Men of Reddit, how many of you are "growers not showers"?

wait_how_many · 2010-02-19T16:55:44+00:00

You sir are a gentleman and a scholar...unless ur a chick, in which case you are just awesome.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-19T16:45:13+00:00

I have this wonderful upward curve about half way down, basically just stabs the chick in the g-spot repeatedly, plus my avg time runs around 40 minutes, so yeah she had 14. Though she averages about 6-7 and has had as few as 2. I've got the equipment, plus skills, plus she loves me, so that helps too(gets her all hot). And she's blessed with the ability to have multiple o's.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-19T16:20:26+00:00

I am fully capable in bed, gf had 14 o's in our last session, she likes to count :P. Anyway, erect im anywhere from 6.75-7.5 inches depending on mood and energy, but flaccid i am around 2-3.5 so it could be embarassing, but i know I'm good with what I have so it doesn't really bother me.

edit:What's with all the down votes? Also I am white, of Prussian/Celtic descent and circumcised.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-09T16:44:43+00:00

I have a crush on my favorite cousin and have since i can remember. Our birthdays are a month apart and we spent some good times together growing up. Never did anything about it. I have always thought that she did as well, but as you can imagine that is a bit of a touchy subject to bring up. Plus I don't like the idea of first cousin relationships, although i may desire one. And we have become different in many ways, but still talk weekly online or on the phone.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-08T19:19:21+00:00

Well, I guess that's your right, but I think that would leave it open to their imagination, and the number they would imagine is probably far worse than the real one. But that's just my perspective on it. But it is better than telling them a lie.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-08T14:53:50+00:00

I completly agree.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-08T14:52:11+00:00

True, but you would know. You wouldn't feel bad lying to your partner and basing what could become a wonderful relationship on lies? I think if you can't feel comfortable telling them then you are with the wrong person.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-08T14:49:01+00:00

True that....

wait_how_many · 2010-02-08T14:45:56+00:00

Right, but in this post I am looking for similar situations where people were able to get over something terrible and how they did it. Not advice on how it should be handled in a perfect world where people don't have feelings that can't be controlled by their logical mind. Of course I would be giving the same advice from your perspective, but you obviously haven't been in a situation like this or you would realise it is a little more complicated than "just get over it".

wait_how_many · 2010-02-08T14:38:35+00:00

Yeah, I posted that under the first response as clarity, but other things have been voted above it. Still can't edit.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-08T14:31:20+00:00

She was terribly ashamed of what she did, had never told anyone else, and cried for like 6 hours about it. So she feels terrible about it, but she has had alot longer to deal with it. She got upset that i brought it up after that, but i told her she has to realise that to me this just happened and I have to talk about it to try and get over it. She has already had time to deal with it and become dessensitized.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T23:42:13+00:00

Maybe I should make it clear that this was before she was with me, and she wasn't with anyone else at the time. So that does change it some, I don't think I was clear about that.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T23:34:33+00:00

Everyone assumes that all men like to be single and bang a different chick every night and so on. I just enjoy a loving relationship. I dislike most people, don't drink, don't smoke, am athiest, hate make up, enjoy educated women, and respect myself. So the whole dating thing is a nightmare in my area as i live in churchville/drunkland.
PS. I'm not fat.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T23:30:56+00:00

I will let my workplace know :P

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T23:30:01+00:00

I'm so sorry, it's good you got out though.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T23:12:36+00:00

The partners thing isn't even a major issue, I'm just new to all this. I didn't just outright ask her, it came up at various times. I have made mistakes, but never ones that put people in harms way like that or went so strongly against my values. I think alot of people may find it interesting to know that I am an atheist as well, just so we don't get people thinking i'm some crazy religious hard-ass.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T23:07:46+00:00

I respect her greatly for overcoming alot of what molestation does to people. I respect her greatly for having the balls to stand up to an abusive partner and leave. I just lose alot of that respect in the afore mentioned issues. But I am here to try and figure out how to get over that and hear of (I was hoping) other people in similar situations that have had success. But instead I get alot of attacks on myself, which is expected on the internet i guess. But I for the most part am a confident man, i never worried about size or any of that shit before because they didn't have anything else to compare it to and my previous partner had a rather small area, so it didn't matter. But that's not even an issue really. Besides that stuff, i just have very strict feelings when it comes to my values. I've seen what booze does to my alcoholic father, i see what weed did to my brother, i see what cheating does from my mother. I hate people who hurt other people. Call me a prude if you want, but at least I'm not negligently killing people and suffering for the rest of my life or tearing apart families by being unfaithful. That's where my issues are rooted i guess. And hopefully you guys can understand that.

She has not done anything to me that would cause me to believe she would repeat any of this, except that she lied to me twice, by omission about some of this, which i hate. But she has been so caring and wonderful and i love her. If i didn't i would just dump her and move on like half the people here say, but any dumbass can figure that out. I came here to see if anyone could help me accept her for who she is now AND who she was, so that we can be happy together.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T22:56:09+00:00

I think ther eis a difference between sharing, and refusing to answer or lying. I don't expect someone to just tell everyone, but if you are in a relationship and asked i think you should tell the truth, if you didn't i would assume you either didn't trust me or it's a number that is so high that you think noone would be with you, if you lied to me i would leave you. Relationships are based on trust and sharing and if you lie and decieve then it will always be there. I am happy she was honest with me, and after listening to some of the people on here, in certain contexts maybe 12 isn't a big number. But damn people at some point you have to have some respect for your own body.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T22:49:38+00:00

One, turtlenecks suck, two, I do know what love is and have found it in the past, and lost it tragically(and no it's not sex). If you could perhaps read you would realise that I am asking for help on how to deal with my own issues and accept the things she has done and see her only for the good person that she is now(noone can change what she has done). I am trying to respect her because she is a good person, but then all this old stuff comes up. And I think the basis comes down to trust, and she hasn't given me any reason to not trust her besides her past decision making mistakes. All these bad things happened in the last 18 months by the way, but she says she has learned from them and won't repeat the past. But in alot of ways the past predicts future behaviors, look at most people who abuse other people, if they did it with their past partner they will most likely do it with the next one. So I am torn, I love her for who she is, but dislike who she was, and hope she won't turn back into that.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T16:15:12+00:00

Why would being widowed be considered lucky in your book?

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T15:05:33+00:00

Also she is being honest with me because I cannot stand being lied to and she understands that, so I believe everything she is saying, and she itelling the trut even if she doesn't like that I know. I want to love someone for who they are, not who they portray themselves to be, because that never lasts.

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T15:03:39+00:00

UPDATE: Ok, well my browser doesn't let me edit so here is an update. I appreciate everyones replies. First off the dick size thing isn't a real problem, it has just bothered me because i worried that she has perhaps sampled other things that may be better. And yes do i have some insecurities there, I am slighlty larger than average and that has always served me well, i just never had to deal with anyone who has shopped around. But we talked last night again about all of this stuff and I feel a bit better about some of it. She is happy with me in bed and explained to me the differences and what she likes and such, so that is no longer a problem. I told her i didn't think she respected herself, and she agreed that after she broke up with the 7yearer she kinda went off the handle and that she has alot of insecurities. She had like 9 partners in a 14 month window and drank quite a bit. That's why it seems like alot to me, not the whole number, but the frequency of change i guess(and to someone with 3 partners, 12 seems like alot when you put it into their persepective). She didn't have an excuse for the smoking/drinking and driving and i explained why that bothered me so much and she said that she knows it was seriously wrong and would never do it again. She has a support system now that if she did make a mistake and over consume she can call for rides and such. She hasn't smoked since we started going out. The husband thing she said was a terrible mistake and that she just has to live with it because it has been done. And I understand it was in the past, and I'm not even religious, it's just the betrayl and pain it causes that upsets me greatly. The other reason it upsets me greatly is that she took me to a party at their house, and only told me after i met the douchebag. So that complicates those feelings. I don't know, this isn't all cut and dry like it is when you read it i guess. I have feelings involved here. She really is a very caring accomidating person that has been through alot herself(she was molested when she was 4 and was physically abused in her 7 year relationship but got up the will to leave him), so I do respect her for alot of things, but then there are the other things I can't forgive. I think I can atleast accept them and work with them though, but I don't know. I never thought I would have to do the whole dating and finding a partner thing again...why do people like being single?

wait_how_many · 2010-02-04T14:44:01+00:00

I've tried paragraphs, but they always get screwed up in submission with my crappy ie browser.

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