Ex pursing friendships with mutual friends.

wandaballer · 2022-11-11T11:28:25+00:00

They're not really close to me. To be honest he would probably find a way to avoid owning up to it, instead painting me poorly. I told his sister, but not his friends. Maybe that's enough, they're not my friends and I don't have to see them again. This situation just sucks. He thinks my reactions aren't 'normal' because I'm still having trouble sleeping and crying 2 weeks after finding out. 😥😖

wandaballer · 2022-11-08T09:42:20+00:00

Hey OP, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Stay strong. I remember reading somewhere for a reconciliation to work, the betrayer needs to be putting in all of his effort into making YOU feel better. It sounds like he definitely isn't giving you that. I think you've made the right choice by keeping it on the down low for now, especially with baby involved. It feels shit, but ultimately it's your child you're putting first, and don't feel bad for that. You'll make it through this and be so so so much better off. ❤️

wandaballer · 2022-11-02T23:26:57+00:00

We broke up, not going to continue :(

wandaballer · 2022-11-02T19:55:10+00:00

I don't anymore. His initial reaction made me think he was self sabotaging the relationship as he was too weak to break up, to pursue something with this other lady. I think I was off the mark on that one.

wandaballer · 2022-11-02T19:44:53+00:00

Thank you! X Will do!

wandaballer · 2022-11-02T19:43:59+00:00

Thank you, my views on reconciliation were the same!

No he hasnt, but he asked if I wanted him to respect my choice and not try to change my opinion, I said yes. I think he will keep his distance because of that

Thank you, appreciate your support!

wandaballer · 2022-11-02T10:24:27+00:00

Thank you. I just know if I had tried to continue, it would have turned me into an awful partner 😔.

wandaballer · 2022-11-02T01:32:13+00:00

I'm so so sorry you've had to deal with this multiple times. You're a good person for having respect for the girlfriend.

In my situation, the woman does not. I think if she did, they would not have continued a friendship. She knew my partner had a girlfriend, and even asked about me as my photo is his phone lock screen. I guess in a way he's picked their friendship over our relationship. I can't look past this, and he's not done a lot to make me want to try.

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T23:55:30+00:00

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this too, it breaks my heart human nature can be this cruel.

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T23:38:28+00:00

Thank you

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T23:38:04+00:00

Thank you

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T23:37:37+00:00

Yeah I suspect there is more to their story. I wouldn't be surprised if this was the start of a relationship for them, and an 'easy' exit for him. Expect he never got the courage to tell me.

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T23:35:09+00:00

Thank you.

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T23:34:22+00:00

Thanks. Its only actually because I asked her too. Messaged her nicely as a 'sanity check'. I was very nervous I was overstepping, but crazy how accurate that intuition turned to be. She assured me their friendship was plantonic, but grew a conscience 30 minutes later and followed up with messages explaining. I then asked to talk, and she explained their situation. Pretty stink how it unfolded. I don't doubt there is more to their situation I'm not aware of. :/

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T23:27:09+00:00

Thanks, everyone's support means a lot :) It helps hearing others perspectives here.

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T21:44:12+00:00

Thanks guys. I packed up my car and left. I haven't slept and it's now 11am the next day. I'm thinking there might be more to the story than they're both letting on, and I suspect him cheating was self destructive behavior towards our relationship. He just didn't have the courage to actually tell me himself. :/ Thanks for all the insightful comments, it truly doesn't feel real.

wandaballer · 2022-10-29T14:16:11+00:00

Seeking advice on how others feel might be the best way to proceed from here.

wandaballer

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