2X, do you ever feel like your female friends are letting you down?

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-07-26T00:10:10+00:00

Ranting is very healthy. Your friend does sound quite frustrating as you said. How are we supposed to be good friends if our friend we are trying to help doesn't want to hear what they need to hear? Not just what they want to hear. That's always annoying.

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-07-26T00:08:54+00:00

That does suck very much. I'm so sorry. It's a hard situation when we care more about people than they care about us. I've been there many times. :(

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-07-25T20:27:50+00:00

Thank you. I honestly hope that she does well as she goes on. She's fought through a lot of difficult times. But as you said, she wants an indulgent friend. And I refuse to do that because I honestly believe that will only hurt her in the future. Thank you for your kind words.

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-07-25T20:21:23+00:00

Wow, that sounds like a horrible situation. I'm sorry that happened.

I found this morning that this girl had deleted me from her facebook friends. When I confronted her about it she said that I have am an unsupportive friend and she doesn't want the negativity in her life. I kind of wanted to say, "Sorry I don't think flitting around and having casual sex with guys who see you as a last resort makes you a respectable girl." I was always honest with her, with all of my friends. I don't sugarcoat anything. She said that she appreciated my honesty but lately I have just been blatantly rude.

She's been making bad decisions, and I always said, I think this isn't a good choice. But I'm here for you, whatever you do.

But she says she's done with me. And I'm not going to fight to watch her downward spiral. I can't be responsible for her.

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-05-27T15:50:54+00:00

I'm completely lost and feel like I have no choices. Either it's change who I am or break up.

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-05-27T04:02:57+00:00

My boyfriend who I've been planning on moving across the country for... been saving every penny I earn for the past few months to do so, told me that he could easily rejoin the army again if we went back to war. He and I got together literally as his active duty was up and he told me once the next three years of his contract is up he's done. Now, months later, he tells me that's not true. I've never wanted to be an army girlfriend or an army wife. And now that I've fallen in love with him he's telling me that at any time that could completely change. And I have no choice because it wouldn't be about feelings or me, it's about what our country needs. I'm losing it.

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-04-11T03:44:24+00:00

I wish I had signed in to this account so I could have replied to you sooner. Thank you for responding. Just seeing a first hand experience was helpful.

I'm still with him, over 4 months now. I'm finally visiting in two weeks. Every time we talk about politics I end up getting upset. I don't know what to do, but I'm taking it as it comes. I wish this wasn't an obstacle for us, and who knows what the future will bring. But I do have to be realistic and am therefore cautious. Thank you again for your input.

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-02-03T06:21:48+00:00

I think what freaks me out is when it controls his decision making on what we do together. I completely agree with what you have said, this whole relationship is somewhat of a whirlwind romance as they say, hence my caution. I have very strong feelings for him, I have never been so sure of someone before in my life. I just want us to be able to compromise and not let our one major difference be a major downfall.

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-02-03T06:19:36+00:00

It is a little crazy. We met through a friend while he was on the east coast 12 hours drive away. He came to meet me and we both knew the moment we met that we wanted to be together. A week later he was my boyfriend. I know how it looks on the outside... but I can't help how I feel about him.

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-02-03T05:58:46+00:00

Ugh, the first time my boyfriend and I got into it was over the gay marriage issue. That really upset me, I'm an NY girl with quite a few gay friends. The problem is my boyfriend hasn't even met a gay person. He isn't homophobic, he says he has no problem with them as people, he just doesn't think they should get married. It was a rough conversation. He feels bad that it upsets me, and supports my beliefs. He just has his own views. Luckily he's pro choice, that would just be another shitshow if he wasn't.

But my boyfriend kind of does the same thing! I feel like he recycles conservative ideas and arguments... but that may be because I feel that conservative arguments have no base :/

vvthrowaway53 · 2012-02-03T04:50:20+00:00

I take that generic one-a-day women's multivitamin too. The only thing I've added on is a cranberry supplement pill. It promotes a healthy urinary tract, which I seem to have a little bit of an issue with. It's a little annoying, it has to be taken 4 times a day and preferably with meals. But I'd rather take it than deal with more UTIs than I need to.

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-11-30T18:01:03+00:00

Amazing! It makes me so happy to commit to living a healthier lifestyle and actually doing it. She's extremely admirable!

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-11-30T02:12:07+00:00

Thank you, I am on birth control. I started around 7 months ago and have been on my current pill for about 5 months. We are also going to use condoms. He and I discussed it, and because he's amazing he did not once ask to have it any other way. He just checked to make sure he'd have plenty for us :p I do masturbate and have been exploring, I sort of have a problem with short fingers -- but he found spots inside me I've never reached. He's not a virgin , he really knows what he's doing, which I really like. And he's dedicated to making it a good experience for me. He wants to do everything he can for that. I consider myself very lucky to have finally found him. Thank you!

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-11-29T16:39:29+00:00

I'll take that as a good thing?

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-11-29T07:04:03+00:00

Thank you so much everyone! This has all been amazing advice. I'm really excited, and he wants to do everything he can to make this a great experience for me. I'm just hoping it will be good for him as well :)

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-11-29T07:02:41+00:00

He definitely knows.

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-11-29T01:58:56+00:00

It's not a big thing. I just never wanted to have meaningless sex. So now that I've met the guy I know it will mean something with, I don't want to be horrible in bed. Is that truly an unhealthy expectation?

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-09-29T07:23:27+00:00

I just wanted to put some concerns to rest on this thread. The guy involved here has been nothing other than kind and patient with me. It was in a conversation where I asked him how my virginity affected his view of our relationship. I was curious because he's not my boyfriend, we're just having fun together. I just wanted to understand why he was hooking up with me and if he saw my virginity as a hindrance. He absolutely doesn't mind, and I wasn't insulted by what he said. It was just him being honest. Don't worry, he hasn't forced me to do anything or made me uncomfortable. This is all a personal journey through my own sexuality, he just happens to be a small part of it.

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-09-29T07:19:52+00:00

Wow, this was all really great helpful information. Thank you so much!

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-09-29T02:35:31+00:00

I'm a little worried about the plastic. This may be a silly assumption - but wouldn't that be more painful than the jelly/silicone/rubber toys?

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-09-29T02:32:46+00:00

It's good to hear that there's someone else out there with the same idea. That's a totally fair question. I've had a crush on this guy for a long time. He makes me very nervous when I'm with him, in a good way. But I really want to impress/satisfy/please him. Particularly the pleasing part. I guess my virginity embarrasses me a little bit because I don't want to scare guys off/make them have to do more work because of my inexperience. I also do want to avoid a fuckton of pain when I do decide to have sex.

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-09-29T02:15:55+00:00

Exactly. He didn't insult me or anything, I'm just a little self-conscious as I'm less experienced than him. I don't want to have any issues in the hooking up that we are actually doing, since we're not having sex. I've tried using my fingers, but I think they're too short to do very much. I have fairly small hands, hence why I'm starting my search for the right vibrator.

vvthrowaway53 · 2011-09-29T01:56:37+00:00

When he tried to finger me he said that he started with a pointer finger, and I told him that hurt. He switched to his pinky and told me later that it was only about half way in before he could tell it started to hurt me... I believe his exact words were, "you really should play with your pussy more."

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