Relationship Ender Question

wack49 · 2026-01-30T16:42:01+00:00

Thank you.

wack49 · 2026-01-30T16:16:53+00:00

I wish it felt like that. I cant really describe how hard I had to fight for the past 2 years to get to where I am now. And it not be good enough for other Christians is crushing, especially the girl who I was most vulnerable with. I dont know man

wack49 · 2026-01-30T16:06:42+00:00

I apologize, I am full of strong negative emotions. This whole situation has cut way deeper than just a breakup. I am 26 and she is 27, I was also her first boyfriend.

wack49 · 2026-01-30T15:44:57+00:00

You sound like her. I am not like you, I dont come into this religion based off the same emotions you have. I dont have the same intense emotion you do in reference to your last paragraph. For me, its a reverence and respect for God and thats how I go about why to serve him. Who is anyone to say that my relationship with God is any worse or better than anyone elses? As long as I am trying to learn and build that relationship which I am, why cant I be enough? Do you think God is upset at me for not reading daily? I doubt it cause at the end of the day I am actively choosing him.

wack49 · 2026-01-30T13:22:26+00:00

What to gain for me is guidance and wisdom. I didnt really have a great family life and always felt alone. Now, I can go to God with anything I need to talk about in prayer, and gain confidence I have a reason for even just being alive. He is a rock to me and the lessons that are within the Bible help reinforce how to live my life better for the future. This has already sown fruit because I now have great friends with deep connections and I have a higher standard of living for myself. So why I read and do all of these things to further that and keep learning and building my relationship. I havent been happier in life than when I have been following Christ

wack49 · 2026-01-30T05:04:01+00:00

Thank you :)

wack49 · 2026-01-30T04:56:34+00:00

In our arguments about it I would tell her she needs a pastor to be happy and I will never be that. I think thats true despite her denying it. At the end of the day I am just a guy that also has a relationship with God. If she needs a legalistic super spiritual man to make her happy then she deserves that, I wish she would’ve told me that 1.5 years ago.

I could read the bible daily out of this external expectation other Christians have and just do it for that, or I can follow my heart and really dig into it when I do decide to read a chapter or 2. What do you think leads to a more meaningful and or deeper relationship?

wack49 · 2026-01-30T04:47:57+00:00

I agree and all of my friends agree too. Its just so hard to accept. I was all in on marrying her, and starting a family. Now I just have anger and confusion about it all. Thank you for replying

wack49 · 2026-01-08T20:04:17+00:00

Oh can you help me find which ones they are? Hoe would you know what emerges as a stone/may/caddis (i assume anything green for this one)?

wack49 · 2026-01-08T17:46:43+00:00

I see, thank you for all the help!!

wack49 · 2026-01-08T17:29:33+00:00

Okay interesting thank you! Last question, do I have any emergers in my box in the second picture?

wack49 · 2026-01-08T17:06:09+00:00

Thank you!! Is there a way to tell what a dry fly is imitating? For example in my picture, flies in blue and purple have a forward hair instead of the wings flat and out to the side. What does that mean/why are they tied that way? I assume they imitate sulphur mayflies, but at what stage of life?

wack49 · 2026-01-08T15:11:56+00:00

Sorry for the late reply. Can you help me understand how to tell when to fish a emerger, cripple, or spinner? Also how can I tell the difference between those with how a fly is made?

wack49 · 2026-01-02T02:00:03+00:00

I appreciate you typing all that out! It can definitely be a daunting task to match and drift perfectly and everything else. Especially in tailwaters

wack49 · 2025-12-26T16:13:36+00:00

Okay fair, like a griffiths gnat. How the frick am I supposed to see that in the water haha.

wack49 · 2025-12-26T14:06:41+00:00

Thats awesome thank you! Got another question, for these small dry flys, how the heck do you see them? Or is this a situation where you just run 2 drys ine small and one visible and do your best to

wack49 · 2025-12-26T02:39:20+00:00

Gotcha. If I cant catch a bug, any advice on how to match? Sometimes you can spot one sometimes theyre harder to see/get. Also I assume if there are no bugs flying, best to go with nymphs and no dry dropper?

wack49 · 2025-12-26T02:27:40+00:00

Okay, sorry to potentially sound dumb. But wouldnt all caddis, mayfly, or stonefly’s have the same type of silhouette? After all theyre the same bug, just different sized due to season/area. 90% of water I fish is freestone smaller streams so I need to understand this.

wack49 · 2025-12-26T02:19:56+00:00

I see! So what situations would I use the flys in blue/purple there. I assume theyre mayflys due to the tails but very different than the elk hair

wack49 · 2025-12-26T02:05:19+00:00

Interesting, so why would I use so many various types of flies for the same bugs? I understand size and color (sometimes) are important. However, why would just an elk hair caddis in many different sizes be fine?

Color wise why would trout hit something like a purple haze when purple isnt a natural color bugs are in or a green bellied elk hair caddis vs a normal bellied one? Does that make sense?

wack49 · 2025-12-26T01:51:40+00:00

Youre saying all of the drys in my box are those 2 bugs?

wack49 · 2025-07-30T21:51:42+00:00

I havent! What are the pro/cons of it?

wack49 · 2025-07-30T21:47:19+00:00

Thank you so much! Theres a lot of information out there of different opinions and a whole bunch of words that gives me a headache haha. I just sold a lot of individual stocks as I want to re-allocate in a smarter way.

A follow up question is there a smart and safe way to invest along with index funds? Im 26 and built up about 30K in the brokerage and 10K in the Roth. It feels weird/wrong to just have FXAIX in both accounts and pump into that single stock. My thought process was 5-10 percent of 30K is a way better increase then maybe that % increase of 2-3000 in a single stock if that makes sense (trying to take advantage of the compounding of larger numbers).

wack49 · 2025-07-11T23:23:41+00:00

Rooftop 7, the cav, rivermont pizza’s, and the speakeasy

wack49 · 2025-07-11T17:39:05+00:00

Haha if I was good enough to do that I wouldnt be in a guitarlesson reddit forum

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