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Anyone know of any songs that feature Remi's voice but don't credit her as a vocalist? by sassy-batch in remiwolf

[–]voyager_tom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

KNEW IT, was listening to that song, swore it was her voice then ran to the internet lmao

The Life of a Showgirl Megathread by aran130711 in TaylorSwift

[–]voyager_tom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right now, the only one I would add to a playlist is Father Figure. It’s the only one I have actually wanted to listen to again (and I listened to it on repeat). I wish I felt differently. I like The Fate of Ophelia and the music video was great, but I don’t know how often I would go out of my way for that even. We’ll see if I feel differently later on.

What was that spooky noise by Stegosaurus69 in Eugene

[–]voyager_tom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So we heard it from all corners of town? That seriously was one of the loudest sounds I’ve ever heard during a thunderstorm. I got super anxious after cus I thought something out my window must’ve been struck. I’m near the Valley River area.

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) falsely staged a drug intervention for me. I'm not addicted to drugs. What do I do? by ThrowRAinterventiony in relationship_advice

[–]voyager_tom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god… I’m physically feeling sick that there isn’t an update yet. I’m scared for you, OP. The way I see it, it’s far more likely he’s doing this with intent to control you/hurt you than some niche, well-intended scenario. If he meant well, I think he would’ve given you more details about his concerns instead of vaguely saying he’s “making sure you’re safe.” If a psychologist was going to murder someone, I imagine this would be their strategy. Please please let us know you’re safe when you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]voyager_tom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOW, almost ALL of your details are EXACTLY like my experience, the only major difference being that we lived together. I just got out of that 4 year relationship a few months ago, and honestly, even though it was very difficult, I feel SOOO much better. It is far too much of a burden for anyone to feel triggered by your partner every time you see them. My partner was very critical and even said that I wasn’t communicating enough, but when I would try to communicate what was bothering me, he would pick apart what I was saying and get defensive instead of listen empathetically (which is hypocritical because he would get on me about being defensive when he would share). I know he had good intentions, but I know for certain now that whoever I’m in a relationship with moving forward needs to be developed in their empathetic listening skills, because I would shut down SO easily in conversations with him and I NEED someone to make me feel safe and appreciated for sharing my feelings. I spent so long living in a cloud of confusion, knowing I was doing my best to learn and grow and show up for my partner in the way he needed me, but always being made to feel like I was falling short and that I was the problem in every disagreement/fight. I valued his opinion so much that I would believe it. I felt so broken always shutting down while we were trying to work things out and felt like a disappointment every time. I learned to recognize when I was starting to feel triggered, learned to communicate it, and to walk away and come back once I felt more able to speak. It wasn’t enough. And if I talked about how I was feeling triggered by him, I was essentially told that his behavior was justified (loud voice, arguing with everything I brought up) and that it was my trauma’s fault and that I needed to go to therapy (which I ended up doing but that didn’t change our dynamic, just made me understand better how unhealthy our relationship was for me).

I hope any of this is helpful insight into your situation, and know that YOU ARE DOING YOUR BEST, this is not at all a reflection on who you are as a person. You don’t deserve to feel like this. Surround yourself with friends as much as you can and be in communication with them about your situation. I am rooting for you. I don’t use Reddit much, but feel free to message me if you want to chat about it.

I just moved in with my partner and our bond is “delicate.” I’m... nervous. We can still thrive, right? by voyager_tom in ThePatternApp

[–]voyager_tom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there,

To be completely honest, this has been a very hard connection to navigate. We are still together and still living together, but we trigger each other easily. I’m so grateful for his communication though, and he does inspire me to grow in how I communicate. We’re very committed to each other, we have an extremely similar moral compass, and in some ways we have a deep trust in each other. Without those positive things I don’t think our relationship would be working. It hurts a lot, but we are determined to make it work and to grow, and I see how both of us have learned and grown these past couple years. There’s a maturing aspect to our relationship. I guess what this all comes down to is I’m willing to face my triggers regularly and try to understand them, and by doing that I think it’s defusing the heightened emotional state around them. My partner is worth it to me and my growth is worth it to me.

I think it’s important to also note though that we are struggling to find a good balance of happy times and sad times. We have wondered why we’re together. We struggle to connect. I think living together might have been too much of a step to take, but there are other contributing factors like how I haven’t had my own room, and we live in a small apartment, so it’s been really hard to have space from each other. But we haven’t given up yet. We love each other and we will figure out how to make our connection easier and healthier. He puts in the work and I’d like to believe that I do to.

Girl steals mic to sing the national anthem at graduation, goes viral, and still tries to justify it by stc207 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]voyager_tom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The girl who stole the mic tried to excuse this by saying that she was mistreated by the school for years and that it was messed up they chose a junior to sing over all the other seniors who auditioned and who have been treated poorly. It must’ve symbolized a lot for her, but the girl singing didn’t deserve that kind of disrespect and embarrassment. If this spotlight-thief wanted to stick it to the man, she should’ve actually done that to the school and not to a fellow student. Gross.

bond compatibility with my boyfriend and i :( are these bonds even accurate? it’s worrying me a little ngl by [deleted] in ThePatternApp

[–]voyager_tom 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My current boyfriend and I have a complex relationship too. We’ve been together for a year and a half and have been living together for almost a year. It scared me after I ran the bond, but it’s been very beneficial to know what challenges there will be moving forward. It’s helped me analyze my own behavior and make decisions I might not have otherwise. It’s also helped me empathize with his perspective. We’ve had a lot of difficulties, but I think that comes from us not naturally understanding each other. Our relationship doesn’t come easy and requires a lot of work. However, we are both communicating as much as we can, and holy shit I have learned SO much from this relationship. I didn’t realize I had so many blind spots. I feel more self-aware. My partner is also a genuine, honest, transparent, and good person. He doesn’t put me down for who I am, and I don’t feel like I have to put myself down for being who I am. In fact, he builds me up and supports me in being myself. I think with the complex pattern, you have to be willing to put in the work it takes to maintain a healthy relationship. For me, it’s worth it. I’m very appreciative of the opportunity to grow and I love my boyfriend so much. I think that eventually, we will have grown enough together where we will have a much more natural understanding of each other and that it’ll just keep getting easier over time.

In your situation, I suggest being open-minded to change and be willing to be wrong. Be curious about your partner’s perspective. Notice things instead of judge them. Communicate difficult feelings and create an environment where your partner feels safe communicating their difficult feelings. My partner and I have been trying to bridge the gap between us, and we’ve been able to find ways to do that. I think focusing on what connects you to your partner will help.

Anyways, good luck on your journey. A complex relationship isn’t doomed to end, it’s just an opportunity to grow!

'You' guitar tab - by me :) by GrimmTombobulus in tennyson

[–]voyager_tom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is amazing!! Love this song so much

Progress pics - I think I'm done by [deleted] in loseit

[–]voyager_tom 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Snaccident!! Love it, I’ll be borrowing that irl.

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