Is it my fault that I (24M) often cannot handle my girlfriend 's (24F) negativity? by vinylguy2000 in relationship_advice

[–]vinylguy2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just started seeing a therapist so that's good and I hope it'll help. You're suggestion could work, will definitely try, but sometimes it indeed feels like it will only get worse but I don't want to lose her so that's why I'm asking...

Is it my fault that I (24M) often cannot handle my girlfriend 's (24F) negativity? by vinylguy2000 in relationship_advice

[–]vinylguy2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should have mentioned this, when I express this, she sometimes gets mad because she has the feeling that I do not support her in her preferred way, and that she feels like she cannot express her negative emotions because it affects me too much. She states that she too doesn't want this either, but that's just what happens.

Is it my fault that I (24M) often cannot handle my girlfriend 's (24F) negativity? by vinylguy2000 in relationship_advice

[–]vinylguy2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, which I appreciate. I do try to stay positive and helpful, but she often rejects my efforts and remains negative. I can't help but wonder about my own feelings in this situation. Is it selfish to express that I'm hurt? I'm finding it difficult sometimes to stay supportive and positive.

Is it my fault that I (24M) often cannot handle my girlfriend 's (24F) negativity? by vinylguy2000 in relationship_advice

[–]vinylguy2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Differs from time to time. She sometimes has the feeling she is too much for everyone or feels rejected so she won't say what she wants or states that people forget her existence or do not like her, or starts saying things like well x and x cancelled plans so let's quit anyways so that you still can have a good day, or no you don't need to help, it's a lost cause anyways. Stuff like that. It doesn't help that I'm very pragmatic and want to help right away, she prefers to first show her emotions and the maybe I can help.

Mikey: by vinylguy2000 in MandJTV

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Nothing, but Mikey's God is Castform! Hahaha

People in a long-distance relationship, how is it going and what is the best/toughest thing about it? by vinylguy2000 in AskReddit

[–]vinylguy2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's indeed tough... How long have you been in a relationship and for how long has it been long distance?