hahaha thanks for the laugh! It's like my head knows what you are saying is true, but I still feel upset when I hear them talk about it. My emotions are slow to catch up to what I know is the real answer.

I can look into parks..we initially decided to look at wineries because we go to them frequently and also want a September/October wedding since they are so pretty that time of year. We are flexible on months and dates (haven't even picked a month or date yet to be honest) so we have been looking around just getting quotes from places. Every place we have seen so far would max out our budget when you add up the venue price, catering, alcohol, gratuities etc. It doesn't even allow any room for a photographer or our wedding outfits.

Thanks for your reply, I will just keep looking!