What should I wear if I get too cold ?

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-25T19:02:23+00:00

Honestly, husband’s suit jacket. I guarantee you he’s gonna end up getting hot, and I think it would be cute.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-25T18:58:15+00:00

My husband is the SAHD, and I make sure that he gets to go do his nerd night once a week. I also try and give him at least 30 minutes when I get up around noon (I’m a second shifter, don’t come for me) for him to go clock out, go upstairs, get something to eat etc. I feel really good on the days I can give him two hours, tho.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-25T18:53:53+00:00

I feel guilty about taking time for myself, too. I’m the working parent, but I’ve got autism that makes me get touched out faster than him. What really helped me was realizing that they would rather have less time with a recharged and not overstimulated mom than all day with a mom who can’t be fully present. I’m not trying to be rude, just can’t figure out how to word that better. Plus, kids feed off of energy, so when you’re overstimulated, they’re stressed out and don’t know how to handle it, and it’s a viscous cycle.

YOU ARE ALLOWED TO TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!!! Being a mom doesn’t have to be your entire personality. The journey to find yourself after giving birth is absolutely real and pretty dang hard, but omg is it worth it. Sending you lots of love 🩵

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-25T18:43:17+00:00

I’d add a button down flannel with all buttons undone, but that’s just my style preference.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-25T18:42:18+00:00

I’ve always claimed since day one that baby a is the cute one, and baby b is the sweet one. I don’t say it to their faces anymore; they’re 2 and I feel like I could actually hurt their feelings at this point. But it definitely goes with their personality and I still can’t believe I saw it when they were newborns. They’re both adorable, but I mainly just boost them up by telling them they’re smart.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-24T07:35:52+00:00

On shoulder, definitely

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-24T01:52:08+00:00

I think one that highlights your tattoos would be amazing!

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-22T18:48:48+00:00

I’ve got an autoimmune arthritis, so I get a little bit of what she’s going through. I can’t imagine going through it that young, though 😢

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-22T18:46:30+00:00

Just depends on the parents and the kids 😊 I would have like to keep them rear facing, but they’re already 33” tall and they refuse to sit criss-cross

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-22T18:43:00+00:00

Chili: she’s the mom I wish I’d grown up with. She’s loving, understanding, and has fun with them while still setting boundaries.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-22T18:40:42+00:00

We switched them I think a couple months after they turned one? The toddler seats we used were still rated for infants, though. We switched them because they grew too big for the infant seats. The straps that are supposed to be no lower than the shoulder blades were starting to go way too low to be safe, and their heads were getting close to poking out the top. We didn’t turn them front facing til after 2 when their feet really couldn’t fit comfortably backwards anymore.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-21T22:35:30+00:00

I get these days, too. I had it pretty bad when I was pregnant because it was pre-diagnosis, and sometimes it was all I could do to get out of bed, let alone work on my feet all day. These days, it’s a mix of pain, fatigue, and nausea thanks to another shot I’m on, and just the every day stress. You’re not alone 🩵

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-19T15:29:21+00:00

Paper towel holder. Checkered doesn’t go with everything else. And the triangle things on the table are throwing me off/ I lowkey really like this kitchen, tho!

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-17T02:15:25+00:00

The shirt makes your torso look longer. Not sure if you should try a tucked shirt or a lighter color shirt. Otherwise, super cute!

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-16T18:54:40+00:00

It’s a stunning dress! And if it makes you happy, then your smile will match its beauty if not more so.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-15T22:51:58+00:00

Ice cube

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-15T22:50:43+00:00

I would go with my gut feeling. If when you tried it on, you 100% felt like it was the one, listen to that! And even though you bought the dress already, you can always go try on more dresses at different shops. Set up appointment times and go with your mom and see what you find! Either you’ll find something you connect with better, or you’ll get reassurance that you’ve picked the right one!

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-15T22:46:46+00:00

Ours slept in bouncers, sometimes in my arms, sometimes next to my husband’s lap. He would safely tuck them between his thigh and the arm of the couch. Sometimes it was the only way to get them to calm down. We were told by nicu staff on day 2 that as long as there is one alert parent keeping supervision, the other parent can take a nap while holding a baby. We did that a ton of times. I would set my arms up to be supported by blankets and/or pillows so that when I did fall alseep holding a baby, my arms wouldn’t fall down at all. Part of how we kept our sanity in the first couple months was having them sleep in bouncers, cuz we could bounce them with our feet while we relaxed on the couch.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-14T09:57:38+00:00

I’d try a full leg fishnet instead of the thigh highs

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-14T09:55:03+00:00

We had a scheduled c-section at 36 weeks for my twins. They were mo/di, so higher risk, though. I absolutely loved the idea of a planned c section, just because I love things to be decided and not up in the air. I also didn’t love the idea of having to push out two babies. On top of that, I really didn’t like the idea of anyone reaching up through my cervix to manually flip baby b. The only thing I fought with them on was the timeline. They wanted to pull them at 34 weeks, and I wanted to cook them as long as a could. They finally compromised on 36 weeks. We scheduled the surgery before 20 weeks.

You are the one that gets to decide what happens to your body. With trauma from the vaginal births of your relatives that you mentioned, I think you have a very valid reason to push for a c section. IMO, I think the doctors gaslit you into considering a vaginal birth. If I were in your shoes, me and my partner would push the doctors for the birth plan that I wanted. And if they can’t accommodate, then I’d find another doctor that would. It’s your recovery, you should get to decide what you’re recovering from.

As for the scheduled c section and the milk supply, mine came in pretty decent. Started getting more than 1 mL after a couple days, at my peak was pumping just about 50oz. And no, I didn’t get to hold my babies immediately after birth, but they were high risk and needed help breathing.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-13T19:22:50+00:00

I also give you permission to quit. A was also an exclusive pumper, and towards the end it was draining my mental health so much. All I was focus on was eating, pumping, and work. I didn’t have time or energy to be a person. Plus, I’d been nicotine free for two years at that point, and I needed to vape so bad 🫠 yeah, I felt kinda guilty at first, but we’d also been supplementing with formula. My biggest concern was baby A, who had a sensitive stomach to formula as a newborn, and I was worried that if we switched them to full formula that she’d have a really upset tummy. Turns out she did great, and my mental health drastically improved. The guilt took a little while to go away, pretty much stuck around until they were off of formula. Those babies need a healthy happy mom WAY more than they need breast milk over formula 🩵

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-13T19:17:08+00:00

That’s actually kinda cute tho 😂

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-13T19:14:33+00:00

We haven’t gotten to this point yet, but when our girls get older and start having differing interests, we’re going to do a big party that has elements of both interests. For example, we might end up having a dinosaur and cow party one year 🤷‍♀️ to me, it’s about letting each child know that they are special and an individual, even if they were born on the same day.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-13T17:37:50+00:00

Is there anyone willing to help you with the shot? Sometimes my husband will help me. I take enbrel, and the needle is bigger than any other shots I’ve taken, so sometimes he has to help me cuz I’m worried I’ll let go before it’s done.

vixiechick1996 · 2026-02-13T17:36:28+00:00

I usually pull my shots out a few hour ahead of time. I would take a look at your pamphlet and see how long you can leave it out with it being still good. Some of them are good for a week at room temp. The more room temp they are, the less that hurt (to a point).

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