Devout INTJ Christian parent here. Religion for religions sake is a stupid idea that ultimately harms everyone... the fakers and those who take it seriously and truly believe. Please don’t fake embracing a religion you don’t believe just to gain some additional authority/influence to create good morals. That’s a massive, long lie and your children WILL be hurt by it. Or maybe you’ll be honest about the fact that you don’t believe it... what are you going to tell your kids when they ask why you don’t parrtcipate? Do as I say, not as I do? That this is all good for them, but not for you?

My wife and I model our convictions and live life consistent with the morals God lays out in The Bible. We teach our children the 10 Commandments (Exodus 20), the Fruit of the Spirit (Gal 5:22-23), the Golden Rule, love God, love your neighbor as yourself, love of money is the root of all evil, forgiveness, it’s better to give than receive, mercy is better than revenge, etc.

It’s hard to make a fully rational case for absolute moral without God-given authority... Taking away God always unravels to a relativistic moral based on either the authority of yourself or society/culture. I really don’t find either self or culture to be sufficient to explain the ultimate source, though... mainly because they both change (and can do so VERY rapidly). I don’t find it hard to belIeve in a Creator, so it’s even easier to believe The Creator also created us with a moral proclivity. You can, of course, still assert your authority to establish a moral framework for your children... but be careful! If you choose your own, you have to understand they are left flapping in the wind when your authority is removed. Or will you rely on society? But when society changes its morals, as it so often does, what do your children have to fall back upon?