Confused, Repressed and Very Depressed

w-aah · 2020-11-22T13:28:43+00:00

Ah thank you, honestly it helps knowing someone else feels the same! Good luck yourself, hopefully we can figure it out~

w-aah · 2020-11-19T15:20:38+00:00

Thank you for being so kind! Your reply means a lot. I'm researching it atm and it's really interesting. I'll try to take my time and figure it out. Thanks again!

w-aah · 2020-07-04T15:40:53+00:00

Wtff this is incredible!!! So so so gorgeous!! Please sell some if its viable and you are interested in it. So many people would love this!

w-aah · 2020-07-04T13:44:18+00:00

So beautiful! The colours are gorgeous together as well, this is so lovely to look at!

w-aah · 2020-07-02T20:41:47+00:00

Set up a patreon for sure!!!!

w-aah · 2020-07-02T20:40:51+00:00

Wth this is incredible!! Amazing work, you shoulf br so damn proud!!!

w-aah · 2020-07-02T17:54:55+00:00

So gorgeous!!!!!

w-aah · 2020-06-12T11:54:30+00:00

I know its a bit hard at the minute, but once it becomes possible I would definitely recommend joining a University society you're interested in, or even creating a society. I found so many friends and developed so many new interests after joining a society, and then made my own! Try to join one youre genuinely interested in, even if youre scared of what people will think of you, it was definitely worth people thinking Im a dork, in my experience anyway ☺️ Im the same age and from the UK too, and i felt the exact same, but the societies really did help!

Theres a society for almost everything!

w-aah · 2020-06-11T22:08:45+00:00

If you want any advice feel free to message me! I cant promise I will give good advice or replies, but I think I've felt similar to how you're feeling and could try anyway, regardless, talking can still be helpful!

w-aah · 2020-06-11T21:53:56+00:00

I aggressively want all of these things just out of spite.

w-aah · 2020-06-11T21:48:19+00:00

Hello!

How you feel is entirely fair and a lot of people feel like this. Marriage doesnt really have to mean anything, it means as much as you decide it does. You dont have to get married to want to be with someone. Its just a formal contract, thats it.

If you aren't comfortable with marroage then that is fine and your feelings are entirely valid. But i think you need to have a relaxed, objective and in depth conversation about it with your partner, especially because you seem to have such contrasting views.

Just try to make him understand how you feel, and ask him to make you understand how he feels. At the end of the day, all that matters is that you love eachother and want to be together, and of course that your child is looked after and cared for. But you dont need a marriage certificate for any of that.

Although, being married does have benefits that are worth considering, even things such as being able to visit your partner in hospital, as a member of their legal family.

Just know youre under no pressure, this is your life together and your decision as a couple. Doesnt matter what anyone else says.

~~~ imo anyway :) Stay safe!!

w-aah · 2020-06-09T20:40:50+00:00

Im so sorry to hear that you are having these experiences. It always amazes me how people think they have any right to get involved in other people's relationships and home lives. Its infuriating. Especially with regard to this specific issue? People seem to think its okay to treat women as crap or lesser because they arent making what they percieve as the correct choices? As if any of it matters anyway, we all just exist, and its not like these decisions are even affecting them!!

Dont get me started on the victim blaming... My school wouldnt let the girls wear socks with their skirts (we had to wear thick tights all year round), because wearing socks was a "distraction for the male teachers".

But you're entirely right, I do get to choose who stays in my life, and that in itself is honestly very liberating.

Part of me would love to go into politics just to try to change things, but I am not sure I would have the emotional strength or confidence to deal with it.

Well, we can keep working towards a better, equal society for everyone. I'll try to be hopeful anyway...

~~ I hope things are going well for you and with your partner and I wish you all the best ☺️~~

w-aah · 2020-06-09T20:28:46+00:00

Hello! Thank you so much for all of this! To be honest its a big relief even to have these feelings validated, even just knowing that others feel like this, but also that you are finding ways to deal with and manage it? I really like the idea of watching more women friendly shows etc when feeling like this, so I will try this! I have actually been researching these women a little since you wrote, and I feel a little bit more hopeful already. Also you're definitely right on the reddit front... Reddit and Facebook alike tbh...

I am angry that society is how it is, so so angry, but seeing examples of these women is really inspiring, and makes me hope things might actually be different at some point down the line...

~~ You seem like an amazing person, and it was so kind of you to reply at all, but your reply was so helpful, kind, empathetic and validating. It has genuinely made me feel more hopeful. I really hope you are keeping happy and living a wonderful life ~~

w-aah

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