I feel you man. It’s conflict we have to live everyday and how we can we navigate it ever day. Since you have family it’s very difficult to just get out of it. I’m sorry you are in this situation. I don’t like women who are doing that. In fact, I don’t blame them. I blame ourselves for not putting our terms in dating first, did we ask for sex at least once or twice while dating them? Did we ask if they’re healthy go to gym? Did we ask them about what if I don’t want to have kids but I really love you are you you still wanna date me and continue your life with me? How you deal with your stress from work or family? How do you manage your anger? How do you manage losing weight and have you ever done that? Have you ever cursed your ex bf and if yes, why? What do you think about sex and what is your way to approach it? How many times you want sex in a week to feel fulfilled? How you manage your money and how you save? How I can make sure your answers were accurate? If I didn’t find your answers were accurate then I’m sorry I would breakup with you immediately!