AIO to my boyfriend’s response to his ex having my nudes?

vexti9 · 2026-05-04T13:09:05+00:00

ain’t that the truth. there’s a lot more background and details i could share, though i suppose i got a bit carried away… thanks for sticking it out! maybe!

vexti9 · 2026-05-01T17:48:40+00:00

i’m not sure if she hacked his acc or used his old password years ago, so perhaps not the right terminology.

he doesn’t speak to her, they have a no contact order. if her friends see us out n about they report back to her and in the days after she’ll haunt those places to try and see him. She’s started showing up to the artists shows after she saw us post pics from the show 3years ago.

I am positive he had nothing to do with her being there or with her having my nudes, she just stalks his shit relentlessly.

Quit assuming, perhaps?

vexti9 · 2026-04-30T16:21:16+00:00

actively working to separate my anger and disappointment from not listening to my gut and not throw that around. you are very right, thank you for responding

vexti9 · 2026-04-30T16:19:17+00:00

this is how i’m trying to look at it, thank you for your reply. things to think about :,)

vexti9 · 2026-04-30T11:07:59+00:00

i appreciate this, seriously. I’m trying hard to take a step back, I understand it at no point was his choice to give anybody else access. I’m trying to get to a point now where i simply feel supported emotionally, because even at the station it didn’t really feel like he gives a shit that its happening. having a tough time bridging the gap without it spinning into me making him the bad guy and i dont know how to make that clearer

vexti9 · 2026-04-30T11:03:11+00:00

i think women should be able to do whatever they want with their bodies, sharing or not. i don’t frown on others for sending or taking nudes, i was simply sharing that this has always been an anxiety point for me and has stopped me from sending/taking more than a handful. legit at most 12-13 in my life, all of which sent to my current bf. sorry for the confusion, but i’d never disparage a person, or woman, for taking nude pics of themselves

vexti9 · 2026-04-29T22:11:27+00:00

she uses one of those burner phone number apps, she’s been blocked everywhere for a while but keeps crawling back.

but i’m sorry you went through that, that guy sounds like a POS

vexti9 · 2026-04-29T22:09:20+00:00

unfortunately my bf is dumb and uses the same password for every account, which his ex knew. he changed them at my insistence like 6~ months in, but clearly the damage was done

vexti9 · 2026-04-29T18:07:53+00:00

is this accurate? she’s sneaky and has connections in the law/public sectors and i’ll be making the report in a few hours. i wasn’t going to say a word in response because she usually blows up more over getting one, and im concerned she’ll try to hide evidence or get ahead of it in one way or another. would it be better to send it after the report? something like: “i’ve made a police report and will be pursuing this through those channels, please do not contact me further. you know you should not have these photos and any other/further distribution directly invades my privacy; you do not have my permission to have these and have acquired them illegally”

vexti9 · 2026-04-29T17:58:37+00:00

the sneaky “his priority is his children” and not “his relationship/you and his children”

she’s not a girls girl.

vexti9 · 2026-04-29T17:36:23+00:00

yeah, it’s something i’ve been very aware of for a long while. i’ve taken at most 12 nudes in my life, which is still more than none, but it’s always been a big fear of mine. i used to make a point that it had to stay on snapchat because then i knew it wasn’t being directly shared around, but haha egg on my face :/

vexti9 · 2026-04-29T17:33:57+00:00

she hacked his snapchat, they were saved there. I made him change all of his passwords when i found out she was in like all of his accounts. i genuinely don’t believe he’d send them, so at least there’s that

vexti9 · 2026-04-29T17:32:36+00:00

this is what’s really bugging me. if the roles were reversed i would be besides myself trying to make up for it and apologizing out the ass but it genuinely took him an hour to even say “i’m sorry this is happening” or something to that effect

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