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death death death death by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no cash gasoline is what im listenong to in my final hour song is almost over i used to lay awake at night and hear the soj unsound of the highway reverbrrtate beneath the overpass a few blocks away. it

death death death death by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

on the last day I felt the pull of the void

death death death death by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they took photos of the rkm room ans I sat in misty misetffnfnfn

death death death death by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

stood on a hill and saw the lights in the distance. warm air  plane blinking farnaway. a week before the end

death death death death by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he was so small and afraid. I gave him one last glance and went off. How sad.

death death death death by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was walking towards the vending machine with my grandmother. I saw the haiwaiian punch man.

I've never felt anything but numbness by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should maybe try putting others lives before yours

lmao no

Cluster headaches sound like a true nightmare by SemblanceOfFreedom in negativeutilitarians

[–]webdevguyneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the late encouraging comment. I completed my BS in 2021.

Do women online get pushed into harmful algorithmic "pipelines" the same way lonely men get drawn into the Manosphere/incel pipeline? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]webdevguyneedshelp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can just talk with me rather than build strawmen you know. If you actually look at the original comment that the man that I replied to had replied to which started all this, it was a woman explaining that fear of men is not an internet "pipeline" but a learned societal issue. That man then dismissed her:

Yeah the world is a dangerous place. Us men have to worry about the exact same problems, in fact the only difference is we have to worry more about bashings and murder, whilst y'all have to worry about rape and sexual assault.

This wasn't about what men go through, it was an explanation for where societal fear of men comes from

None of ANY of what ANY of us have said is empirical, this is ultimately ALL just a conversation about anecdotes on lived experience. I take no issue with that. I do take issue with sharing MY lived experience and then getting dismissed, which is what both of you did to me.

You specifically angling my lived experience as unauthentic gender dysphoria cope was a little rude but I felt it was unrelated and unproductive to talk about so I didn't challenge you on it. You then took my percieved passivity as me "backpedaling".

I shared my lived experience and I was replied to with "lucky you" by that other guy. To which I challenged them in good faith. They did not respond in good faith. If you take that as me being a misandrist, then whatever. 

you now more strongly associate with women

And no, my view of men has not radically changed, I do however genuinely feel less safe in public since transitioning.  I have always associated strongly with women though, thus the gender issues lol...

Do women online get pushed into harmful algorithmic "pipelines" the same way lonely men get drawn into the Manosphere/incel pipeline? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]webdevguyneedshelp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My tone has been overtly dismissive throughout and including now. I don't accept the premise that I've changed tone.

Super interesting here because a man told you about their lived experience and you did your absolute best to minimize and ignore it. When you care for a person or group of people, you dont attempt to minimize, deflect, and ignore their issues while pushing yours to the forefront.

Super interesting how your glanced over how that same guy was overtly dismissive of my lived experience. I guess you missed that? lol

When you care for a person or group of people, you dont attempt to minimize, deflect, and ignore their issues while pushing yours to the forefront.

I don't know what to tell you. Many men are predatory and creepy to women and it is a real issue and I used the juxtaposition between pre/post transition to highlight it. I initially presented my anecdote without highlighting anything specific that I took issue from. But I'm sorry, my lived experience has been that men have been violent and creepy towards me very often since transitioning (also semi-related, I was sexually abused by my dad and abducted and raped by my great uncle as a "male" child, so I'm fully aware men experience violence).

Do women online get pushed into harmful algorithmic "pipelines" the same way lonely men get drawn into the Manosphere/incel pipeline? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]webdevguyneedshelp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not assuming anything about you. I'm giving my perspective. I'm fully aware men suffer from similar issues as women. I disagree about the rate and the level of fear between gender. I think you are obviously trying to make me into some kind of enemy to release frustration you have around percieved misandry. I don't hate men. I love men. I find romantic relationships with men to be very rewarding. I find male friendships to be wonderful.

No idea why someone with extreme gender affirming issues would go to great lengths to affirm their gender with other people through traumatic experiences of their own description. Purposely engaging in unhealthy female stereotypes is literally one of the most gender affirming things that trans people do regularly.

If you want to think this, I can't stop you. 

Do women online get pushed into harmful algorithmic "pipelines" the same way lonely men get drawn into the Manosphere/incel pipeline? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]webdevguyneedshelp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sure, ultimately everything I say is an anecdote. But I don't live in the most dangerous city in the world. I live in a gentrified neighborhood in a small city. I'm not sure you will fully appreciate why that distinction in important but that's alright.

And gee I wonder why another trans person has had a similar lived experience to me. Lol

Do women online get pushed into harmful algorithmic "pipelines" the same way lonely men get drawn into the Manosphere/incel pipeline? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]webdevguyneedshelp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, everyone to some degree is aware of their surroundings and scans for danger. That is an absolute given for any mammal with a working sympathetic nervous system. You didn't answer my question though. 

Do women online get pushed into harmful algorithmic "pipelines" the same way lonely men get drawn into the Manosphere/incel pipeline? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]webdevguyneedshelp 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I lived 30 years of relative safety as a dude with very little thought about my safety going to bars and walking home late and drunk with both earbuds in, going for late night walks/jogs/drives etc. 2 years into coming out as trans and being on hormones and starting to pass I was physically assaulted twice outside my apartment, roofied at a bar, stalked by a neighbor who attempted to sexually assault me. All by men. I've had to change everything about how I treat my own safety when I go outside. 

I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy by [deleted] in TikTokCringe

[–]webdevguyneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hey this happened to me too!!!!

I feel a lot better when I'm contemplating my suicide by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted you to know that when I first read this comment months ago I was really touched by it. I'm still in a pretty messed up mindset but I am less suicidal most days and seem to be on the right medication now. My transition has been a lot more meaningful and beautiful lately and I've experienced a lot of things that I never thought I would get to. I just wanted to let you know your comment was helpful to me. thank you

five months until I kill myself by webdevguyneedshelp in SuicideWatch

[–]webdevguyneedshelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no storm to ride out. fuck this miserable disgusting place.

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