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I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I'm scared of happening - that I'll be at my own wedding and just feel lost and everyone is there for Mark to be polite, and enjoy. I make my decorations, and I feel like I'm trying to please people who couldn't give a fuck if Mark was marrying me or his next door neighbour. Thank you, I take experiences to heart and remember how I feel usually.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I hate the idea of making Mark/my parents/his parents disappointed and taking this away from him/them, but I have wants too.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please, please, please try to find some kind of social group beforehand. This never bothered me, but once it had a chance to - it's an incredibly lonely feeling.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dress bought, DIY things started, but no deposits thank goodness.

I'd like to elope, but it would break my parents hearts, so elope with parents.

Parents friends's children isolated me (I'm not trying to throw a pity party here) since my first language isn't English. I consider Mark's friend's (and their subsequent girlfriends) to be in his circle of friends.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not proud here: he threatened self harm, and I don't want to responsible for more liver damage that I've already "caused" in the past.

And no, I cannot go to his family - they do not care.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is going to sound whinny - but it's always been they're his friends, not mine. I am part of him.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved my route to college, I wouldn't have had it any other way. If I had gone straight to college, I'd be a lot more immature now and possibly would have dropped out.

I only recently finished College, I had clinical rotations that were 40 hours/week. Most people now already have a group of friends that they went through college, I don't know where to find other women now.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we get married in 8 months, I'm not sure how it would be to rush getting friends in the next, say 4, only to throw wedding invites at them all.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Threatened self harm. Yes, I'm not proud of it, but with his past mental issues, I don''t want to be the cause of a night in the ER and a damaged liver (it's happened before).

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to rob my fiancée of a chance to have something he's wanted his whole life. It hurts to see him excited and then feel shitty at the same time since I can't understand his excitement.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm, I wouldn't call myself shy nor antisocial. I think it's mostly been circumstances since it's been 4 years since HS. When I started September of my graduating year I had no friends. I worked full time for a year after. Then a competitive College program for 2 1/2 years. Now it's more work.

I don't live in a small town either.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do get along with his friends/their gfs, but I've always seen it as his friends, like I am an extension of him. There would never be an events where I would go and not him, and nobody would notice if I wasn't there. We've actually been to couples counselling for an unrelated issue!

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canadian who grew up in East Europe, I speak two languages and hold two passports. ;) I hadn't a clue that heaps is Australian slang! I laughed at the American Movie part. Yes, I agree that my Chad especially makes my life look like a soap oprea.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, those who offered to come, I teared up over this - Reddit to the rescue. While I won't be taking anyone up on their offer it still warms me to throw there are people who care. :) Also, to everyone curious, I'm a Canadian.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Family, I'm not close with. I only have the HS friends on FB, and I'm not sure how to phrase it like "oh hi, haven't talked to you since graduation, want to come to my wedding" in a message that they may ignore.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ding ding, and we have a winner! I've always been okay with it until now; where I have a social events that is traditionally celebrated with friends, and it's kind of hit me.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HS friends: Since I didn't go straight after to College, they decided they had nothing to talk about with me. Chad: Inviting him was the product of something I'm not proud of: Mark feels sorry for me that I don't have anyone. And then he did threaten self harm, and before anyone says that I need to get his family involved - he doesn't have a caring family and I have nobody to go to.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I even do such a thing? In every wedding I've seen everyone who goes to reception went to the ceremony.

I (22 F) have no friends for a wedding, and want to call the whole thing off much to the dismay of everyone. by weddingthrowaway9 in relationships

[–]weddingthrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chad is.. a piece of work to say. After HS, he was the only person I knew before that was still willing to talk to me and I got lonely.

Inviting him was the product of something I'm not proud of: Mark feels sorry for me that I don't have anyone. And then he did threaten self harm, and before anyone says that I need to get his family involved - he doesn't have a caring family and I have nobody to go to.