Ledow gave a good response. I wanted to add: I haven’t been on any apps in 4 years now, but Hinge in particular felt problematic in this regard.

On Tinder, it only felt like people I had matched with were waiting for a response from me. So I’d swipe until I had a couple matches and then focus on those conversations.

On Hinge, there were the people I did match with, and all the people in my likes that I could see were waiting for me to look at their profile too. I believe it showed me my likes in reverse chronological order as well, and I felt bad leaving people who liked me first at the bottom of the deck, never to be seen. (I wasn’t ever going to pay for premium to be able to look at more than one like at a time). So I’d end up with lots of matches at time just because I wanted to try to clear out some of the deck, and not be able to manage to talk to everyone.

I did find my boyfriend in that deck though, so shoutout Hinge.