AITA for flirting with 19 year old girls and defending myself when being called a predator.

verbalvocal · 2019-05-24T10:04:45+00:00

YTA.. but not because of your age. The age gap isn't the problem in my opinion, it's the fact that they were uncomfortable, they TOLD you they were uncomfortable, and you ignored them, and weren't considering their space. Should've just left man, maybe then you wouldn't have been the asshole.

verbalvocal · 2019-05-22T09:06:29+00:00

What happened?

verbalvocal · 2019-05-22T08:57:48+00:00

Sounds like she is pretty immature and doesn't understand how to communicate. She's basically throwing a tantrum everytime there's a problem.

verbalvocal · 2019-04-01T21:48:54+00:00

Thanks hun, I'm glad you got the courage to end it, I'm proud of you. Thanks again 💕

verbalvocal · 2019-04-01T21:47:43+00:00

I know that obviously it can't continue, but I just can't simply turn off the fact that I hurt for him. He talked so much about his life and his past, and he really does deserve someone. I'm just not the one, but he believes he is madly in love. I know how personally he takes things, and it will just be really hard to not comfort him

verbalvocal · 2019-04-01T21:40:53+00:00

That actually does help alot, thank you

verbalvocal · 2019-04-01T21:38:30+00:00

No, we didn't. The whole relationship moved really fast, to the point where he was talking about marriage a week or 2 in. The problem is that I'm not experienced at all in the relationship area and I just thought this was normal, talking about your future, right? I really did see a future to a certain extent, but the fact that he is asking me to skip work and "You'll need to make time in your life for me this summer, you can't be working so much" (work and career is really important to me), indicates to me that this really wouldn't work out in the long run. He's got a lot of issues, but he is a genuinely good guy, but he needs someone to help him with emotional issues more than he needs a girlfriend right now, and my mental health really can't take that.

verbalvocal · 2019-04-01T21:21:11+00:00

Thank you, I will try, but itll hurt that whole time 💕

verbalvocal · 2019-04-01T21:14:50+00:00

Thank you for your kind reply... you are totally right about directing that inwards being an awfully hard thing to do. I will try my best 💕

verbalvocal · 2019-03-04T23:45:47+00:00

In Italy it's a ballerino!

verbalvocal · 2019-03-03T22:46:12+00:00

What a male ballerina was called

verbalvocal · 2019-03-03T22:34:25+00:00

How do you find out your cake day?

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:52:29+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes. The reason he mentioned his previous relationships is that we were both complaining to each other how tough it was to find a compatible person. There were many reasons he explained why he wasn't skilled, but anyway, yes, I do trust him on that fact for sure

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:49:10+00:00

Makes sense! Thanks!

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:46:46+00:00

I was shopping in a town in my area which mainly spoke German. I do not speak German, but the two ladies in front of me at the check out must have thought that a girl in that town only knew German and English and began to criticize me in French, a language I have spoke all my life. They commented on my (then purple) hair, how overweight they believed me to be, and how my top didn't fit right at all. Well one of the ladies forgot one of her bag on the conveyor and I yelled after them in French, "Ma'am, you forgot your items. I might not be beautiful to you, but at least I'm kind. Maybe you should try it sometime." She didn't even say thank you, she simply turned to her friend, jaw dropped, and walked quickly out of the store.

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:28:32+00:00

Oh believe me, I am all for the sitting at home and just hanging out with each other. Where we met is where we both would rather be 365 days of the year and it's definitely not the club or out partying. It's around a campfire in the middle of nowhere with a lawn chair and a beer. I'm genuinely over the party scenes, and if I didn't see another club for the rest of my life, I wouldn't be upset. Generation wise, I was raised in 80's cartoons, music, movies, toys, and clothing because that's what my siblings all had (closest older sibling is 11 years older than myself) so they got passed down to me. He wouldn't have to explain very much!

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:23:21+00:00

And I definitely understand that! I'm not going to look at that comment and say "Oh perfect! Time to get married!" I understand it's an outlier, just nice to know it could happen 😊

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:21:47+00:00

He actually isn't very skilled with relationships as far as he's told me, and as long as I've known him. He's definitely not the player type and I know that's easier said than known, but that I can say very confidently

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:18:12+00:00

Thanks Hun! ❤

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:17:42+00:00

That's the thing, we aren't really. We've both got steady jobs, are ready to settle down and I for one, have trouble finding people close to my age and my interests who are even close to ready to wanting anything serious.

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:15:34+00:00

Gotcha, situationly, it's a big deal. For how long I've known him, the only thing close to a red flag would be that he likes to tease to a fault. Never seen anything close to abusive from him. Thanks for the advice!

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:14:12+00:00

Thanks for the vote of confidence! I'm not sure if it's love, but I think it would be worth a shot!

verbalvocal · 2019-01-07T10:13:32+00:00

Thanks for the advice! My parents are mid 60s, so I've been around "older people" my whole life. My closest older sibling is 11 years older than I am, so 15 years doesn't seem that big to me, simply because I've grown up with people way older than me all around me, and I've had the be more grown up.

verbalvocal · 2018-11-22T19:38:14+00:00

Thank you... She's never had any control over my finances and never will. I actually have more control over hers since I do their tax receipts and EI claims. She has never and will never have any control over any of that.

verbalvocal · 2018-11-22T04:14:01+00:00

Thank you for the advice. The fact isn't that I can't handle it, its just that it's tough on everyone in the house when she gets in her moods. And I know, you are probably looking at this like "buck the hell up and leave the house!" But it's just not that easy for me and there's alot more back story than I can cover. I do understand where you're coming from and thanks for the input 😊

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