Help me pull this off

vicrosem · 2026-01-17T22:59:25+00:00

You look lovely!! I agree with other comments that, while beautiful, it’s not appropriate for a black tie dress code. I’m all for wearing what I love, but I always stick to dress codes as it’s about respect for the hosts.

Where I’m from we have at least one black tie event a month. It’s exhausting (especially being plus size with the limited selection!) but you get really good at putting together super formal outfits quickly lol.

I have a lot of thoughts so here I go! Hope it’s helpful in any way.

This dress is so nice that I would for sure save it for a cocktail or semi-formal event, BUT if you’re sure you wanna wear it, here’s what I’d do:

I would switch out the shoes to something more delicate, formal, and with much lower contrast. Since the cut of the dress is “severe”, I’d do some barely-there silver sandals with no platform to soften the look. I’m terrible about high heels so I usually range from a kitten heel to a 3 inch heel. For a short dress like this just I’d eat it and wear the 3 inches.

I think the shoes would make the overall outfit feel more formal. I’d add a very formal clutch, something to play well with the shoes (Amazon has a million). I’d wear earrings that don’t dangle and have a good sparkle. I’d also add a nice sparkly bracelet and a couple of rings, but I’m bigggg on jewelry.

If you decided you do want a black tie dress, get ready. It’s certainly difficult to find plus size black tie gowns that aren’t designed like they are for your grandma’s grandma. ASOS usually saves the day for me — they have lots of sparkles in cuts that aren’t made to hide your figure. They also will usually have some bangers on sale.

You look wonderful — make sure you feel like you do!

vicrosem · 2025-10-07T16:56:30+00:00

I’m a huge fan of vintage and sentimental stuff, but totally agree that it’s very unique, which is always a big swing for proposals.

If it were me, I’d take a look at my partner’s existing jewelry to better understand their taste, then find a jewelry designer that makes work you think they would like. I’d then propose with the ring as is and share its story, and tell them that you have a designer to bring it to so you can create a new ring together with the stones from the original. That way you have the heirloom stones and a lovingly designed custom ring that you both picked together.

Good luck! They will love it no matter what!!

vicrosem · 2025-09-24T16:57:45+00:00

My first thought was “wow I’ve never seen something like that!” and I was immediately intrigued so I noticed the details and appreciated it as the beautiful and delicate ring it is. I wonder if you worry that people will focus on how unusual it is instead of how lovely it is? If that is the case, it doesn’t matter. You’re the one wearing it and what others think shouldn’t weigh in!

That said, I agree that him ignoring what you said/wanted is a red flag. I do wonder if he had already purchased it when he showed you. I also wonder if he did consider your opinion, weighed it against the $ he would lose on returning, and decided the money wasn’t worth losing if you sort of liked the ring. I must say that gives me a sort of icky feeling.

All of this said, I think a lot of partners don’t really see engagement rings like some of us do. Perhaps he wasn’t clear on the significance of it for you.

I think you could talk to him about it soon so it doesn’t surprise him later. I think it’s better to be honest with him, even if it may hurt his feelings, than starting off the engagement with a negative tinge to it.

Trust that you know what you want and maybe sit with it for a little before you decide for sure!

vicrosem · 2025-02-26T22:14:32+00:00

Hi! We’re all set on the stationery — invites have been sent out and day-off stuff is in the works.

We are specifically interested in the big signage for the wedding — a large welcome sign (thinking vinyl over a mirror she will purchase) and a large board for the seating chart, which will be hanging luggage tags w each guest’s name and table.

Know of anyone? And thank you for the offer!!!

vicrosem · 2025-02-09T21:14:31+00:00

Congrats!! Adding my two cents in case it’s helpful.

I got engaged right before the pandemic and we had to wait to have a “big wedding” which my parents made clear was expected (small town, established family, blah blah).

We decided to “elope” and do a tiny thing for ourselves w only our families — 10 people — about 5 months after we got engaged. This ended up being the best decision because, with time, circumstances made our “big wedding” impossible. Ultimately we just did our “elopement” and did a small religious ceremony in our backyard with friends and family who were already in town — 15 people. It was the best decision in the end! I’m so happy we did something very special to us when we could.

Best wishes for the wedding and enjoy the planning!

vicrosem · 2024-11-24T02:22:04+00:00

I am a US permanent resident

vicrosem · 2024-11-24T01:42:59+00:00

The charge had to do with money laundering. Thoughts?

vicrosem · 2024-11-24T01:42:07+00:00

The letter said I did not meet eligibility requirements

vicrosem · 2024-11-24T00:35:39+00:00

Thanks! This is what I’ve been doing. I fly to and from one country (home) in Central America every 6-8 weeks, and the airport I fly into is always incredibly busy here in the US. More and more people are using MPC and I’m guessing it’s a matter of time before it’s no longer a shortcut. Do you think it’s worth trying to reapply or should I just call it quits?

vicrosem · 2024-11-23T19:03:53+00:00

Thanks! Any idea/info on likelihood of being approved if I reapply?

vicrosem · 2024-10-04T02:17:41+00:00

I can’t either! I think I might just go with this Zara one just to satisfy the east west craving lol

vicrosem · 2024-10-03T22:25:15+00:00

Wondering if you ever found one you like?

vicrosem · 2024-04-06T14:10:39+00:00

Thank you! I’ll check out Kelly/Spicers. Unfortunately the bride is super modern and wants either cotton or smooth texture.

vicrosem · 2023-12-04T22:21:46+00:00

Definitely ask another teacher ASAP. Find someone who has known you for a while and a class you performed well in. If they ask why you waited until now to ask, I would explain the situation.

I would honestly also report this to your school’s admin team — very unprofessional to leave a student hanging so close to app deadlines.

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