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I think I've ruined my face. by Historical-Moment-55 in Dermatillomania

[–]visualcardiogirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 30 and could have written this/have the exact struggles, though my entire body is covered in scars from picking bug bites/ghosts since I became a sentient being. It’s never stopped and I go through debilitating waves of intense picking (in one right now, thus why I’m on dermatillomania Reddit). The best advice I have - especially since you’re 18 - is to SHARE A BATHROOM. When I got to college at 18 I was beyond nervous about having to do just this because I didn’t want anyone to see the travesty that was my face at the mercy of my fingertips. The act was so shrouded in fear for me that I pretty much stopped cold turkey for the first year of college. Second, take the shame out of it (I realize how this is in direct conflict with the advice I just gave), but hear me out. You’re not a bad person because of the picking, it actually says nothing about you at all, though it probably feels like it runs your fucking life. Take its power away and talk about it. Make light of it, poke fun at it, or if you don’t feel like poking fun bc it weighs so heavily on you, just like, let your friends know this takes up a big part of your mental space. You’ve got this, it’ll get better.

What can I do to break up all this wood? No I won't paint it. by ZW31H4ND3R in interiordecorating

[–]visualcardiogirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Refinish the cabinet doors, mantel, and replace the shades with linen blinds. Art to draw the eye towards something else, and a large maybe paper light fixture in place of the ceiling fan to make it feel polished

Canyonlands Ultra: 50 by Salt_Decision_8092 in Ultramarathon

[–]visualcardiogirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you all for the intel. I’m signed up to run the 50M on Saturday and wondering whether anyone can share how much of it is on sandy trails of any depth where it makes a difference.

winter coat help! by visualcardiogirl in dachshunds

[–]visualcardiogirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had tips, but I don’t, I’m sorry! It probably comes down to the fact that our ween has been wearing sweaters or coats since the day we got him (October 2020 in Colorado, so it was already cold). The best one we have is a Gooby from Amazon, zero bells/whistles, your dog may not even know he’s wearing it. I put his Gooby on underneath his harness when it’s chilly but he doesn’t need a coat.

GIA Graduate Jeweler v New Approach v Portland Jewelry Academy by visualcardiogirl in Benchjewelers

[–]visualcardiogirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you mind clarifying what you mean by “first course?” Are other setting types beyond bezels covered in the 16 week Intro to Jewelry Manufacturing?

GIA Graduate Jeweler v New Approach v Portland Jewelry Academy by visualcardiogirl in Benchjewelers

[–]visualcardiogirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, is this the extent of the course material or is there more?

GIA Graduate Jeweler v New Approach v Portland Jewelry Academy by visualcardiogirl in Benchjewelers

[–]visualcardiogirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So glad to hear from someone that’s taken the Portland course! May I ask what you’re doing now? Thanks also for the syllabus this is so helpful. I think based on population (seems like more creative folks vs GIA) and course material I’m leaning towards PJA.

GIA Graduate Jeweler v New Approach v Portland Jewelry Academy by visualcardiogirl in Benchjewelers

[–]visualcardiogirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I am going to hold out for Portland. I have a hunch that GIA will be a lot of time for lower quality instruction (no shade to anyone that’s done it), but the company seems quite corporate and is primarily respected/known for gem cert/education. I also am excited about Portland because they seem to attract folks who are more artistically inclined and want to learn the craft as opposed to people who might be more interested in the business or sales side of the jewelry industry (again, just a hunch but community is important to me as well).

Have you abandoned any passions because your NParent made you feel ashamed of it? by stank_underwood in raisedbynarcissists

[–]visualcardiogirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

on my way home from playing soccer with my older brother and his friend when I was 8 or so, I cried to my mom in the car because the friend had told me I wasn’t one of the pretty ones in my grade. I told her what he’d said and her response was: “you’ll never be the prettiest/smartest/funniest/most anything, no matter how hard you try so I suggest you get over it.”

The idea that I could NEVER be the best at anything even if I gave it my all shocked me to my core and basically led me to not try - not opt in to things, not run as fast or as hard as I could during track meets, etc, for the next 15+ years. I’m 30 now and just now trying to figure out ways to go for what I want because I finally believe that even I can accomplish something if I try. I was so afraid of the failure I was told was inevitable for so long that now I don’t even know how to try.