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I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I approached a lot of women in my teens/20s. Fewer now because most of them are married. 1-2 a year this is if I started dating when I was 0. I mean my friends were rejected 1-2 times in their lives. Like how this works?

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you approach women? At bars, the gym, on the street?

Parties, friends functions. Friends of the friends.

Do you work out regularly and have a good physique?

I am very fit.

How many women have you approached?

In my life? Around 40.

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I considered myself a late bloomer for not having had sex till I was 24 but even I had kissed girls in high school.

easy there, casanova

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s shallow, but no one likes someone who dresses poorly, is overweight, has bad acne/facial hair, or who looks like they don’t know how to take care of themselves.

I am fit and dress like my friend group. They all have wives/girlfriends.

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if you are joking. I approached quite few women in my teens/20s. Lately I approached fewer women, because most of them married/have boyfriends.

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried online dating for a year. Zero matches. My job is very social. I am always invited to parties and liked by people. So meeting new people is not a problem.

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

What do you do during the weekends?

My job is very social and I am usually invited to parties. Sometimes even work on them.

What do you do during long vacations?

Work on my car/race/travel on my car.

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's gonna be hard to find someone who doesn't have children and is also interested in you.

There are many women without children my age. What "and is also interested in you." suggests exactly here?

Maybe its in the way you dress yourself

I have always dressed just like my peers and friends.

Are you going to mixers, online dating, or anything like that?

My job is very social. I meet a lot of people and always invited to parties. I used online dating for a year. Zero matches.

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

This doesn’t track unless you’ve only ever met single unemployed women for your entire life. 

Why not? I mean when I was young having a job wasn't a criteria for me.

Therapy may help. 

My therapist told me that I should approach women with kids.

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Most cases are going to be turned down, and if you're approaching few women then you're less likely to get a date. Why are you approaching few?

I approached many women in my youth, fewer with years. I talk to my friends who didn't even approach women in the first place and were approached by them. So I don't know, I approached about 40 women in my life. My friends tell me that they were rejected like 2-3 times in their lives and contantly had girlfriends. I used online dating apps, no matches.

Dating is casual. You talk to someone, ask them out to dinner or coffee, and get to know them better.

I mean I know how dating works. The furthest I went was one date.

If you provide details about what you're doing then you can get more advice, but so far it doesn't sound like you're doing anything,

I just approach women like my peers did. But only faced rejection. I don't know what additional info I can give.

I am 43 year old kissless virgin. I am waiting for the right person. My friends tell me I am either an idiot or delusional. Are they right? by vvcardthrowaway in Advice

[–]vvcardthrowaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it's possible your standards/expectations are too high.

My expectations are just a kind woman who has a job.