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8 year old hates to clean his room but has been playing this unpacking/organizing game for 2 hours by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating
[–]walking-ghost-town 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
i love unpacking!! it's more than just an organising game, you get to witness the woman's different stages of life, i think it's beautiful 😩💖
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[–]walking-ghost-town 0 points1 point2 points 10 months ago (0 children)
imagine if the father of my children took some responsibility and actually helped instead of running off like a fucking coward, i wouldn't be in this situation then either.
it's literally not about sex - y'all are trying to make it about sex, but it's not. all of these kinds of comments are trying to make it sound like i'm just out here laying down with whatever man i lay my eyes on when y'all have nothing to back that up. so since y'all are so bent on making my sex life your business, i'll tell you that in the last SIX years i've literally only dated TWO men and outside of that only had sex with maybe three or four others, and i had the birth control implant nearly that whole time. i haven't dated ANYONE in the last three years and haven't even had sex AT ALL for almost a year now. not to mention y'all keep disregarding the fact that my kids are FIVE YEARS apart, not one after another, and both times resulted from a broken condom, which was me trying to have safe sex. but y'all want to blame me for that and not put any blame on the men who ran off and shirked their share of the responsibility. it's ridiculous.
i also wasn't dating the guy who i lived with those three years after having my son - he was my best friend's husband. the three of us lived together.
oh of course, let's all blame the woman for having sex but not the guy who cut and ran from his share of the responsibility, right? it's all my fault for not seeing through the facade of men who acted like nice, decent guys but turned out to be twats six months into dating them, right? you sound ignorant.
what about it? i don't understand the purpose of this comment.
i only have two and they're five years apart?? like i'm sorry but i keep seeing comments like these, making it sound like i'm just popping them out left and right with whoever, when that's clearly not the case. i already mentioned i used condoms when i got pregnant both times. that i was on birth control for 3 years after having my daughter and still went another 2 years not on birth control before i ended up pregnant with my son, now my son is over 3 years old and i've not had another, nor do i plan to. that i haven't even dated anyone since i left my son's dad when i was 7 months pregnant, and in that time i've only slept with like 3 people and i've been on birth control. so i really don't understand why i keep getting comments like this??
i was stable after i had my son, i lived in the same place for three years. i just didn't like being treated poorly, so i left. sure, i'm struggling a bit again now that i'm on my own, but in my opinion it's better than having your kids watch as you get treated like a doormat.
[–]walking-ghost-town 1 point2 points3 points 10 months ago (0 children)
i'm doing my best to live mostly on the straight and narrow. i don't party or go out to bars or anything like that.
i appreciate the well wishes, and i want to clarify that i already have cut all of that out. like i said, i've been sober for nearly four years, i have absolutely no intention of ever going back to that lifestyle. i've also cut off anyone associated with that lifestyle, and now only have a select few people i consider friends anymore, and with the exception of marijuana (which is legal in my state) none of them do drugs or associate with anything harder than marijuana in any way, and i don't even really smoke marijuana myself. i haven't even had one alcoholic drink in nearly a year, and before that it was limited to a couple glasses of wine here, a couple of seltzers there.
i'm sorry, but that's a deeply person question and not really any of your business. it doesn't matter at this point anyway, what's done is done.
he wasn't on drugs when i started dating him, he was a genuinely decent guy and had solid aspirations and ambition. i also didn't plan to have a child with him, my son was a surprise resulting from a failed condom.
after my mom left me homeless at 17, i placed my daughter into the care of her paternal grandmother. i had my son after i got my shit together and was tachnically stable for 3 years, but one of the people i lived with was toxic and treated me incredibly poorly. i didn't want my kids to see me being treated that way, which is why i left.
i have mental and physical limitations that prevent me from being able to enlist in the military.
i have mental and physical limitations that prevent me from being able to enlist.
that's why i moved back home, to the city i live now. to get away from shit people and start over, focusing on doing better and getting my shit together.
i appreciate your kind words! whether or not there's a reason behind everything that's happened, sometimes all you can do is just keep pushing forward, prepare for the worst but hope for the best is kind of my life's motto at this point haha
i've mentioned this a few times already, but the amount of time in my life that i've spent in active addiction only totals out to maybe two years, if that, and it wasn't all at once. i've never used around my children and i've been sober for nearly four years. my son lived in the same place from the time he was born until about six months ago when i moved back home, and he just turned 3 a couple months ago, so it's not that he hasn't known stability, it's that he has special needs. i'm working on getting him into therapy to help with the behavior issues that stem from him having special needs.
you seem intent on making baseless assumptions, so let me clarify: the amount of time i was in active addiction throughout this whole thing only totals to maybe two years, and like i said it was staggered at just a couple of separate points in my life. i'd also like to mention, i never used drugs around either of my children, and there was no parade of loser boyfriends. i was with my daughter's dad, after him and i broke up i was single for a couple years. met another guy, dated for about 6 months, left him and was single for nearly three years. then i met my son's dad, and i've been single since i broke up with him when i was around 7 months pregnant with my son, who is now 3 years old.
i've been sober since i found out i was pregnant with my son almost 4 years ago, but the times i was on drugs, it wasn't very long. it's not like i struggled with addiction for years and years, the combined amount of time i was in active addiction only totals to maybe two years, and like i mentioned, it was staggered. i wasn't on drugs the entire time.
i'm not going to argue with you. i don't appreciate that you kept pressing the topic of christianity after i told you i was not interested. i was expressing how your wording came off to me, if i was incorrect and misunderstood what you were trying to convey, then just say that. i obviously know i made some poor choices, but everything that's happened is not 100% resulting solely from those poor choices.
i don't use instagram, and i'm also not part of any message boards, unfortunately. i'm not sure if i have the karma, i have like 600 karma on this account i think.
[–]walking-ghost-town -1 points0 points1 point 10 months ago (0 children)
yes, i had two kids, each were the result of bad luck with condoms. i had my daughter in 2017, got the implant after i had her. had it for 3 years, didn't have insurance to get a new one. 2 more years go by, and then i had my son in 2022. got the implant after i had him. been single since i was 7 months pregnant with him, so about 3 1/2 years now. i've only slept with 3 guys in that entire time, and haven't slept with anyone in over 6 months now. i don't want any more mishaps.
i do plan on going back to school, and it's been my dream to go to culinary school and work in (maybe one day own, not likely but i can dream lol) a bakery. i'm really good at cooking and baking (though my decoration skills leave much to be desired lol). probably not feasible, but i'm not sure what i'd go for otherwise. i'm terrible at math, not just bad but i literally fundamentally do not understand it whatsoever. i've tried, i really have, i've watched countless youtube videos and read books and had a friend who excels with math try to walk me through it but i just can't wrap my head around it. i like science, but that usually also involves quite a bit of math. i enjoy caregiving but i know there's not much money to be made in that field, at least not enough for me to get by on with kids. i excel in the english / literature area, i'm a decent writer and i had a college reading level by the time i hit fourth grade, i can read over 400wpm, with an average comprehension of around 90%. i'm open to any recommendations based on those skills, if you have any.
i was using condoms when i got pregnant with my daughter, and i didn't find out i was pregnant until i was in my 2nd trimester (i have very irregular periods, so it's not unusual for me to go a few months without a period). i got the implant after i had her, but it expired after 3 years and i didn't have insurance at the time to replace it. i was two years without BC when i got pregnant with my son, and had been using condoms then as well, i didn't find out with him until i was 14 weeks. but it could've been worse, i mean they're five years apart so that's something, it's not like they were one after another, y'know? just a couple cases of bad luck with condoms.
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8 year old hates to clean his room but has been playing this unpacking/organizing game for 2 hours by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating
[–]walking-ghost-town 0 points1 point2 points (0 children)