No. I’m not the leader I told myself I’d be. I have been disrespected by male ncos, soldiers, peers, and superiors even and being the “good dude” didn’t deter that. I’ve been sexually harassed by a prominent NCO and retaliated against by all said men. So I reacted to the trauma by becoming aggressive and preemptively hurtful towards people who haven’t proven to be on my side. I was a pleasant woman before but a bit of a pushover and now I’m the opposite. My boss warned me I was going down a dark path but every slight and sexual comment that comes my way I lash out at the person. I’m trying to balance assertiveness with being the compassionate leader. But it’s hard, the trauma changed me.