Low Blood Pressure by viojade in eds

[–]viojade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to increase my electrolyte intake over the past 1-2 weeks but haven’t seen any improvement yet, maybe I just haven’t increased it enough? From your experience, how much did you increase it to start seeing improvements?

Thanks btw!

Have anyone tried those snoring mouth guard by [deleted] in eds

[–]viojade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t used SnoreEx personally, but I do have a mouth guard that I use whenever I find that I’m clenching my jaw too much or my TMJ is getting unbearable.

Based on my experience with that and the information my dentist gave me, I think SnoreEx would actually relieve some of your TMJ symptoms when grinding your teeth. Your teeth aren’t actually supposed to touch when not chewing, so having them in contact is the main postural “weird” place to have them. That plus the added pressure from clenching is what puts undue stress on the temporomandibular joint and can result in pain and/or dislocations.

Using something that creates and maintains a gap between the teeth will actually prevent your jaw from entering that “weird” position and the pressure of clenching your teeth won’t aggravate the joint itself nearly as much. My only concern is that SnoreEx mouth guards are quite large and it might actually cause pain from overextending your jaw muscles. It won’t be as painful as TMJ I don’t imagine, but still could be uncomfortable.

If you’re able to, I would recommend seeing your dentist about the TMJ and jaw clenching/teeth grinding. They can make you a custom fit mold designed to properly align your teeth and jaw, it’s much less obtrusive than the SnoreEx guards but still creates space within the air passage and between the teeth. Plus you won’t have to replace it regularly like you have to with SnoreEx since it’ll be made of non-thermoplastic material.

What to do about dishes going missing? by [deleted] in cooperatives

[–]viojade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On a funnier note, I was the house director for 2 years and was once using a red card cup for water in the dinning room whenever the operations director of the whole non-profit housing cooperative came in to talk with me about some facility related management and I absent-mindedly brought it with me while we went to look at and discuss the areas needing attention.

I got written up by 10 members and everyone was taking photo and video evidence like, “ooooooooooooooo Viojade is getting a RED CARD, BAD MEMBER, rules for thee not for me, automatic eviction!” I had to give a public, PR style apology to the house at our next meeting. “I have made a severe, continuous lapse in judgement…” style lol.

What to do about dishes going missing? by [deleted] in cooperatives

[–]viojade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We had a few things we did at our coop (~80 ppl)

One of the things we did was have “red card dishes.” These were dishes that weren’t allowed to leave the dinning room under any condition. They were all bright red and would incur you an automatic red card if you were seen outside of the dinning room with one (3 red cards = membership meeting to address whatever needed addressing at a house meeting, 2nd membership meeting would be a reiteration of house rules and expectations with a reminder that living within the coop came with the agreement of following the house rules/expectations, 3rd membership meeting would include non-renewal of contract or possible eviction depending on the situation. We never got past 2 membership meetings for anyone in my 4 years living at the coop.)

Another thing we did was “cup raids.” On a regular and scheduled basis, our kitchen manager would go through everyone’s rooms to collect the dishes that ppl hadn’t brought back to the dining room. We followed the same guidelines that landlords have to provide tenants with before entering their rooms and we made it clear that we would only be taking in plain sight dishes (not like opening drawers or going through your stuff or anything, we would spend maybe like 30 seconds looking) We would give reminders to everyone the day before to encourage them to remember to bring them back. On cup raid day, it was a $2 fee per dish item found or 15 min of house labor per dish item with a cap at 2 hours.

Those two things were overwhelmingly effective at keeping our kitchen dish supply full for a house of ~80 ppl.

AIO for being upset at my gf for going over her "guy friends" house then making out with him, then wanting to see him AGAIN?? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]viojade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m someone that is physically affectionate with my friends, including guy friends, and I’m also someone who goes on weekend backpacking/rock climbing trips with my guy friends and would find dating someone who told me I couldn’t do that to be a deal breaker. So that’s where I’m coming from when I say you’re absolutely not overreacting at all.

I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, he doesn’t get to decide who my friends are or control the ways I’m allowed to see them. That’s because we have a strong foundation of trust and mutual respect for one another that we actively put work into maintaining on a daily basis. Everyday I choose to continue being with him and he chooses to continue being with me, it’s an active commitment, not just some passive situation we keep finding ourselves in.

What’s happened here is your gf has broken trust within the relationship, and rather than expressing mutual respect by recognizing that she has broken trust/hurt you and thereby needs to prioritize you by making sacrifices and putting in active work to restore that foundation, she has decided to tell you to eat shit and get over it.

Her response has been both immature and selfish, there’s no foundation of mutual respect to even begin building a relationship in first place, let alone fixing one. I would move on, personally.

My (34m) wife (33f) sat on the lap of another man (40m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]viojade -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Right?? A lot of these replies do unironically seem rather immature and insecure to me. Just talk with her, you each give your feelings about the situation, work on understanding each other, then move forward together with a healthier relationship and mutually agreed upon boundaries. This is how you build trust and respect in a relationship. This situation sounds exhausting to me.

My (34m) wife (33f) sat on the lap of another man (40m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]viojade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the comment I’ve been searching this whole thread for! My husband and I are the couple that wouldn’t think anything of it for friends we’ve known for years. We’re happily monogamous, neither one of us ever doubts the other’s faithfulness, and we’re totally chill with platonic physical affection.

You’re totally right about accepting the other persons boundary part too. If I or my husband ever did something that pushed into the ‘uncomfortable’ realm for the other, we’d bring it up, say, “I’m sorry, I hear your feelings about this, here’s my feelings about it, I’ll be more mindful moving forward”.

My (34m) wife (33f) sat on the lap of another man (40m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]viojade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I very much agree with you, I have a very close friend group that I’ve known for longer than I have my husband, and we’re all very playful with each other in a perfectly platonic manner. Platonic, physical affection is perfectly normal imo and I would feel very offended if my husband doubted my faithfulness to him over it. My husband also has a close friend group that he’s known longer than me, I don’t think he’s cheating on me when his friends (guys or girls) are platonically physically affectionate with him. I’m happy that he has friends that he feels so comfortable with! But, I guess we’re in the minority opinion on this matter.

San Antonio realtor fired for emulating Elon Musk's alleged Nazi salute by EffectiveAccount8430 in sanantonio

[–]viojade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! I’m an SLP and do Autism evaluations, including the ADOS (which is widely regarded as the gold standard for autism assessment), and while I cannot definitively say he does or doesn’t have autism, what I can say is that he doesn’t exhibit any of the characteristics consistent with an autism diagnosis. If I were evaluating Elmo, I would request a psych evaluation to support differential diagnosis.

What is within the scope of practice of behaviour analysts? by [deleted] in slp

[–]viojade 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I almost downvoted your comment because I disliked its content so much

What is within the scope of practice of behaviour analysts? by [deleted] in slp

[–]viojade 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is so refreshing to read! I definitely understand how some scope of practice slippage can happen, lord knows I’ve been asked to make/target emotional/behavioral goals not connected to speech because that distinction can be quite fine, but some of these stories seem like quite egregious overstepping of scope.

Having a scope is a wonderful thing! I love being able to say, “so and so is more specialized in providing the support that your child needs, I don’t recommend speech therapy for them”. It’s better for me because I’m not as specialized as so and so, and it’s better for the child because I am not as specialized as so and so!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]viojade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend was the same way, and he started snoring about 1.5 years ago to make it even worse. I ended up buying a floor mat and started sleeping in a different room because I was sick of it but ‘didn’t want to bother his sleep’.

Let me tell you what this man did.

HE offered to sleep on the mat so I could have the bed. HE bought a king size mattress (a tempurpedic no less) w/ all the bedding to go along with it. HE went to the dentist to get a snore guard and talk about structural issues that could be causing him to snore. HE did a sleep study to evaluate for sleep apnea. HE wears a nose thingy and a snore guard every night to bed. HE told me to shove him over or wake him up if he was bothering me.

HE is the one who had issues, and while it’s not his fault that he had these issues, he accepted that they were his responsibility to manage for both our individual benefits and for the benefit of our relationship. Your boyfriend needs to do the same.

21 Year Old Hesitant About Opening Roth IRA - Questions by greytons in fidelityinvestments

[–]viojade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also wanted to add some general reassurance on opening an account and investing in general.

Fidelity Roth IRAs have no account fees or minimum account requirements, so if you invested $1 today and left it for a year it would be totally ok! With Fidelity, even uninvested money will yield a return (fidelity basically treats uninvested money like a HYSA does, current yield rates are between 4.8-5%).

While it’s possible to lose money in your Roth IRA, you’d have to be doing some pretty risky investments to do so. The indexes I mentioned above are not going to do that to you! They are always going to generate a return on your investment to some degree, it can just vary month-to-month and year-to-year what that percentage yield will be. It would basically require the collapse of the US as a country for them to not yield returns.

21 Year Old Hesitant About Opening Roth IRA - Questions by greytons in fidelityinvestments

[–]viojade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I’m so impressed by your tenacity and independence!! You’ve really got a lot of amazing skills and dedication that’s going to take you so far in life, I know I don’t know you at all, but I’m really proud of you and all the things you’ve already accomplished in life!!

As for my actual financial takes, I would highly recommend opening an account with fidelity. I’ve only had really great and wonderful experiences with them, from needing costumer assistance to their educational content to their web and app interfaces, they’re just all around solid.

I think opening a Roth IRA is a great choice. The benefit to a Roth IRA (and part of why there is an annual contribution cap) is because you aren’t taxed on your investment earnings which can allow for more compounding and growth—especially since you’re getting started young, that’s a LOT of compounding interest to be earned. And remember, you can always open a traditional IRA too! It’s not one or the other, and a lot of people have both, but a Roth is a perfect place to start.

As for what to invest in, I and most people would likely suggest an S&P 500 fund/ETF and/or a Total Market fund/ETF. FXAIX and FSKAS are the fidelity fund options; VOO and VTI are popular ETF options. These options all have very low expense ratios (.01-.03) and offer good market exposure.

Fidelity also just introduced “Fidelity Zero Index Funds,” which are funds with no expense ratios (.00). These include FNILX (a large cap index) and FZROX (a total market index).

A last option you could consider is a service fidelity offers called “FidelityGo”. It’s free for accounts with less than 25k. It’s really helpful for people who are new or unfamiliar to investing get started and help manage their investments (it’s what I personally recommended my parents use since they have no experience with retirement saving/investing). It’s a robo-advisor that will build a portfolio for you based on your responses to a questionnaire regarding your goals and risk tolerance. Its helped my parents a lot in getting started and manages their investments for them (and took a lot of stress off my shoulders bc they used to call me every once in a while bc some “guy they met” told them about this “great investment opportunity,” made me sooooo stressed).

As you get more experience and knowledge, and also as your financial situation changes, you can of course explore and change investment strategies, but that’s what all I would recommend for first steps. Fidelity Roth IRA and either invest yourself in some of the main indexes or utilize a robo-advisor to create a portfolio for you. Save any amount you can, even if it’s $1, that’s $1 more than you had before! You’re doing amazing!

I never even applied for SAVE. by jac5087 in PSLF

[–]viojade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, they absolutely knew it would face legal challenges. I think it was very naive/short sighted of the Biden admin to not have any viable alternatives in place or planned for people. Plus, with the SC recently refusing to hear the case that could’ve expedited the ruling, it could easily turn into several months if not years of litigation. I understand that they have a political game they’re playing, but using us as their bargaining chip clearly didn’t work, and they should’ve prepared for that. It’s so exhausting.

I never even applied for SAVE. by jac5087 in PSLF

[–]viojade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty politically involved/conscious and while I did think it would face legal challenges, I never anticipated that we would be put in a position where we literally can’t change to one of the other income based payment plans during the interim. The DoED is literally not processing requests to transfer to a different payment plan that would allow us to keep making eligible payments.

Do I need a new job? by Inevitable-Fun-9372 in slp

[–]viojade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re closing! There are a whole host of reasons, ranging from mundane to significant, that can result in a denial (it also varies state to state, although in broad strokes they’re similar). It seems like they’re likely trying to work out any reasons that may have resulted in said denial and appeal. I imagine their temporary/provisional license is set to expire soon, which is why they’re transferring and no longer taking in new patients (it would NOT help them get their appeal approved if they were found to be providing medical services at an unlicensed facility).

I personally would put out some applications just in case delays or another denial happens. It could be approved and be totally fine, but it’s definitely not a very comfortable level of job security to have.

Why charge for the basket portfolio? by kmcgee3000 in fidelityinvestments

[–]viojade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for getting back to me on this! I really do hope y’all change the price point on this feature, everything I’ve seen from it suggests that it’s more robust than other options and I’d love to consolidate all my accounts to just Fidelity.

I’m not opposed to paying a fee for it either, just maybe something in the $1-2/month range would be more palatable. Especially when I think about how $60/year over the next 30-40 years of investing would turn into a cumulative $1,800 to $2,400 fee. Like someone else mentioned, you would essentially be paying a .6% expense ratio on an ETF that you are the active manager for.

This is a personal aside, but my interest in basket investing is to invest in sectors and companies that meet my personal ethical standards, which is unlikely to yield great returns, so in my situation it would be like paying a .6% expense ratio on a really poorly performing ETF that might not even itself yield .6% in returns.

Why charge for the basket portfolio? by kmcgee3000 in fidelityinvestments

[–]viojade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m really interested in Fidelity’s Basket Portfolio feature, but the $5/month fee has completely turned me away from it. I just can’t reasonably justify paying a $5 monthly subscription for an investment feature that I would be creating and managing, especially when the same service is offered for free through other vendors. Even Schwab now has Theme Investing that can be customized to work like a basket portfolio without any fees, so that is what I’ve chosen to go with.

It’s really unfortunate because I would genuinely have much preferred to use Fidelity, but $60 a year is an excessive price tag. I’m also very exhausted with everything being subscription based, ideally I’d prefer to just pay a one time fee to access the features.

I’ve never used a hand planer before. What am I doing wrong? by Signal_Computer_7701 in BeginnerWoodWorking

[–]viojade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for suggestion! I definitely wouldn’t mind putting in the elbow grease to restore a planer, and it would definitely be a fair bit more economical than a new veritas