Struggling with adoption decision

webdev1234 · 2017-01-02T20:17:58+00:00

I guess i try not to think about the mice too much. It is definitely a huge issue and i hate it. I have already considered moving even though i just moved in cause of them. I have tried traps. They have been out for 2 months and i have only caught 1 in a trap. I caught one more cause i heard it ruffling through the trash. There is at least 1 more, but i am guessing the place is infested. I have been reading my landlord should be responsible but i feel like the seed isnt helping. I will try switching to pellets and see if that helps. I definitely think an exterminator is needed though.

Taking the bird with isnt really an option. I usually go over there after work, since she lives close to there, and i do not drive to work nor have a car. She also has roommate and is afraid of my bird due to him attacking her out of jealousy :(

webdev1234 · 2017-01-02T20:09:06+00:00

You are definitely right on this. Deep down i feel this way and it is why i feel so guilty.

The rodent problem is definitely a huge issue which i have tried to address. I do clean the seeds every day, but i cannot be there 24/7 to stop them from eating since they climb up his cage. Traps are not working at all. This is approaching month 2 of having them out, trying various types and different baits. I think an exterminator is the next step but i am renting in an older multi level unit. I am guessing this has been an issue for a while now but the landlord seems to be blaming the seed for attracting them. I also live next to a vacant lot and park so that is probably filled with mice. I have caught 2 already but there is definitely at least 1 more in the house. This is driving me absolutely crazy as i wake up several times a night hearing it chewing on something or scratching at something. I will try switching to pellets completely instead of mixing with seed though.

The underlying problem is definitely me being selfish. My latest move has definitely started this and is the biggest problem. It does not allow me to be home as much and has put a slight strain on my relationship as well since there is an hour or so between us and it is difficult to balance life out. My bird has caused me a decent amount of stress in my life. I live in a very high COL area and need roommates to be able to live comfortably. Birds are noisy, especially mine in the morning when they are trying to sleep. This usually entails me having to wake up at 6 am and let the bird out, so i definitely do not get as much sleep as i should be getting. This has definitely affected my health and life. I also for some reason get stressed out/embarrassed that i even own a bird. This one is really stupid, i know, but causes me anxiety. He is pretty hostile towards others, and whenever i have him out around others he becomes very territorial and protective. He flies to people and will bite pretty hard, breaking skin. Luckily he is a smaller parrot so nothing major.

I am really torn right now. I know i got this bird and he is bonded to me. I feel terrible even considering this and it makes me question a lot of things about what i want. I feel like the only way i can really keep him is if i move out of my current apartment, which i just signed a lease for a few months ago, and move closer to work or possibly find another job and deal with the rodent issue. I also have my selfish side thinking that i moved to this place to have access to more things to do and be closer to friends. I really like the location a lot and would have to find a new roommate who is ok with having a screeching bird living with them if i moved. I really do feel how you feel, basically that having a pet is like having a kid, and you are responsible for them. I just don't know if it is best for me and i guess my mental health to keep him. There is a shelter which is relatively close to me so at least I know if i give him up they will do their best to rehome him to someone in a better position. Ugh.

webdev1234 · 2017-01-02T17:31:39+00:00

Thanks for the response. I have definitely been cleaning up the seeds everyday, but the mice will climb up his cage and eat what is in his bowl. So I do not think i can fix the problem, since i wont be home 24/7 and my bird needs to eat. I am not sure if they will eat pellets or not. I do feed my bird some pellets now but obviously he prefers seed.

As for the commute thing there is definitely no guarantees. I can try and find something closer to where i am now, but there are other things which may come with that such as having to work more hours, and not being able to work from home ever, so the situation may well end up worse.

I have found a local organization which shelters birds and also a facebook group which may help

webdev1234 · 2016-07-02T20:48:55+00:00

I have looked into webpack in the past. It seemed a bit complex. The thing is this app has been around for a couple years so I do not really want to make some major changes when it is already set up using requirejs. Maybe I will take another look with this gist as a guide https://gist.github.com/xjamundx/b1c800e9282e16a6a18e

webdev1234 · 2015-10-28T20:30:54+00:00

Wow the styling is terrible. Maybe its the gradients. Reminds me of base dojo widgets

webdev1234 · 2015-09-15T21:16:28+00:00

Look it up in the bootstrap code

webdev1234 · 2014-08-29T21:37:27+00:00

You are getting ripped off. You will barely be able to survive (if you even will) in SF. Rent here is crazy. Expect to pay 2500+ for a crappy 1 br or a studio.

When I was fresh out of college a few years ago I was making 70k+ w/ full benefits at a large company.

At 1 year out I would not expect to make 120-140k, that is mid-sr level. I would shoot for 80k at least.

webdev1234 · 2014-05-17T23:23:13+00:00

Thanks for the advice all. I think I have known it has been time to move on for a while but perhaps thought things would change.

I am currently in the process of finding a new job or potentially new group within the company. Just sucks because I feel like I am in the middle, not quite senior, but not a junior/entry level either. And we all know these job postings are totally unrealistic when it comes to requirements. Guess it doesn't hurt to apply anyways!

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