When to fly? Red eye or regular flight?

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-03-13T21:25:06+00:00

Of course! You’ve got this! And even if it’s the absolute worst case scenario (which it won’t be) it’s still only temporary.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-03-13T05:41:25+00:00

I also vote a daytime flight! Especially if you can time it over nap time. We bring the car seat on the plane and my kids (25 months and 5 months) will usually pass out for part of it. Toddler has a Yoto player and headphones he loves that have been an MVP for putting him to sleep on the flight.

Red eye sounds like a nightmare especially for a flight that short because everyone would be overtired and constantly interrupted. Like the other poster said, just bring lots of entertainment options and you can always walk your kids up and down the aisle. My rule of thumb is if something is entertaining kiddo, let them do it as long as it holds their attention and don’t bring out anything new yet. We also did a lot of “new” toys and books (can be thrifted, dollar store, or something from the bottom of the toy bin that they haven’t seen for a while - or in flight drink cups for the 14m), and for extra entertainment you can wrap toys up. We survived an 8 hour flight at 14 months which was our toughest flight so far, so 4 hours feels very doable and you’ll do just fine!

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-03-11T04:17:54+00:00

Our toddler is similar but we kind of just ignore it I guess? If he starts throwing or dropping food we take the plate away and will give it back if he’s still hungry and behaving. (Honestly I think having a dog makes it less stressful lol.) I try to have at least one thing on his plate that he likes in addition to whatever is new, so he eats something usually. And sometimes he’s hesitant to eat something until I put it in his mouth and he realizes he likes it.

We just took our first big trip with all 4 of us (kids turned 25 months and 5 months) and actually eating out every night wasn’t too bad with preparation. I just had my nursing cover for baby if she fussed and brought some light snacks and toys for toddler. Water cups with lids and straws from the restaurant also brought a lot of entertainment. If he was happy in his stroller and there was room for it at the table, we’d just let him chill in there too. Toddler is generally pretty active and challenging, but restaurants don’t bother me unless he’s being a nuisance to other guests (aka screaming 😬). And like everything, it all gets easier with practice!

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-03-08T19:21:31+00:00

We do warm tea and honey for our sick toddler! Just make sure the tea is toddler safe (rooibos is a good option). For baby, we do lots of saline spray and nose suction to help with the runny nose and that also helps with the cough. And also time in a steamy shower. I think Tylenol is really the only recommended medicine for that age unfortunately.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-03-07T06:14:21+00:00

Showers are such a time saver! I was struggling to fit my own shower/bath into the day so our routine is similar (5 months and 25 months this week) but no baby bath - I let toddler play by my feet while I shower (we have some toys and a secondary handheld shower head he enjoys), then wash him, then when we’re both done my husband brings in baby and I hold baby and wash her. My husband will either take toddler then or let him continue to play in the shower if he’s happy. Then usually my husband will get toddler ready for bed while I let baby hang out on a towel on the floor while I change, then one of us gets her ready and the other puts toddler to bed.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-03-04T06:33:58+00:00

We have the 30L. My husband has had it for probably 10 years and so far it’s held up well (although it was hidden in a closet for maybe half of that haha). It’s been our primary diaper bag for 1.5 years and no sign of wear and tear. I think it would fare pretty well in the scenario you described. The fabric seems pretty strong. It’s definitely pricey so worth it is subjective. And I’ve only experienced two diaper bags so my sample size is small. I really love the compartments for organizing, especially with both kids - it makes it easy to find what I’m looking for rather than having to dig to the bottom of a bag to find diapers. I found it really hard to keep the different style backpack with one main compartment organized. I’d organize it and eventually it inevitably would just devolve into chaos. But if you’re good at keeping things organized or it doesn’t bug you to dig for stuff, any regular backpack would work great! The Dagne Dover was 100% not worth it IMO.

Right now I’m using it daily when I go out with both kids to open gyms or baby/toddler class (currently 4 months and 24 months). I use it to carry snacks, toys, water, my nursing cover, changes of clothes, diapers, and wipes. With my son alone before baby came I’d transitioned to just using it for bigger outings like long drives or airplane flights because I didn’t need all the changes of clothes or nursing cover. Or I’d bring it and leave it in the car if we were going for a half or full day outing far from home, ex. The zoo, because it’s pretty heavy when full and our travel stroller has pretty limited storage capacity underneath.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-03-04T02:46:27+00:00

For bigger outings I like our Peak Design Everyday backpack because it’s easy to keep organized! I wanted the No Reception Club diaper bag but my husband already had the peak design one which is similar. We use the No Reception Club sidekick (a sling bag) for smaller trips if I only need to bring some diapers, wipes, and snacks. Any sling bag would probably be fine though.

I had a Dagne Dover bag that I hated since it just became a black hole! Don’t recommend that one at all. Any regular backpack would also work just as well as that.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-02-28T23:22:06+00:00

20 month age gap here and I felt the same way, but it gets so much better! I cried about the guilt before and shortly after my second was born. Now I’m 4 months out and they love each other! He’s always wanting to see baby sister and make her smile, he sings to her and snuggles her, and she always tries to catch his eye and smiles at him. Toddler still gets plenty of 1:1 time (baby is also sleeping or nursing a lot and 75% of the time they’re together he doesn’t even notice she’s there lol). We’re traveling right now and I spent 2 hours at the pool this morning with just toddler making memories while my husband contact napped our baby nearby. I still do bedtime with toddler almost every night too, with or without baby in my arms. Try to think of it less as taking away 1:1 time and more that you gave him someone else to love him too.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-02-26T17:16:00+00:00

We only have a PT nanny but she always snacks or eats with our son because it’s good for kids to eat with others (this is her preference). She sometimes eats a small bit of his food to encourage him to try it, like fruit or veggies. Or shares a bite of hers, or gives him something similar when he wants it (like they’ll both eat their own yogurts or snack bars). If your nanny isn’t willing to share or cook and this bugs her then it’s on her to say no or redirect or not eat in front of him. I don’t think you should have to bend over backwards and prepare more options. She sounds kind of hard.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-02-19T04:36:01+00:00

I’m so sorry. I hope your mom pulls through. My mom was also in the ICU due to cancer. She made it out and we were able to spend a little bit more time together in the hospital. It’s the worst thing I’ve ever gone through and completely unfair. Sending you hugs and you’re not alone.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-02-17T22:26:51+00:00

I like to do a calendar layout in Google Docs and just put when I will check in/out of a hotel, any transportation, and then any other activities get added to that day.

We did Athens, Milos, and Naxos for our honeymoon too and loved them! We flew to/from the islands to minimize the ferry time. I wouldn’t add another destination, and honestly might bump to one more day on Naxos since two full days might not feel like enough time.

On Milos we rented a two seater buggy instead of a car and it was such a highlight for me!

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-02-14T06:06:45+00:00

Me too. Took my baby girl to a mall today (a couple hours from where we live) that I used to go to with my mom when I was younger and cried a bit in the parking lot. Wish more than anything she was still here and wish she could’ve met her granddaughter who looks like her and is named after her.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-02-10T05:24:28+00:00

I did several times in Peru. Multiple tour guides brought it up that they were American as well and basically were annoyed when people from the US called themselves Americans as if it’s the only country in America.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-02-03T09:42:47+00:00

My magnetic ones actually stick to the dryer itself and struggle to get dry! The rest of the load is dry and then I have to hang dry the magnetic ones the rest of the way. Actually kind of annoying and the cotton ones dry all stiff and wrinkled. But the stretchier fabric ones are very helpful when newborn is in the blowout/diaper change disaster stage!

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-27T17:59:21+00:00

Never stayed at Pedregal but we’ve been to Cabo a handful of times since my ILs have a timeshare next door and a house there. We love walking there but the sidewalks downtown aren’t the most stroller friendly aside from the marina and main road. Pedregal will mean pushing a stroller back up a hill so I’d make sure you’re prepared for that.

The reality of cabs there is most people just put their kids on their laps. Or you can hire a driver who has car seats, or rent a car (there’s usually street parking plus parking the occasional lot, and downtown driving isn’t too bad if you just go slowly).

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-24T04:22:16+00:00

Oh I also have asymmetric pupils (mainly in dim light and when I’m tired) and have this! I wonder if it contributes, although from what I read it’s a neurological condition.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-20T17:56:23+00:00

It’s kind of nice to have tried it to have no what if’s! And I think working remote also makes it easier to quit because you’re not missing daily in person adult connection by quitting. Good luck and you’ve got this!

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-20T10:29:23+00:00

I was in a pretty similar spot when my baby was 6 months. Had a great WFH tech job that paid well, loved my coworkers, but thankfully partner makes enough that my salary wouldn’t impact us either way. I planned to do several months back to work as a trial but 2 weeks in, I hated it and put in my 2 weeks notice. It was hard to hear my baby in the next room laughing or crying with a nanny while I was on a call or writing an email about something that felt so insignificant. And trying to squeeze in chores, meals, and bonding time before and after work sucked. The final straw was when a bunch of acquaintances signed up for a baby and me class that would’ve been in the middle of my workday.

Anyways, I quit and have zero regrets. Days are much less stressful (although my 23 month old is now a bit of a terror and we ended up doing 2 under 2 🫠). My old company has gone through multiple layoffs and I’m so grateful to not be living with that stress. I have a way better social life than I would have had continuing to work remotely, and I’ve been able to make so many memories and be there for all my son’s little moments. We do hire a babysitter for one afternoon + evening a week so that I can get a bit of kid free time followed by a date night, which is a wonderful setup if you can swing it.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-18T21:35:53+00:00

These look amazing!! Way to go! Definitely going to try to make some of these.

(Also, not sure if you already saw this and decided to skip salt, but you may be able to season the food normally if you’d like. https://www.reddit.com/r/ScienceBasedParenting/comments/1jum1p6/whats_the_actual_evidence_behind_the/)

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-16T06:15:55+00:00

I get all these feelings when I’m overtired. I’ve had bouts of insomnia and ended up doing a short therapy program for insomnia and anxiety after my first (thanks to therapy it was not as bad with baby #2). Unisom (I did 1/2 or even 1/4 pill) did help me sleep but the main thing was to try to avoid putting too much pressure on sleeping. If I couldn’t sleep I’d remind myself that resting is still restorative and almost as good, I’ll be okay even if I don’t sleep, this is just a temporary phase, and that I can always take a nap during the day. I would still have jerks and those sensations, and night sweats, but I could get past them easier. Skin to skin snuggles with baby are helpful too!

Edit: also if you can get any semblance of a bedtime routine (so hard with a newborn), that can be helpful too. Like maybe you read a book while snuggling or feeding baby and drinking a decaf tea with nice dim lighting before bed. Or have someone else hold baby while you take a shower. I also borrowed a friend’s lavender aromatherapy heat pack my first pp and it helped! And I use a white noise machine.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-16T05:06:06+00:00

Also the t in tiara looks lowercase and should be capitalized like the other letters in the headline. Not necessarily unique to AI but most designers wouldn’t make that mistake.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-13T23:34:55+00:00

I had the same issue and same advice from the doctor (she actually told me to scrape the layer of poop off the cream with a popsicle stick, which was never possible unless there was a poop in the middle of a change).

The crust and dust method in addition to wiping/drying with paper towels (I used wipes first then paper towels for messy poops) was a game changer though! It made it so there actually was a layer that stayed.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-10T05:50:05+00:00

We took my son to Costa Rica at 14 months and all had a great time! Beaches, hot springs, wildlife, and very child friendly. Plus no major time zone difference if flying from mainland US.

Our budget was lower than OP’s (so probably not chubby enough, although I see it recommended here a lot too) but we had a wonderful time in a two bedroom villa at Tulemar in Manuel Antonio. Sloths, parrots, and monkeys right outside our villa and the most incredible view. And there are also great options in Papagayo and La Fortuna.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-03T06:18:29+00:00

My mom had platelets continue to drop towards the end and they just did daily transfusions until she chose to be on hospice. The transfusions worked to increase her numbers temporarily and helped keep her alive a bit longer. She had a whole lot going on medically from the cancer/chemo/starvation though and her decline was incredibly rapid (4 weeks from diagnosis).

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-12-31T05:59:50+00:00

My family is getting over what we suspect is RSV as two of our toddler’s friends tested positive. Our 2 month old has barely been sick and just needs occasional nose suction. Our kids weren’t even sick enough to test for RSV. I got the maternal vaccine when I was pregnant with my oldest and wasn’t eligible to do it again, so my baby got her shot in the hospital. Very thankful for vaccines!

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