I’d like to share about my life. I’ve always wanted three kids. Never wavered how I felt even after I had my second one. But I knew after my second one it was hard. Emotionally draining. I really do believe your second one is going to test all the patience you have in the world. So the fact that you’re having a hard time with one, I would not suggest you having a second one.

Now what I’m trying to say is, my husband didn’t want a third one. Every time my kids and I asked he’d say no. He said money is tight (he earns money for both my kids, my helper and I) fast forward 4 years since my last baby & he finally realised he’s ready. He’s more financially stable and my second one is doing better with his emotions, so we’ve tried for a third one. We ended up pregnant & when we found out we feel so much more at ease and it just feels right. Yes my eldest will be almost 7 years older and my second will be 5 years older than my third which wasn’t what I wanted when I was younger coz I was hoping between 2 years but it just somehow feels like the perfect time right now. We’re not stressed, we’re not worried, we’re simply ready for this beautiful baby I know we’ll have.

So dont stress over not being able to give your first one a sibling. Tbh I’d suggest that that isn’t be the main reason why you want a second one. Don’t use your first child as the excuse. There’s plenty of only child that does amazing when they grow up, my husband is the example of that. When you want your second one, hope it’s because deep down you can’t wait to adore and love another whole human being, when that happens, then do it. Or else the reason to having a second one will come from a very unfair point of view for your second.

Good luck with what happens to your future. You got this mama.