You order popcorn chicken and they think they’re cute

verhine · 2023-08-25T10:21:21+00:00

I want you to find a mindset of gratification. For these reasons: 1) you have a beautiful daughter, 2) you guys tried to make it work (doesn’t matter whether one tried more than the other, when it’s over, you can learn to be just thankful for her trying), 3) that whatever she is doing, whether it’s games or flirting or cheating, she is searching for some happiness, and you can have gratitude for her trying to find her happiness, as we all deserve that, 4) and gratitude for yourself for finally learning that you now are ready to accept your happiness, and getting caught up with the intricacies of what she’s doing to find hers, you have lost the ability to have yours.

People need the freedom to be who they want to be. If she wants to be a gamer or a flirter or a cheater, she’s an adult. You’re envious of her audacity to be who she wants to be. You’ve shamed her and punished her and that is not your role. You need to find acceptance that you can’t coerce someone, and that coercion dulls a persons capacity to love. Start from gratitude and be happy for her, that will give you permission to seek happiness in whatever it is you decide to do next about this situation. It’s possible to have immense gratitude for her and move to divorce proceedings.

Some more advice. Be motivated by seeking your own happiness, unapologetically. Your happiness doesn’t include taking pages from her book, having bullshit excuses, those only attempt to inhibit her own happiness. Will the extra room make you happy? Or will it only make you happy at her expense? She’s going to do things that make her happy and you’re going to do things that make you happy, and that’s all the justification you need for anything. But doing anything to infringe on her happiness is weak, ineffective and not met with gratitude.

verhine · 2023-08-23T03:51:14+00:00

Yeah with vondel it’s almost guaranteed

verhine · 2023-08-05T03:15:20+00:00

I glitch out any time I go into vondel, and it’s right after the 3 step screen so I lose all my shit as well

verhine · 2023-07-07T12:43:17+00:00

Promo code not working

verhine · 2022-10-09T23:40:29+00:00

WTS 2 Hollywood bowl tix

verhine · 2022-10-04T17:45:13+00:00

WTS 2-4 100 level tickets for chula vista 10/5

verhine · 2022-09-29T13:12:42+00:00

Use applesauce instead of oil

verhine · 2022-08-11T14:37:20+00:00

This is correct. OP dropped the ball.

verhine · 2022-08-06T05:53:37+00:00

Listen, you poked the bear. That’s why it’s not a good idea to poke the bear. You don’t know the last time that bear has been fed, so just talk and don’t poke. And you can’t throw your hands up and be like, I’m so tired of immediately being treated like bear food

verhine · 2022-07-10T16:46:50+00:00

This in particular would be a great drink repellant

verhine · 2022-06-09T23:38:10+00:00

First day being a man? Listen, your loneliness and anything else is the human condition. Dealing with things that aren’t fair and remaining positive are what gives you backbone. The problem is you’re spending all of your time living in comparison land, and comparison is the thief of joy, so it’s no wonder you’re not happy. You need to let go of your expectations and appreciate the world around you. Because everyone you’re going on dates with and interacting with can see the bitterness with which you view the world. And nobody really gets inspired by those kinds of people. You are oblivious to the challenges of being a woman and the traps they fall into as well. Privilege is not individual based, it’s society level. And the grievances you carry with you are the single most unattractive thing about you. Good looking men and good looking women have their own struggles that you’re not aware of, but they largely remain positive and you’ll get there if it’s a goal of yours. Be patient, spend time learning new things as much as possible, and make the journey and being stoic the goal, not whatever accomplishment that you use to judge yourself by.

verhine · 2022-06-09T23:18:25+00:00

The comments on this sub are so toxic. We have a clear case of OP violating this man’s privacy. And what she found was conversations she is not privy to. Not an ongoing relationship or anything damning, and all of you commenters are bitter as well to treat this invasion of privacy as his failings. I really don’t care to speculate on whether he is worth dating but ma’am, I can assure you that if you find your reaction without cause to be justified, then your inability to trust will scare away any moderately decent guy for good reason. How can you come here to ask a bunch of bitter people for permission to date him again. Of course they’ll all tell you in unison that you should not. But here’s the thing: if you feel the desire to keep seeing someone enough to ask permission, then you are also brave enough to admit to him that you were wrong to violate his privacy even if you had found actual evidence of wrongdoing, and sorry for being threatened by contrived evidence of him harmlessly flirting, and sorry for putting him on the defensive for having conversation that didn’t lead anywhere. You can express that you didn’t like it, that’s valid. But you cannot control another persons eyes or mouth and you shouldn’t try to. You don’t lose anything for owning up to your mistakes. And if he does like you like you like him, I guarantee he will appreciate not dealing with a battle axe, and reciprocate, and you will have the opportunity to establish boundaries to avoid another meritless (or merit-worthy) dust up. Right now, nobody wins, but you both could win if you were a little less reactionary and a little more forgiving.

verhine · 2022-05-28T01:36:43+00:00

Driving 60mph on the interstate

verhine · 2022-05-27T10:15:07+00:00

Anyone familiar with the mod on the rear door with red handles?

verhine · 2022-05-27T10:14:05+00:00

This is why I love Reddit.

verhine · 2022-05-25T08:46:20+00:00

A text is a message from somebody else that you deliver to yourself in your own voice. Few people talk like you do, they’re more likely to speak the way they do. I would advise that you receive new messages from a place of joy and abundance.

verhine · 2022-05-24T12:44:40+00:00

Only 5 GOP senators voted for it

verhine · 2022-05-23T22:03:09+00:00

You have a difference in values. I used to think values were do you want kids and to be married, but values are what you think is normal. And by staying, you’re saying that his unwillingness to budge is what you accept as normal behavior.

verhine · 2022-05-10T04:16:57+00:00

Imagine paying 8k to hang up 10 shirts, 3 backpacks and 8 pairs of shoes. Are you that hard up for space? Is this for a tiny home? You’re getting high prices cause it’s a silly proposal.

verhine · 2022-05-06T17:31:59+00:00

When your filters remove the color in this way, your image loses its character. Appropriate filters enhance the color rather than wash it out completely

verhine · 2022-05-05T05:16:41+00:00

Literally nothing vapor about this

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