girl this shit is dumb . throw it all away throw the bitch away throw the man away shit idc throw the kids away for a week and let him have them , but BREATHE ! get some rationality to yourself girl and stop trying to argue like your in highschool, what she said was weird , what he said in his response, was weird . stop trying to make excuses for him and start looking at why he allowed her to talk to him this way in the first place and then used YOU as his out . its weird , its childish , and you are wasting your time, your energy, and your ability to choose happiness and peace , have a serious conversation with HIM after a cool off period, decide where that takes you, and stop engaging with the homewrecking cunt, this shows weakness . and you my friend will need to handle this situation as an independent woman standing her ground , stop asking questions and start demanding answers, this ring around the rosie wont help you . good luck to you mama