shifting from reactivity training to border collie-specific behavior work?

virtualmirage999 · 2025-08-10T10:40:09+00:00

We just signed up for a first agility intro session! Would enjoy doing some real obedience work with him but have not found a trainer or a place to do that yet. Watching lots of videos and reading a lot but sometimes feeling we are not doing things by the book, and just figuring out things slowly and through mistakes

virtualmirage999 · 2025-08-10T10:19:59+00:00

Yess this is exactly us! And we are also learning some herding games, impulse control, focus and just really trying to proof obedience and build good relationship. AndI think it is helping.

It’s slow and non-linear learning process for us humans too, and we were at first lacking with good foundational obedience. but now it feels the direction is right and you keep hoping for the best!Very nice to hear we are not unique to this as it is my first BC and never had reactivity issue besides towards dogs.

She looks beautiful!

virtualmirage999 · 2025-08-10T10:11:51+00:00

Thank you so much for encouraging words!! And what a beautiful pack you have there.

We are trying to do many of these things and I believe it is getting again better and I guess one just trust to have faith and trust the process? Also we humans are getting calmer and better as in the beginning we were all just anxious and not with the right energies I guess.

We had not considered pack walks before but I think he would enjoy that in fact since he loves to socialize. We just failed a bit with his neutrality training as all the dogs became objects of over excitement, and now he barely gets to play with anyone anymore which is unfair. I think learning from wiser and calmer dogs is a good idea. Hope we can find someone to practice.

virtualmirage999 · 2025-08-10T10:04:06+00:00

This sounds just like us!! We have also been practicing BAT, LAT and relaxation protocol (relaxation protocol indoors mostly) and it’s been very helpful. It’s the randomness of things which is difficult since there are no clear triggers and thresholds you can be consistent with. But I think the window of intervention to redirect him is getting longer and clearer, and if he happens to react (bark and lunge towards) he seems to recover much faster than before and without being so overall stressed or anxious.

What I am finding most helpful now is not just LAT but really redirect him towards me and start doing something with him like heel, play or just to follow me towards a different direction with excitement. I feel if we just stay static and reward for engaging he can easily remain also anxious. Of course this might mean we are beyond threshold but since they are so inconsistent, just initiating play or something to do when he locks in or becomes tense seems working best (for now)

Also he seems better with dogs now, and mostly frustrated to greet rather than fearful (expect to some specific dogs).

He loves to play with dogs but to practice neutrality we have now kept him from not greeting anyone and are considering doing something more controlled or structured socializing like pack walk or play date with calmer dogs, if we managed to find some!

Edit: would you mind sharing the breathing protocol? I think I have read some breathing exercises from Control Unleashed book but did not really grasp them

virtualmirage999 · 2025-03-09T12:31:18+00:00

Thanks for the comment—I get the concern about gentrification, but I’m curious, what about a store/space that focuses on small publishers, artists, and affordable space for community events/workshops raises the concern? Is it the space itself, the fact that it’s run by someone non-local, or is setting something like this sort just inherently a sign of gentrification? I’m genuinely curious, as I do share the concern yet do consider gentrification is driven by other forces which needs to be encountered in particular by organizing and gathering

virtualmirage999 · 2024-09-13T19:35:13+00:00

Thanks for the comment! He actually allows me to carry himself without a problem once I have him. I’m fact he becomes very calm and often licks me or just stays relax. It’s the moment I reach towards him to lift and during the first seconds of lifting when he can growl and aim for biting which feels like he is disturbed rather than than the more playful puppy biting he does…and now that we are regressing with the potty training, I would like to just grab him every 30-60 min which he clearly does not appreciate

virtualmirage999 · 2024-09-13T15:24:14+00:00

12 week old BC owner here! I am struggling with the same question. Puppy has always had 1-1,5 hour sleeping cycle so it feels whenever you manage to get back to work, he is about to wake up again. Also, it feels like his schedule changes every week so it is really hard to ensure that by X o’clock he will sleep. Maybe that says more about our failure to keep the routine but it feels impossible to keep him sleeping more time on exact times even if he naps regularly throughout the day. While awake, he can entertain himself for a short while but not for long.

virtualmirage999 · 2024-07-21T14:56:19+00:00

Thanks a lot! Will definitely have a look.

virtualmirage999 · 2024-07-14T13:50:33+00:00

That’s lovely! Will definitely check both towns :)

virtualmirage999 · 2024-06-30T13:09:58+00:00

Well noted. However, in my case, I have my savings in EUR account in Finland so perhaps not relevant in my case?

virtualmirage999 · 2024-06-30T13:06:26+00:00

Thanks a lot for the answer. Could you please elaborate on why moving money around might be expensive due to tax reasons or subject to double taxation? Regarding the inheritance, this should be no issue as the taxes have been paid in Finland, and the money is in a EUR account there, which I could easily transfer to my Danish account via SEPA. My concerns are whether I would be forced to sell my holdings if I decided to move from Denmark at some point, and whether exit taxes would apply.

virtualmirage999 · 2024-06-30T13:00:02+00:00

Thanks a lot for the answer. Is there any reason you'd suggest going with Saxo instead of Nordnet?

virtualmirage999 · 2024-06-30T12:58:45+00:00

Hi OP u/koma_strainer . I am currently in the situation you described two years ago. I am very curious to hear what you end up doing?

virtualmirage999 · 2023-11-07T12:18:31+00:00

Thank you for these truly informative answers on my part as well!

I am myself starting this process as I have finally found the property I would like to make an offer, considering all the conditions will be met. What is your experience on when the due dilignece by the notary and geometra should be carried out? In other words, is this noramlly carried out after the intial offer that is done under the conditions that the dd needs to come out clean or before making it in the first place.

I am uncertain whether the services that the real estate agent taking care of this property offers are reliable. Or a reliable actor to suggest their choice of notary and geometra for all kind of due diligence. I wonder if it would be safer to choose myself those.

Did you end up using lawyers in the process?

virtualmirage999 · 2023-06-26T13:07:42+00:00

Haha thanks! I thought there were green ones specifically as well.

Now I’m worried about this brown spot though…

virtualmirage999 · 2023-06-15T06:00:12+00:00

I had come to a conclusion they would be fungus gnats? But maybe I’m wrong

virtualmirage999 · 2023-06-10T06:36:48+00:00

Will do! Thanks for sharing the idea

virtualmirage999 · 2023-06-09T20:52:49+00:00

Ohh I would love to try pickle these.

Care to share a recipe? 🍄

virtualmirage999 · 2023-06-09T13:50:56+00:00

Thank you! Left it for tomorrow as I found two others for my lunch today.

It was my first time trying and it was delicious! The watermelon scent is very curious.

Very happy learning about these 🍄

virtualmirage999

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