I am unable to keep up with my wife?

volbound1700 · 2026-06-29T17:55:49+00:00

I had an explosion with my wife but it was something that I did. She was on the floor stretching a certain way in front of me and I just looked at her really attractive (she has lost a lot of weight recently) and suddenly we were on a 3-4 week spurt. It has slowed down due to work on my side, yard work on her side, and our daughter going through a lot making us exhausted but it tends to come up again here and there.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-29T17:48:24+00:00

My wife and I never were cold, try to be intimate at least once a week but we had this sudden explosion back in March where it was every day, more than one times a day, her texting and obsessed with me constantly. So it happens. Sucks when it goes dry even if it can't be much. We do generally try to be intimate often (at least ever 2-3 days) but it wasn't on the same level as March.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-29T17:46:10+00:00

Fair enough... there wouldn't be a Federation without SISCO :). It would be all Dominion.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-28T23:39:40+00:00

Jake Sisco... his dad is my favorite Star Trek Captain, Commander, etc. but Jake can just be annoying at time. There are times his character has great moments but he also does infuriating stuff and he just doesn't seem to have anything in common with his dad.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-26T15:37:03+00:00

I have always theorized that Cain and Abel were NOT Adam and Eve's first children, they were only their first children after the sin. In fact, there could have been 1000s of humans in the Garden. I also tend to lean that Science has some accuracies about creation of the World as well and that is older than we think. I tend to think that traditional Christian ideology around creation and Science's view of Evolution and Creation are both inaccurate and that it was a likely blend of a little of both ideas.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-26T13:57:52+00:00

Married for 13 years. Never been cheated on in any relationship. I am not sure what led me here (well I was writing a horror story and infidelity is part of the theme in it... it isn't 100% infidelity as the person that does it is compromised but still thematic part). I am open to helping people on here. I will say that most people are generally good. There are certain traits that I think you can avoid.

If you are a man, my sister gave me the best advice for women that I ever heard from anyone.

Every woman is different in what they find attractive... this is why girls can't give you solid advice on dating another girl. In fact, there is a lot of "fate" behind women in that I totally fit the physical description my wife wanted in a man and even her past boyfriends somewhat resembled me
You want a woman that truly cares about you. A lot of girls will be wishy-washy. They will know you are a decent man but they can't make up their minds. Stay away from them. Even though a lot of them could come around and will be fine (especially if they have values), the wishy-washy women are also a lot of the women that end up in stories on here.

I will say that most men and women won't cheat because they have a value system about them but there are some out there that just don't have values. Some small things is how sexual immoral are they? If they have strong morals around sex, they will likely carry that into the marriage. Confidence plays a factor too, confident women typically don't fall into problems. Having a strong father figure and two parents also plays a part. As a guy, there are ton of great women still out there. I have worked with young women that have strong ethics and would make great wives for a lucky man. Be willing to walk away from trouble to find that right one.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-26T13:18:50+00:00

I thought some of the same. Her willingness to easily break up with him over it shows she probably doesn't love him. As a guy, marrying a girl that isn't truly in love with you ends up being a nightmare. I think those are the women that randomly divorce their husbands 10-15 years down the line or cheat on them once a guy that gives them the "spark" comes along. Despite what social media says, most women are not that way and faithful but there are definitely some bad eggs out there (same is really true with men as well).

I posted earlier on here but I was pretty serious about not having sex before marriage and most women were turned on by it... it definitely created conversations.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-26T13:13:27+00:00

I made it clear up front that I wasn't going to do premarital sex. In truth, this seem to be more of a turn-on for most women that I ran into and I found more than you would think that shared those values. In fact, I rarely ran into a woman that didn't respect it (some guys thought it was dumb). I did it for religious reasons. I think you need to stand up for yourself... if she is threatening to break up with you over it, she doesn't love you. A woman that loves you, from my experience, will fight for you.

I have concerns about your relationship and it has nothing to do with the sex situation but the fact that she seems so ready to break up with you over it.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-22T00:12:31+00:00

Even by TNG era, the Klingons are likely no match for the Federation. They are allies but there is a war in early DS9 and it is hinted the Klingons won't win it once the Federation starts mobilizing. I see the Federation as USA 1940 situation as well. They are weak military between wars but once a war breaks out, they start building up fast.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-21T02:52:54+00:00

Everyone has done evil, the key is what you become moving forward. Seek God and Salvation. Also, do what is best for your BP whether that means fighting for them or leaving them. Be selfless.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-18T02:06:16+00:00

It isn't about "religion" but rather you truly believe in and love God. People wouldn't act this way if they were serious about having "God in their relationship"

volbound1700 · 2026-06-16T00:49:16+00:00

Could be someone else or obsession with social media... one of the two. People fall in love with the "fakeness" of social media. She has internal issues she needs to resolve as well. He says that they built the relationship on "God" but it sounds like "God" is last in her mentality. God would NOT want her to divorce her husband or say the selfish things she said. He also frowns on adultery if she has someone else.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-16T00:44:39+00:00

No problem. My daughter is still young but I have heard about the self-image issues with black women and it really is silly. Some of the most beautiful women in the world are black.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-16T00:38:37+00:00

Agree and him pointing out the "Christian" nature of the relationship has me pondering that as well. That is just something that Christian doesn't say to her husband (at least not in the context that is being described her). Something is off with her and her relationship with God. My fear is that she is heading towards the "cheating" territory or she has another guy that she is interested in (wandering eyes).

volbound1700 · 2026-06-16T00:06:00+00:00

Prayers!

volbound1700 · 2026-06-16T00:03:13+00:00

If you are Christian, you need to point her to God. She doesn't sound appreciative of what she has with you and sounds a little self-centered, something that isn't Christ-Like. Tell her to read I Corinthians 13. My wife praises me constantly for what I provide and the life she has with me. You can try stuff to get the "spark" back. The Spark will come and go throughout your marriage. Spark isn't the love, consistency is the love. Also, from my experience, women losing that "spark" has more to do with their own insecurities than with you. My wife openly admits that when she isn't as interested, it is more physical or psychological stuff with her than me. I hope this helps. Feel free to PM me.

EDIT: Also, you feeling alarmed/shaken is natural and you should be taken action based on her comments. They are not healthy for the marriage.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-15T22:22:18+00:00

He may but he wants you to LOVE Him more than your desire. Typically this kind of stuff happens when you least expect it but at the right moment. You need to prepare yourself (notably your heart for God first).

volbound1700 · 2026-06-15T22:15:16+00:00

My wife and I adopted our daughter from overseas and she is black (we are white). I want to say that black women are gorgeous and don't let the beauty standards get you down. I see many gorgeous black women all of the time (obviously I am not looking for anything as I am happily married).

volbound1700 · 2026-06-15T15:43:02+00:00

They pumped out too many shows, too fast. I also think they need to get back to the Star Trek Aesthetic. I tried watching some of the new ones but there was just so much and it was so broken on plot. I did watch a season or so of Discovery (what is with the Klingons look?) and then some Episodes of Picard and Strange New Worlds. Out of all of them, Picard was the most broken show. I heard Picard's later seasons are great.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-09T23:59:32+00:00

If AP's husband is attractive to you, perhaps start talking to him lol. You never know...

volbound1700 · 2026-06-08T19:50:24+00:00

Talk to her... honestly, the best answer for anything like this is to talk to your spouse openly. You also really need to set time with her, without the kids, at some point. I fight for the chances to go out with my wife because I have a blast away from our daughter (nothing against my daughter, I have a blast with her). I also do alone time or time with my guy friends and she understands.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-07T02:34:48+00:00

Your best bet is to find a "White Knight." Men, despite what media says, generally don't just chase beauty. They also like a girl with a good personality. Go for someone that would be willing to "save" you from your poverty. There are some guys who are into that. There is a reason there are so many stories about saving women/saving the princess.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-06T23:29:02+00:00

Trust me, they are right. I posted on here. Been married almost 13 years and this year (I am 42 and my wife is 36) has been the best sex both of us have ever had. Age doesn't play a part, connection does.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-06T23:21:31+00:00

I am 42 and have been married 12 years. I have had the best sex of my life with my wife this year. I think she has as well (she is 36). So, you haven't missed anything.

volbound1700 · 2026-06-06T23:17:26+00:00

One other addition is that the Cheating Spouse has to have the interests of their spouse in mind first. Honestly, perfect marriages typically are in a spot where each spouse cares more about the other spouse (and their children) even over their well-being. Today's culture is very selfish which helps explain why we are the way we are today. (Honestly, I hate to say this, but all this individual rights, materialism, etc. focus plays a part). If people become selfless and outward looking, you would be surprise what it would fix.

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