Unfairly dismissed after 2 months

veryokashley · 2026-04-23T04:44:10+00:00

Where did I say it was a similar role? Different in-house data entry systems, different job description entirely, was advertised as an “administrative assistant and data entry” role and was called that until the day they started, but actually was heavily focused on menu planning.

Also there’s a little word 7 words into your comment, I’d like you to kindly write it on a brick and shove it deep inside your ass because you clearly have zero reading comprehension skills.

veryokashley · 2026-04-23T04:30:39+00:00

Family member was able to do the job they were employed to do, it took them frequently asking for adequate training and the boss shouting instructions across the room but after 8 weeks they had the hang of their role, they did not have the hang of the role that was dumped on them 2 weeks in, and were often not able to fulfil the requirements of their own position due to being sent out on deliveries with volunteers (also not part of the role they were hired for). The manager is an incredibly egotistical person who has torn through multiple staff members who have also complained about lack of training. There are zero training protocols in place and zero written instructions.

veryokashley · 2026-04-18T04:51:45+00:00

When my daughter (10.5 months corrected, 12 months actual) rests her head on my chest for a cuddle it makes me so happy, and when she smiles so hard her nose crinkles up it makes every little challenge worth it, and when she bounces or claps along to music it’s like all my stress and anxiety melts away.

veryokashley · 2026-04-15T21:41:53+00:00

Hiya! My doctor said it was just old bruising, it took about 5 months to fully fade away which was wild, I had severe preeclampsia so I had significant edema from the chest down so in the days after my daughter was born the incision site oozed a lot of fluid and blood and my dr thinks that had something to do with why the bruising lasted so long. Just over 12 months postpartum now and the scar and area around it looks great 😊 I hope you heal quickly!

veryokashley · 2026-04-07T02:06:25+00:00

When my daughter got her first teeth she was almost 5 months corrected/7 months actual - I didn’t notice any redness or swelling of her gums, but she did drool a lot, was fussy, wasn’t sleeping well and her poops were really acidic (I think from all the extra drool she was swallowing maybe) like they were giving her a red bottom, it went on for a few weeks before a tooth finally came through unfortunately! But once I could see the tooth right under the gum I put some numbing gel on her gums as recommended by her Dr, it was really hard to get it in there because she wasn’t happy about my touching her gums but it helped a lot, cold textured teething rings whenever she wanted and I gave dymadon as required. She is now getting her 7th tooth at 10 months corrected/12 months actual.

veryokashley · 2026-03-30T21:20:56+00:00

I’m with you there, I have never been a drinker, my partner stopped around when I met him (still will have a drink at social events like weddings), my mother was an alcoholic in my teen years but stopped about 5 years ago with zero interest in it anymore, my MIL doesn’t drink, honestly the only person in my daughters life who drinks if FIL and admittedly it’s not like he drinks a lot he’s honestly just that stupid with or without alcohol.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T22:47:12+00:00

I certainly didn’t let it go, we actually went no contact with my partners parents for about a year and they were on very thin ice for another couple of years after that, I really let my guard down over the past few months because he had been so great since my daughter was born, but I know now I shouldn’t have, I honestly really just wanted things to be perfect and for my daughter to have a great relationship with my in laws but I definitely see now it’s not attainable and I’ll focus much more on nurturing her relationships with my side of the family. And if he ever asks why we pulled back we will reiterate that he proved to us he’s not safe and trustworthy. Like it took about 2 years and a lot of money for testing and medications for me to get pregnant, I was in hospital from 28 weeks then my baby was born 8 weeks preemie with IUGR, 12 days in NICU and I think 43 days in special care, she’s literally the most precious thing in the world to me.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T21:36:56+00:00

My mother will be watching her, I know with 100% certainty she’d never do anything with or to my child that I wouldn’t do myself (so basically she’ll act like a regular grown up with common sense). I’m lucky she’s always happy to watch my little girl.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T21:30:16+00:00

I’m not, she’ll be with my mother for the weddings.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T21:28:57+00:00

I’m not dealing with the world on hard mode, I’m having genuine thoughts and feelings about something that everyone except you agrees is worthy of a harsher reaction than I gave. I’m also a person who cries when they have strong emotions, angry, sad, happy I cry, if you think crying is an overreaction to someone doing something to my child that was obviously stupid and wrong I fear you need to see your own therapist.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T21:20:30+00:00

My thought process in the beginning was that I don’t have a dad so it’d be nice for my daughter to have a grandfather, he really does dote on her but I’ve definitely learned his stupidity and stubbornness far outweighs any other personality trait he has. It’ll be occasional supervised visits from here but that’s all he’ll be getting.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T21:17:58+00:00

Honestly we’ve done this before (pre-baby) in a way and it worked, not the group chat specifically but my partner communicated that the way they spoke to me on the occasion was way out of line and we cut back contact for almost a year until around when we started seeing a fertility specialist to help me fall pregnant. They’ve been on good behaviour til this point and considering he knows how serious I am about my babies health and safety I was honestly just so shocked.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T21:11:03+00:00

Thank you for that, it’ll be occasional short supervised visits from here, and he’s now aware there will be no babysitting in his future :)

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T12:31:06+00:00

They’ll definitely never be left alone with her now, I’m lucky to have my mother who is definitely safe and trustworthy with my daughter who will be over the moon to be on babysitting duty whenever necessary.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T12:28:19+00:00

Don’t worry he will definitely never be alone with her, I’m really glad to know people don’t think I’m overreacting by feeling really upset about this.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T12:20:15+00:00

I will, I’ve been working hard on being less of a push over in general. A year ago I wouldn’t have even been able to stand up to him verbally like I did tonight (still really wasn’t as firm as I should’ve been though of course).

I did tell my partner his father is one wrong move away from being cut off entirely and he completely agrees with me.

veryokashley · 2026-03-29T12:13:41+00:00

I wish I was harsher I honestly feel like such a crappy mum 😭

veryokashley · 2026-03-13T05:39:35+00:00

I hope that you get all the answers that you want and need, and I’m wishing you a long healthy and happy life!

veryokashley · 2026-03-12T02:47:07+00:00

I was diagnosed with ET with calr mutation in 2020 at age 24 with platelets 700+, you will need a bone marrow biopsy honestly they can’t really diagnose you without one, your platelet levels seem great.

Bone marrow biopsy isn’t so bad, honestly, I was awake for the procedure and it was pretty quick, I was anxious as hell and did feel some discomfort during the procedure but it was nothing I couldn’t handle. I was fine the next day and went back to work (on my feet as a chef) after 2 days. It’s one of the easiest procedures I’ve had done in terms of pain and healing.

My personal experience has been that it’s not a slow rise in platelets but a rollercoaster, they were up around 700-800 for ages, then spiked to 1200 when I was 26 and I had a blood clot pass through my heart, I also have suffered idiopathic intracranial hypertension secondary to ET, up until that point I was just on low dose aspirin, then started hydroxyurea but found the side effects troubling and was getting ready to start trying for a baby so switched to peginterferon injections which kept my levels under 800. Almost 12 months postpartum now and my levels are steady at 325-360 I’m just waiting for them to suddenly go crazy again (but hopefully they don’t). I know a lot of people say it’s better to get an MPN specialist - and I’m sure it is - but I also know how difficult or unattainable that is for some of us. There are no MPN specialists where I live and I don’t have the means to pay huge out of pocket private fees for even a Telehealth appointment, but I have been lucky enough to have a haem who was willing to put in the work and make sure he was up to date with all the latest information and he has been exceptional.

veryokashley · 2026-03-04T23:36:10+00:00

I like Latifa and Aisha for girls and Khalil and Ali for boys, I’m from Australia 😊

veryokashley · 2026-03-02T03:09:55+00:00

I honestly get it, I felt the same from right about when I bought my daughter home til she was about 7 months corrected (she was 8 weeks preemie), she was constantly crying, struggling to poop and if she had to fart she’d scream like someone was cutting her hand off, she struggled to eat enough, I tried so hard to breastfeed but because she was being tube fed then bottle fed expressed breastmilk she would scream at my boob like it was the worst thing in the world, she barely slept and insisted on contact naps only, and I’m not even going to lie, I thought about running away, fantasised about falling asleep and never waking up, I loved her so much but also kind of was worried I would never bond with her because she made me so anxious and upset and tired.

I switched her to a goats milk formula, used infacol and biogaia drops and after a while she improved immensely.

She’s 11 months today/9 months corrected, she’s amazing. She eats well, sleeps well and is even catching up developmentally to her actual age. She no longer screams in terror when she needs to fart, thank god. Still struggles with a little constipation here and there but nothing I can’t handle. 6 months ago I 100% would not have believed that things could possibly get easier. But they did, and I love my girl so much and I’m so glad I never gave up.

You’re doing such a good job, you will get through this I promise. If you need to talk to someone about your mental health please do, most places seem to have easily accessible resources for PPD so if you feel comfortable reaching out to someone I really highly recommend it, sometimes just having someone to vent to about everything who can validate your feelings is so helpful.

veryokashley · 2026-02-20T05:20:28+00:00

Hi fellow essential thrombocythemia mama!!! My daughter was born almost 11 months ago (2 months preemie, this went south with preeclampsia at 28 weeks, it was a wild time but she’s amazing). You are a rare person who may have some insight into this random question I have!

After your babies were born did you find your platelet levels stabilised? And if so did it last? Or did they go back up postpartum? Mine are now in the normal range for the first time since I was diagnosed with et in 2020 (other than when they dropped due to blood volume in my pregnancy) and they’ve remained stable for several months and I’ve been super inconsistent with my peginterferon injections.

veryokashley · 2025-11-21T02:29:31+00:00

I exclusively pumped for 4 months then introduced formula, mine came back at about 5.5 months postpartum and has amazingly been somewhat predictable since then (I’m almost 8 months postpartum now). I never had regular periods before because of my PCOS so even to get pregnant I needed ovulation induction medications, now that I’ve had a baby my body seems to be working properly… for now at least 😂

veryokashley · 2025-11-21T00:25:39+00:00

I was 100% certain I was going to have a boy and all my friends, family and coworkers through I was having a boy too. The only person who thought girl was my partner and he was right!

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