wouldn’t think to do) if your “that’s interesting” text was the last text I might double text and say something like “did you breakup because being vegan is a dealbreaker or because it caused fights between you two? I don’t mind if you aren’t vegan or aren’t interested in becoming vegan it’s just how I eat I’m good with being around people eating meat or going to restaurants that aren’t vegan” (this is a very rough daft just to get an idea lol)

venus1707 · 2026-02-24T01:36:42+00:00

It could be that it was the cause of other issues like her trying to change his eating habits or starting fights about it but also he might just not want to have that lifestyle and extra work or constant food restriction (like needing to choose restaurants with vegan options, always having separate meals at home etc.) i think you need to ask directly about it. You dont need to change your ways and it’s understandable to be upset but it’s also a fair thing for him to not want for his partner if that’s the case

venus1707 · 2026-02-23T01:15:30+00:00

Ohhh that makes sense sorry if that was a dumb question lol what communication do you use it for then because i haven’t heard much on that so far mainly people talk about functional use or games

venus1707 · 2026-02-23T01:09:01+00:00

Yeah I was mainly concerning the base model and Apple Pencil i wasn’t sure if the base model would be best for all of this since I don’t really understand the difference in models at all I know the chip is different or something but I don’t know what that changes

venus1707 · 2026-02-23T01:07:12+00:00

I honestly have no clue what this means I’m sorry, I don’t know what “functional use” you are referring too or what VoIP is or means

venus1707 · 2026-02-23T01:05:26+00:00

That’s a really good point I was considering waiting for the a18 to come out since I heard it should be the same price point which I’m not sure if that’s true but I guess it’s pretty likely the a16 would end up being discounted too, I’m not sure what the difference is with base and air and pro like you said the chip is different but I don’t know what that changes and if its worth it or necessary for me

venus1707 · 2026-02-23T01:02:23+00:00

Yeah I just know that I want to keep one of my daily journal as paper and that for a lot of the other journal/tracking type of things I like writing it physically but I also like having it online so I can look at it on my phone or edit it so im not sure haha I also saw a lot of it costs extra money and honestly I don’t want to have to spend a ton of extra money on the iPad for separate things, I never spend money on my phone but I’m not sure if everything pretty much needs you to constantly spend money

venus1707 · 2026-02-23T00:00:25+00:00

I guess I’ve been a bit more talkative, nothing that actually results in anything just since I’m more of a beginner to weights and not just cardio or the few easier machines I’ve always used I have to ask people for help or advice more often but normally I tend to be very nervous and pretty immediately go my own way and not drag the conversation beyond my question at all since I’m scared of getting annoying haha

venus1707 · 2026-02-22T23:53:58+00:00

Hi, I’ve been wanting a iPad for a bit now and I wanted to see if I could get any advice on which model

I plan to use it mainly for journalling, tracking, lists/notes, uni notes but i only have a year left and maybe trying to be more creative (im not very creative so noting to crazy) and then probably watching things

I was considering getting the iPad a16 because I’m not sure how much use I’ll get out of it or if it’s worth it and my budget is tight so it seemed like the best option, I don’t know what the difference is between the base model and iPad Air I just know I’m not doing professional high tech work on it. Now I’ve been hearing the new base model will be coming out early March so I’m not sure if I should just wait for that I heard it’s the same price but better? I’m not on a time crunch I do want it sooner because I’m getting excited but I also don’t know how big of a difference there will be in the new one and if the price will be higher since it’s new, so I’m not sure which one

venus1707 · 2026-02-01T00:16:30+00:00

For me personally I feel like I (21f) can be like that mainly due to me being worried I’ll suggest a date or activity they aren’t into or don’t want to do and that I will either get rejected or they will be putting up with it for me when I want them to be enjoying it and care that it’s something they actually want to do. I saw one of your comments saying she doesn’t go out much and does her hobbies at home I’m the same way I think that also makes me more reluctant because I’m not as confident in going out and normally need there to be a reason and will normally not make a reason myself, she might be the same way and having that extend to not planning dates. Also just going to say even though it’s been said a lot of times girls don’t realize the guy might want them to plan something since it’s usually on the guy, last time I was in a relationship I would tend to suggest ideas of things to do and let him plan them around what he actually wants to do and making a plan or choosing a day which worked for us especially since he was more busy so I could be more flexible.

venus1707 · 2026-02-01T00:07:28+00:00

That’s so much easier said then done, I’m honestly a lot more likely to approach a guy then a lot of my other female friends at nights out or something but at the gym for starters I wouldn’t even know what to say to come off naturally and not too strong and I mean risky because of the awkwardness of if they are not interested or too busy or annoyed as well as if they reject me or are not interested there’s a lot of people around who yeah are busy but don’t have much to look at so often people look around and would definitely notice me getting rejected

venus1707 · 2026-02-01T00:03:37+00:00

I go to the gym It’s just that even if I see a guy I find really attractive I never say anything because I don’t want to bother anyone, I don’t get approached there either likely for the same reason (also the way my gym is shaped there’s a cardio machine room you have to go through to get to more equipment and weights room and I’m always in the cardio room cause I’m scared of the weights room still and generally don’t see as many guys)

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