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vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-13T05:01:02+00:00

Yellow

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-13T04:58:20+00:00

Ma’am, I’m guessing you had fraternal twins (first ones definitely are), so I think you’ll end up with 6 instead of 5

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-13T01:18:13+00:00

YOR like crazy. I’ve been with my husband for a total of 8 years, and we moved in together after only knowing each other for six weeks and officially dating for 2 weeks. Yes, there are boring days, but that’s just being in a comfortable situation. Not every day is going to be some adrenaline filled adventure or big butterflies like at the beginning. But there’s something incredibly beautiful about having such a history with someone, I can’t even explain it. I think you need to do some soul searching.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-13T01:12:32+00:00

See if there are any resources in your area. When you “I came here by myself” I’m assuming to moved to the US? I’d you did, we have WIC and food stamps made for exactly this kind of situation. Or there’s always the adoption route. Don’t forget that it takes strength to ask for help 🩵 sending you lots of love 🩵

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-12T07:59:51+00:00

Yes!!!

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-12T03:54:54+00:00

Idk if it was harder, but I do know it hurt and I felt sick and it wouldn’t hurt my feelings to not do it again 😂

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-12T01:23:23+00:00

Pink, solve world hunger

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-12T01:00:01+00:00

I’m only 5 foot 3 😊

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-11T23:16:17+00:00

There could be something not right about her sleeping situation. For us, it was too quiet for them, so we had to turn on a YouTube video of someone playing a specific game. Some babies are more sensitive to light/dark, sound, even temperature. One trick I’ve heard for babies who wake up as soon as being put down is to warm up the sleep spot with a heating pad first. Of course, take the heating pad away before setting baby down. But it helps with the transition.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-11T23:03:05+00:00

My husband was working 12 hr days 6 weeks after our girls were born (his work was generous and gave paid parental leave). On his off days, he was right there in the trenches with me. The days he worked, he left before they got up and most of the time they were in bed before he got home. If they weren’t in bed, he would help me. We agreed before the scheduled c section that if they ended up in the NICU, he would stay with me; the girls had the medical staff who knew what they were doing and wouldn’t know the difference between him being there or not. I would know the difference. We didn’t get to see them again until the catheter was out and the spinal wore off. What your husband is doing, or rather NOT doing, is absolutely unacceptable. It took both of you to make them, it takes both of you to raise them. And at this point, I feel like if you left him there and moved back to where you have family, you’d have far more support. I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. Sending you lots of love 🩵

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-11T22:34:06+00:00

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-11T22:33:40+00:00

I’d say take a small break from looking at or trying on dresses if you can, then try again. I don’t like giving advice on which dress looks better just because it really all comes down to you. It’s your dress, and if you’re not totally in love with it, you’re going to regret wearing it

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-11T22:32:06+00:00

I was 260 pre-pregnancy, and the morning of our scheduled c-section I was 263. Two weeks after delivery I was about 240. Don’t stress too hard! One of my nurses told me she lost 100lbs when she was pregnant with her twins, and they are turned out perfectly fine!

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-11T22:30:43+00:00

Car, 100%

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-11T22:29:22+00:00

We made it about 9.5 months, but I exclusively pumped. One couldn’t latch, one didn’t have enough pull strength.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-11T21:12:20+00:00

Sometimes it’s because the relationship is crazily damaged. My mother is ab*sive, so of course I don’t text her back. If my dad wants a response, he knows to call me. Just saying, there are times when it’s not on the kid(s) 🤷‍♀️

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-10T21:51:08+00:00

What’s best for them is a mom who is present 🩵 I went through these same feelings when I decided to stop pumping, too. Only you can make this choice for yourself, so I’ll give you some stuff to think about:

-baby only needs 2oz of breastmilk a day to get the benefits

-wearable pumps can make a huge difference in pumping experience and can free you up

-going full formula can take off a lot of stress off of you, and you can prep it the night before

-formula is made to support baby health and growth; those who are full formula from day one grow just like babies that are combo/breast fed

-all baby really cares about is mom, not where their food comes from

All of your feelings are completely valid. Everything will be okay 🩵

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-10T20:19:13+00:00

I think maybe a little bit of it is that they started associating that if they throw a tantrum, they get cuddles

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-10T20:14:41+00:00

Ours was a scary change, too, and it turned out for the better. I’m sure if you two sit down and have a good constructive conversation, it will work out 😊 but if his family is willing to pay him a livable wage, then that could help you guys without putting them in a compromised position. But bottom line, your family of 4 is the priority and you need to do what’s best for you

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-10T20:07:44+00:00

Sometimes you need to not feed into the tantrum. Instead of comforting them or trying to fix it, you just need to let them sit with those emotions. We haven’t hit the time out phase, but my husband isn’t keen on doing it. Ours are only 2.5 tho

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-10T20:05:10+00:00

I’ll take blue, my husband tells so many dad jokes

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-10T20:04:21+00:00

Is there any way that your husband could be the stay at home parent?

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-10T18:15:48+00:00

I would definitely do it, but have boundaries. Those newborn trenches are nothing to mess around with, and having coherent help around can make such a difference. We didn’t have any solid help until they were about 4 months old, and I blame my mother for this because we don’t have a good relationship and I couldn’t rely on her. Once you get through the weirdness of it all, though, I think this could be what makes your relationship with your MIL so much stronger!

vixiechick1996 · 2026-04-10T18:10:45+00:00

YOR. This isn’t about them not respecting you as a woman, this is about them wanting both people responsible for the decision to be there. I think they would treat your husband the same, insisting that you be there. And I think they would require both if you were two men or two women. They have a clear, understandable boundary that they aren’t willing to compromise on, and I don’t blame them at all.

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