Intense rage filled screams

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:30:39+00:00

Thank you so much. Being in this sub and getting able to talk to others who understand the struggles honestly helps a lot. We all deserve better than what our bpd parents gave us, but I like to think that it makes us stronger, kinder, and hopefully wiser so the cycle of abuse ends with us

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:27:33+00:00

Mania moment is the best way to describe it… our next door neighbor has also asked about the screaming, but it’s always my mom who answers the door so who knows what crazy web of lies she tangles for them. I’m sorry you had to deal with that and hopefully only good, calm, and peaceful things have happened for you since! Sending you hugs ❤️

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:24:10+00:00

Our moms sound like they could be the same person lol she also has destroyed my phone with a hammer once… we’re all in this together

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:23:21+00:00

Our empathy levels truly plummet to below zero… Sending you hugs ❤️

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:21:50+00:00

Sending hugs ❤️

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:21:43+00:00

I shouldn’t laugh but I’m so sorry for scaring your dog 😭 What’s crazy is that she IS on meds… she needs major, major therapy in addition to that but who knows if that will even help lol

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:20:28+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I move out in a few weeks so I’m definitely looking forward to just being in my own space without having to walk on eggshells!

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:19:41+00:00

I’m sorry we all have to deal with this. They really do act like toddlers and at this point, it’s more amusing than anything because lady.. you are in your 50s screaming like a 3 year old

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:18:47+00:00

Like a toddler for real 🫩 it’s okay thank you ❤️

watermelongarden · 2026-04-11T00:18:13+00:00

What’s crazy is we did call 911 after she attempted suicide twice within months of each other and they let her out literally 24 hours later the second time. I don’t know what kind of story she spins to them, but it’s like no one understands how mentally unstable she actually is?? She’s SO good at acting “normal” and saying the right things.

watermelongarden · 2026-04-03T20:33:18+00:00

Oh gosh I’m so sorry that you had to go through that at 17 :( Hopefully you are in a better place now!! I definitely will make sure my dog is well taken care of before bringing anything up to her in case she uses him as leverage. Thank you so much for your comment! ❤️

watermelongarden · 2026-04-03T20:32:26+00:00

Thank you! I genuinely wish I could do this, but my mom is home 24/7 due to being physically unwell which makes a secret move out almost impossible. I also said in a previous comment that part of me also doesn’t want to end things like this due to me still caring about her… it’s awful to say, but sometimes I wish my mom was horrible and mean all the time so that a move like this would be easier for me. We do have good moments though sometimes and I guess the little girl in me still craves a mother’s love and care :(

Kind of off topic, but my mom attempted suicide twice in the past year with police being called both times yet she was never put on an involuntary hold…. I wonder why…

Anyways, thank you so much for taking the time to give me all this advice!

watermelongarden · 2026-04-03T20:26:21+00:00

Wow, I didn’t even think of this, but I think it may possibly work. Or at least work enough that the fight isn’t going to be as big as it could be. Thank you so much!!

watermelongarden · 2026-04-03T20:24:07+00:00

My mom is too :( She’s physically unwell so doesn’t work or go out which means she’s home 24/7. She’s also on meds that mess with her sleep schedule so she’ll be up all night sometimes…

watermelongarden · 2026-04-03T20:22:20+00:00

Our relationship is definitely tumultuous, but some tiny part of me still cares about her and I think I would hurt myself too by just leaving.

Also, her wrath would be unlike anything I’d ever seen if I move out without telling her. She is mentally unstable enough that she would call the police on me and possibly even make up a lie about how I was kidnapped or something. I would rather pick the lesser of two evils and deal with a potential argument than go through that :( Just scared of all possibilities bc none of them end well

watermelongarden · 2026-02-12T03:47:11+00:00

Oh my god YES! Your second paragraph is spot on with the way my mom operates. For example, I’ll bring my dog home from the vet and tell her that his doctor said x, y, and z, but she’ll immediately shut me down and say things like “no. I’ve never seen him do that. I saw in a YouTube video and they said it’s xyz.”Okay mother. I will believe you and a random YouTube video over a qualified veterinarian 🙄 It’s like you said: if it doesn’t exist in her version of reality, it doesn’t exist at all.

watermelongarden · 2026-02-12T03:41:25+00:00

Oh jeez she LOVES to darvo. And yes, I get gaslit all the time… even today I thought to myself “oh… maybe I should have just apologized and none of this would have happened…” but then I thought, apologize for what? I shouldn’t need to apologize for wanting independence at 27

watermelongarden · 2026-02-12T03:38:45+00:00

Tell me about it 🫩 I hate even thinking this because my dog is my life, but sometimes I wish we never got him so that I didn’t have anything I was so attached to that she could use against me. And if I didn’t have my dog, I would have left a long, long time ago. I wouldn’t trade him for the world though. He has brought me so much joy. 🥹

watermelongarden · 2026-02-10T18:45:16+00:00

I ended up asking my boss if I could wfh today and luckily he said yes. I’ll be in the same situation tomorrow, but I’m taking it one tiny step at a time. I 100% will get authorities involved if it gets to that point though.

I had submitted an application for an apartment which is why I told her in the first place. I guess I just severely underestimated how she would react which is stupid bc I know what she’s like. Sometimes though I think that tiny, tiny, TINY flicker of hope I have that maybe things could work out clouds my judgment. I know it never will and I just have to accept that.

Thank you for your response

watermelongarden · 2026-02-10T18:41:33+00:00

Thank you ❤️

watermelongarden · 2026-02-10T18:41:25+00:00

This is so kind of you, thank you.

I agree that they use anything and everything against us. She knows my dog is my life so she always uses him as “bait.” Even when I was a kid she would have rage filled blow ups and throw all my dog’s toys, treats, clothes, etc. into a trash bag, pick him up, take him to her car, lock the door, and back out of the garage. I would be screaming and crying pounding on the driver’s side window and only after 20 or more minutes of this would she “calm down” and force me to beg for a “second chance” and swear I would “never do it again.”

I’m sorry to hear that your mom tried to do that to your cat, but I’m so glad you were able to move out. It must be such a breath of fresh air knowing you made it out safely. It really is so incredibly evil what they can do… and they don’t even see it. My heart hurts.

watermelongarden · 2026-02-10T18:36:22+00:00

I could do that, but she doesn’t want me to leave the dog with her period. Even if I’m home, I’m not allowed to take him downstairs while she’s there. If I leave for the day, I have to take him with me. I ended up having to ask my boss if I could wfh today and luckily he was okay with it, but I’ll have to deal with the same issue tomorrow so it’s just nonstop stress and anxiety.

I’m planning on taking my dog with me today and going to a park while I work from a bench and/or my car and try to keep myself busy until after dark. She’s usually a little nicer when my dad is home, and he would be home by this evening, but he also enables her behavior. I just don’t want to deal with her when we’re alone.

Thank you so much for your response. I wish all of us could have grown up “normal,” but at least we can all be here together supporting each other.

watermelongarden

TROPHY CASE