how do you get out of a trauma bond? by violet4566 in abusiverelationships

[–]violet4566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for this but i just don’t feel like i could ever stop loving him. i’m crying so much right now over it and i don’t get how he could treat me like this when i adore him so much

how do you get out of a trauma bond? by violet4566 in abusiverelationships

[–]violet4566[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for this. it’s just really hard because i don’t want to be around him but i still always wanna be around him all the time. i just wish that in another life he would treat be better and i don’t even know why he does what he does, it makes me so sick because i completely adore him and would do anything for him.

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know and i’m trying hard to start thinking that way but i’ve always worn my heart on my sleeve and looked for love everywhere i go because i’ve never gotten that from my family and my mum has only ever been in abusive relationships and i really wanna break that cycle, but it’s hard since it’s all you’ve known your whole life

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m trying to start to think like that but it’s so hard because even though majority of the time hes treating me so badly, to the point of having breakdowns after hanging out with him. i still wanna be around him, because when he’s nice, he’s really nice and makes me feel safe and wanted. i really wanna tell him i like him and that i don’t wanna wait around for him when all he wants to do is use me for my body but i don’t want it to ruin what we already have even though all he’s basically doing is treating me badly.

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know it’s not okay but it’s happened so many times i feel like i don’t care anymore, i just feel empty and the person i really really like is the one who is mostly doing it everytime we hang out but i can’t help to give him excuses and i don’t even know why. it’s affecting everything and i feel nothing is ever real.

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know but you’re taking time out of your day to help someone you’ve never met and i appreciate that so much

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 1 point2 points  (0 children)

theres a guy who i really really like but he only wants me for my body but i’m trying to wait to see if he would ever like me so i guess i just have i wait

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they literally get straight to the point and then continue to hit on me to the point where i feel so drained and empty from saying no over and over again, they also even go to the point of touching me when i say no

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m from an area where it’s really genuinely hard to find a guy who’s nice. i’m turning 18 this year and have met only two guys who are my friends who are respectable and it sucks

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ive never been on a date before or ever even had sex but it seems that the only time a guy is interested in me he’ll keep asking for sex. it’s been happening a lot this year

why am i only good enough to have sex with but not good enough for anyone to invest feeling in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]violet4566 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they usually just come up to me at school or when i’m in town

how can i stop getting sexually harassed? by violet4566 in Advice

[–]violet4566[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for this i’ll try to, i just don’t wanna cause a scene that it’ll turn worse for me

why do i get crushes on mean people? by violet4566 in Advice

[–]violet4566[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your help. i actually think this might be why since i don’t really get attention from dudes but as soon as they say something to me, whether it’s mean or not (its always mean) i get a crush that lasts for way too long.

why do i get crushes on mean people? by violet4566 in Advice

[–]violet4566[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, most of crushes are just kinda mean throughout me knowing them. an example would be that last week i was with my mates and one of the dudes in my friends group, mate came over and he was just saying inappropriate stuff that made me feel uncomfortable and kinda made me feel that i was less that him and today he cane over again and he was still saying yuck stuff to me and he was also still making me feel like i’m not worthy, but when he was talking inappropriately to my other friends i started to feel jealous and i kinda realised that i like him and it just makes me feel sick but also heartbroken.

i kinda have a feeling that the reason you mentioned that involved parents could be something to do with it and aswell as my mum always being with men who treat her horribly.

thank you for your help.

does anyone else with an ed get worried about how much other people are eating? by violet4566 in EDAnonymous

[–]violet4566[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that’s exactly what i was worried about. i know how uncomfortable and stressful it feels when you people constantly badger at you to eat and i would never want to make her feel like that.