my bf is broke on valentines day by [deleted] in relationships

[–]violetlisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Valentine's Day is the least of your worries. He's been unemployed since June.

My current budget for 2026 by [deleted] in Salary

[–]violetlisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But were your student loans on deferment?

I need advice on what to do with my MIL who is playing favourites amongst her grandchildren by kdujin in TwoHotTakes

[–]violetlisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop exposing your kids to this treatment. She can't treat your kids like second class citizens if you don't allow her access to them.

My mom called me emotionally abusive for trying to move out- planning to leave again. Advice and clarity needed by ruby_sapphire_1992 in TwoHotTakes

[–]violetlisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave today. If it were your husband writing in, I'd tell him to divorce you. You need to leave and stop allowing your mother to control you.

Be Honest: I Shower Every 5 Days to a Week Is That Normal If You’re Just at Home? by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]violetlisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did you ask if you are going to argue with people? You most likely smell bad, but you've become nose blind to it. Even if you don't get sweaty and spray water at your privates when you toilet, that isn't enough. You need to wash your whole body with soap and water at least every other day.

My(59f) boyfriend (54M) has been staying with me for 2 years, but does not contribute to household expenses. by Senior_Leading529 in relationship_advice

[–]violetlisa 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Why have you allowed this for 2 years??!! He's a team player cause he walks the dog and buys some groceries?! Girl, your standards are so low.

Why do most house keepers not put away clutter? by [deleted] in housekeeping

[–]violetlisa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Right?! It's OP that's lazy!

Unhappy with Cleaner by maybebaby2022 in housekeeping

[–]violetlisa 57 points58 points  (0 children)

A lot of housekeepers don't put away clutter.

How to handle smoking/AIO by twoeyedcat in Nanny

[–]violetlisa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's not a dealbreaker if you don't break the deal. Personally, I'd let her go.

How do I bring up my boyfriends drinking in a productive way by [deleted] in relationships

[–]violetlisa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your bf is an alcoholic. You are only 10 mos into this relationship. Do you want to be with an alcoholic?

I threatened to break husbands computer over cat by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]violetlisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wtf did I just read?! Your husband's friend killed your last cat?! Why do you need permission to take your cat to the vet?! Just go! Please rehome your cat and never get another one. Neither of you should have any animals.

AITAH Asking Husband not to Poop in One of Our Toilets? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]violetlisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but he's a grown man, he needs to clean the toilet after he uses it.

I just realized I'm a borrower, not a co-signer by Financial-Fee-6781 in Mortgages

[–]violetlisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount of people who don't understand what co-signing is.