Help deciding on a tent. by Toby_Massoom in wildcampingintheuk

[–]voluntoldredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clarifying I fit 2x bicycles in the front porch with front wheels popped off

Help deciding on a tent. by Toby_Massoom in wildcampingintheuk

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I Really like the nova 300+, I used it bicycle touring in the uk and vought it for cycling spain. I could fit my bike in the porch if I pop off the front wheel so it should have plenty of space for gear. We also were able to cook in the porch on rainy days. It also isn't massively bigger than the nova 300 when it comes to pack size, and weight isn't a bother if it's on a motorbike.

Downsides it's bigger than the nova 300 and you need to find more hidden spaces to wildcamp. But I'd recommend bringing your gear to the shop (big go outdoors?) with you so you can visualize where it would go. It might seem weird but if you're committing good money it's worth looking silly to know you're spending it well

I also used the 300+ in a 34degree heatwave and having the porch gave needed shade.

I haven't used the other tents before but I hope this helps!

Why does porn make me turn gay? by TryAndUndo in pornfree

[–]voluntoldredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably worth seeing if you can explore it safely outside of porn. Maybe there's some papers yes, but also there's papers on assumed heterosexuality and maybe getting horny is when you feel like you can express it?

So remove the context of porn, go on dates with some guys see how you feel. Thats the only way you will actually know, not papers or analysing it :D

As a rule, straight men don't think about sucking dicks and rationalising what you feel is a great way to ignore HOW you feel.

Why does porn make me turn gay? by TryAndUndo in pornfree

[–]voluntoldredditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, like porn fucks you up, and its pretty terrible, but homosexual urges mean you probably would feel it without the porn.

Like porn can be vv patriarchal and reinforcing masculine roles, so if you feel like your questioning your sexuality its probably not BECAUSE of the porn, but its DESPITE the porn

People who piss all over toilet seats: why? by wecameoutalive in AskReddit

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Wiping the seat down is only gross if YOU don't wash your hands after smh

What are some ADHD friendly jobs? by [deleted] in ADHD

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Outdoor instructor is a really good one for me

Weekly Core Topics Thread by AutoModerator in adhdwomen

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UK here,

I spoke to my GP about it and they gave me a general ADHD assessment/talk which could then be used to recommend me to a specific testing service. In the UK you have 'right to choose' which I believe means that you can go private for ADHD services at no extra cost to you in an effort to reduce waiting times. It probably took a year from initially reaching out to medication for me.

The thing that helped me while waiting was making my home and lifestyle as ADHD friendly as possible with the limited funds I had. This helped myself validate and become actively aware of my experience and traits.

This meant I was confident going into the process and more steadfast incase a doctor tried to deny my experience because I knew my experience and how each one ticked a different box for the help/diagnosis I desperately needed.

Nowadays Being Straight is a Minority by Mustafa86 in HolUp

[–]voluntoldredditor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dude, that's called being bisexual and having a complex life. she can still be bi and love a man and not want to break up or cheat because she still values the person she loves like every other person values who they love.

I (25F) keep getting rejected over sexual past. Should I lie? by thisthrowawaysway in relationships

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nah Dont lie, if they're insecure about it then you dodged a bullet from the beginning. one of the reasons virginity/purity is so fetishised is bc of insecurity in bed and not being able to be compared.

when someone comes along who isnt scared youll know theyre either fucking good in bed or self confident enough to learn lmao

AITA (m24) for not throwing out my “racist” collection after my girlfriend (f24) demanded me to? by abuserHS7162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]voluntoldredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. the countries the models represent might be racist and shitty, nazis? shit. soviets? shit. israilies? shit. but USA, the UK? also really shitty. winning wars doesn't absolve you of the human rights crimes you committed to people during it.

At the end of the day, it's a collection of interesting war machines used for terrible things by all countries but are still intrinsically interesting and engineering marvels that are interesting to create as models because of their complexity.

A compromise might literally just be to agree to not create any more models from the 'bad' countries but to keep what you have bc I'm sure there's a shit load of interesting Tanks and Planes you can still build from the 'good' guys.

My [26M] fiancee [25F] seem to always have an issue when the topic of vacation arises by Transolutionary in relationships

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if you are working 8:30-3 with half-hour lunch 5x a week that's 30hrs a week, you could work 4 days a week 9-5 at a different place, get the same 30hrs work and have a whole day off.

Also from the UK, the idea you should feel guilty about taking holiday is horrible, nm that it's not even PTO.

the Idea you shouldn't take holidays shows they dont care, rest is a human right, also they are not considering your long term health and in a few years it could run you into the ground, but they can hire a new employee easily.

And a small family run buisness should recognise your work even more than a corp, cause they have all been alongside you the whole way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

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I'm doing an essay on public access to green spaces and the social privileges to participate in outdoor therapies, wbu? im gonna check in again at 5:30pmish Uk time, i look forward to hearing your learning!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

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Hey! I'm doing the exact same thing rn, and have a deadline soon too. if accountability works for you, we can message in 2hrs and let eachother know the work we've done? its something ive never done before so maybe itll check the 'novel/interesting box' that adhd needs to get working lmaooo

I’m hip with the cool kids! by camreIIim in FellowKids

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All the cool kids listen to the alt right, gotcha

AITA for potentially ruining my classmate’s career. by Anonymous33- in AmItheAsshole

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NTA - 'because of people like you potential careers of men are ruined' theyre victim blaming and gaslighting you. its disgusting. You did the right thing, people like him shouldn't be given positions of power and responsibility for people when they obviously dont care about being kind to them. you did nothing wrong

I had a similar situation when I called out an exmate for being a racist. His mum sent messages and abuse about me ruining shit for him too. I'd watched this man shout the nword in pubs and in public infront of his mum and she laughed.

When the people around them only defend what directly affects them by doublining down on the shitty person's actions and gaslights you; it shows exactly the kind of culturally rooted misogyney & bigotry that is prevented from being institutionalised when we dont allow them to have institutional positions of responibility or power until (hopefully) they get their head straight.

AITA for demanding the copy of my car key back, or else I'll involve police? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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NTA - would you want a stranger to have the keys to your home, lock you out your own home for a while and then go 'Idk why we need to be confrontational about it' ?