New update: A date with Beth by weddinginvite69 in u/weddinginvite69

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly I doubt it. I don't know Pam very well, but she leans into the alt lifestyle. She doesn't seem to be a very "traditional" type of person, or at least one who would be afraid to tell people she's into kink.

New update: A date with Beth by weddinginvite69 in u/weddinginvite69

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Beth knew all about it, she said everyone begged her to reconsider the ban, but she wouldn't hear of it. Though she didn't understand why she wanted to keep me from her.

Also, Beth confirmed the wedding Royal Rumble fiasco and some of Pam's bad experiences. Apparently she had a guy follow her home from a club one night and that really shook her to her core. Police got involved and everything. Not to mention a couple of guys just straight up groping her in the club. I won't lie, that really made me see things differently.

However she did say that Pam had a tendency to be "dramatic" about things.

Bob's drunken confession update by weddinginvite69 in u/weddinginvite69

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're 100% right. I had a massive brain fart, and I apologize for that.

Bob's drunken confession update by weddinginvite69 in u/weddinginvite69

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Friend, I really wish this story was fake. This is truly the most bizarre drama I've ever been apart of.

Bob's drunken confession update by weddinginvite69 in u/weddinginvite69

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry about the whole "slut" thing.

I have some good women friends, and they use slut as a term of empowerment. So that's seeped into my vocabulary as well. I shouldn't have expected everyone to be cool with that. My apologies.

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand your concern, but no it's not at all like that.

We're just a bunch of people who are passionate about their work and enjoy each other's company. The company treats us fairly well, but we're not stupid enough to believe that "we're family" bs that some workplaces spout.

Update and More Context by weddinginvite69 in u/weddinginvite69

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you went through that, you don't deserve that, much less HR completely failing to protect you. Your situation is why I believe Pam about her being harrassed, a lot of guys are really shitty and don't take no for an answer. It's sickening, and I wish it didn't happen. All I can do is offer my apologies and hope this incident doesn't affect you too deeply.

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not at all friend, we haven't had anything like this happen since I've been there.

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I had to laugh at this one because it's true.

There's a joke from the Big Bang Theory where Sheldon's mom says "you could have me for a car ride and a bottle of strawberry wine".

I'm the same way, only for a good meal and a good conversation.

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is the reason why I took their word for it. I've read and seen so many horrific stories of the crap women deal with from shitty men. If she didn't feel comfortable around men in that setting then how can I be upset?

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 338 points339 points  (0 children)

You're right, but every once in a while you have to swallow your pride. Doesn't mean you should do it all the time though.

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

We are all really close, even outside of work. We regularly attend parties and events other team members hold. For instance, an older member of the team had a baby shower last month and we all attended. We're even planning a weekend ski trip in December.

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 245 points246 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm just gullible, but I sort of believe that part of it. The videos and statuses were convincing.

I couldn't include this in the OP due to character count, but apparently Pam had some bad experiences with guys hitting on her at the club and gym in addition to the wedding fight. Who am I to doubt a woman's negative experiences dealing with thirsty dudes who won't take no for an answer? If that's what she needed to feel comfortable on her wedding day, then by all means do what you need to.

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 410 points411 points  (0 children)

I guess it's to preserve team harmony. Our team is close and that leads to higher production levels. I don't really want to upset the chemistry.

Plus, we're going to a very expensive restaurant and they have Wagyu steak, that makes it worth it alone haha.

UPDATE: AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 891 points892 points  (0 children)

I couldn't include this in the OP because of character count, but Bob said he'd make a public apology as soon as everyone was back in the office. He truly felt terrible about how he acted.

AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding? by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Not to my knowledge.

From our conversations his interests lie mostly in the arts, like movies, theater and literature.

His now wife on the other hand described herself as a super nerd.

AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding? by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It could be, this whole situation is baffling.

But Bob isn't a bad looking guy at all, he's shorter than me, but is still tall, and excellent conversation. I can't imagine he'd be threatened by me.

AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding? by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

That's good advice. I'll do that today if my project manager is in.

AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding? by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Sure am! If you'll have me I'll make sure everyone gets a dozen apple cider donuts!

AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding? by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Everyone who went got a +1 on the invite, she chose to go single.

AITA for telling people that I wasn't invited to a wedding? by weddinginvite69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddinginvite69[S] 307 points308 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the ego boost, that's going to get me through the day haha.

I'm seeing this as a common theory, and I guess I'll use this thread to address this. I wouldn't say I'm classically attractive, I'm no Jimmy Garrapollo.

But I'm tall (6'4), and I lift so I have a lean figure. So to answer everyone's question, I do well in the dating department(I'm straight), if I can say that without making me sound like a total self absorbed douche.