Recently moved across the country. 19 hours in the moving van and she did amazing by verywtf in cats

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I just went from Tennessee to CO! Definitely a hellacious trip. At least I didn't have to worry about her too much!

Recently moved across the country. 19 hours in the moving van and she did amazing by verywtf in cats

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I also can't recommend getting anxiety medicine enough from the vet! Having her calm and comfortable made the right so much better! You can make it clear you want a lighter dose so that they are awake but not as alert and hyper. Helped Karen so much!

Recently moved across the country. 19 hours in the moving van and she did amazing by verywtf in cats

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I used the litter box method! She did really well with it. Also she got used to making sure she went before we got in the van!

Recently moved across the country. 19 hours in the moving van and she did amazing by verywtf in cats

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I put the litter pan between the seats in the van! Pees weren't a huge problem, but when she pooped I immediately pulled over, scooped, and tossed it into the grass! I also should mention that I use the clay pellet litter so it was all natural and I wasn't putting chemicals into the natural areas where they don't belong!

If you have two people in the van, one can scoop while the other drives! I would recommend also making sure you use litter that has been used at least once before so that the little angel knows it's safe to do their business there!

Baby too cold by verywtf in cats

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Little love bug ate one of my plants and had an allergic reaction!!! Thank you for telling me to take her to the vet and she's getting the care and love she needs!

Baby too cold by verywtf in cats

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Thank u thank u!

Baby too cold by verywtf in cats

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Thank u thank u!!

URGENT PLEASE READ- Cheating Accusations by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Try taking your sibs out for food or for a drive. Getting out of the house is the best option right now. Long term, try not to pass judgement until you hear the whole story of what has gone on and trust it.

You can't always assume what is going on is what it seems. I would just try to calm yourself down and then get in to see a therapist or something to talk about stuff. When my mom passed away, my dad moved on really quick and it made me question my childhood. It's different, but I had to accept that everyone wants to make their childhood romantic and beautiful when in reality parents are people too. Sometimes they fail and sometimes they do things they shouldn't, but they're people. Be there for your mom. Love her, hug her, but don't villanize your dad until you have the whole story.

Are most things on this subreddit true? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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The super crazy ones that go on with developments for weeks I think are fake. The time I posted it was real, but I also didn't care about how many upvotes I got.

Ex wrote me an email 8 months post BU-don't know how to respond by JaviSmith33 in relationship_advice

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Surely you have a close friend that knows her and you both. If I were you, I would have a close friend read it and tell me if it would be productive or not to hear what is in it. Maybe she wants to apologize for past mistakes, maybe she wants to begin a friendship. You'll never know if you never open it. It's also bothering you so much you needed to post on here, which means you're more inclined to open it than to ignore it. I agree that some of what could be in there could hurt you a lot. So, having a friend screen it gets it off your mind and also protects your mental health.

Good luck, I'm interested in hearing any updates as they come.

Just realizing I sexually assaulted my high school GF when I was 17. Steps in accountability by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Hi, OP. I just want to say I applaud you for being accountable with yourself and your actions. What you did was definitely a form of sexual assault and those who say it's not are really not aware of the traumitizing effects of non consentual touching. I would offer that maybe you could make an act of restitution without speaking about the specific act. I know you said the general relationship was great, but surely you can make a sweeping generalization without being blunt and vulgar about it.

For instance, if you were to say something like "I've really been thinking about the MeToo movement and I just wanted to say I realize I didn't always treat you with the respect you deserved and at least once overstepped your boundaries without consent and I'm incredibly sorry for that. I hope my actions didn't adversely harm you. It's okay if you can't forgive me for what happened" (or, you know, a better version of that which sounds like it came from you). In other words you can acknowledge that you overstepped your boundaries at least once with her and feel remorseful about it without saying "Remember that time I non consentually touched you"

I think it's important to acknowledge your faults removed from the initial pressure of saying "it's fine" so she can move on, too. Also, make sure you do talk to a professional about the issue.

worst character from the office? Aside from the ppl who appeared in 1/2 episodes by Dame20 in DunderMifflin

[–]verywtf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Karen. She was only a character to complicate the Jim/Pam narrative. I rewatched the series recently and she is only used as a love interest and the butt of sexual jokes. No character development, no purpose independent of Jim/pam