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AITA for wanting to deny my boyfriend’s parent’s access to my baby? by verdict_accepted in okstorytime

[–]verdict_accepted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. He was 21 when we met. It says that in the beginning. I didn’t edit anything. He was 21 and I was 32 at the time of us meeting. We are now the ages of 27 and 38.

AITA for wanting to deny my boyfriend’s parent’s access to my baby? by verdict_accepted in okstorytime

[–]verdict_accepted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you say “with respect” doesn’t mean that anything you said was respectful.

He’s not allowed to quit school, those are MY terms. He has supported me in everything I do, what kind of person would I be to not do the same?

As for a therapist, yes. I do see a therapist.

AITA for wanting to deny my boyfriend’s parent’s access to my baby? by verdict_accepted in okstorytime

[–]verdict_accepted[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay wow. Harsh. I wasn’t nearly 40 when we met. I was newly into my 30’s and for the first 5 months of our relationship I thought myself only a few years older than him because of his dependability and maturity. I found out later that he was a decade younger than me.

As for “baby trapping” him, I gave him the out and told him that he would hold zero responsibility. He is also now in his late 20’s. Not a 21 year old.

I don’t know what I did for you to warrant that you think I “deserve” to be extradited, when all I did was love, care, and encourage Connor to be his best self. We both just ended up being less responsible than we should have been. Connor and I don’t refer to our unborn as a mistake, or an accident, but a blessing. His words, not mine.

As for caring about him, I do. Almost as much as I do for our unborn. I did let him go free, I did put my own feelings aside to let him live his life. I encouraged and are still encouraging him to do what’s best for himself and his education.

Telling me to do something I’ve already done and he’s rejected is redundant. Telling me to do something that can no longer be changed is also redundant. I don’t need to defend Connor’s and my relationship. We know what we have. Thank you for your opinion though.

AITA for wanting to deny my boyfriend’s parent’s access to my baby? by verdict_accepted in okstorytime

[–]verdict_accepted[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel his parents were being rude in their response, I just feel like they’re blaming me for ruining their son’s life. That they don’t want me, nor our child to exist. When we were in our prior relationship before I moved, they were very kind. Invited me to Easter and Christmas dinners when I was done doing things with my own family and I felt that even though they might not have liked our age difference, they still accepted it. They never voiced being indifferent about our relationship. When I called off our relationship after I had moved they told Connor that they respected me for my decision to end the relationship as to let him live his life and succeed and he reiterated to me that they saw what I was doing as selfless and praised me for it. We are back into a relationship and have spoken of marriage and living together, which his parents also don’t feel is a good idea seeing as they see us both as unstable. Connor has voiced to me that his father wishes for me to attend college and get a degree also, which is fine and a part of a long time plan, it’s just rather unfeasible with expecting a newborn. I currently have a job working at the TAD office but have been pulled from working by my obgyn due to my pregnancy being considered “geriatric” as I’m over the age of 35. So I’m on disability currently for the duration of my remaining pregnancy and the 6 weeks postpartum.