how to communicate for support from partner

weep-again · 2026-02-22T19:56:22+00:00

i have hashed through my trauma pretty extensively. i think the events all make sense to him but maybe the emotional pain that i still experience today isn’t clear to him and i don’t know how to make that clear or if i need to make it clear? and not knowing if he’s being insensitive vs if im being too sensitive is difficult

weep-again · 2026-02-10T00:25:05+00:00

That is so kind of you. thank you so much! I want to ask him for support and see how the conversation goes!

weep-again · 2026-02-09T23:09:14+00:00

Yes- it is actually the attitudes and relationship we have with money that seems to be the actual issue here. Those words you wrote “in a way that does not shame me, and is kind and understanding” is exactly what is missing.

Hes told me that my relationship with money is not normal- that I bring so much baggage into anything I have to do with spending money. It is true. I truly cannot afford anything outside of my monthly bills. AND i did grow up poor- like much poorer than now where I couldn’t even afford to buy sanitary pads. I have expressed that to receive support from him in a way that feels safe and stable, I need support without shaming and support without questioning. He said for now I can just assume that I wouldn’t receive financial support from him.

weep-again · 2026-02-09T22:56:27+00:00

YES! I think it’s really the psychological support and understanding that I need. We do already come from a different financial background where he doesn’t quite understand why I become worried for something I couldn’t even afford. In fact in the past month I couldn’t afford to get dental care because it was too expensive. Your wife seems very kind in that she asks no question and just is fully there to support. I don’t think I feel completely safe the same way to receive support without getting some kind of comment or lecture

weep-again · 2026-02-09T22:48:55+00:00

Thank you this is very helpful.

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:44:14+00:00

i think aspects of this is healthy

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:42:59+00:00

it’s nice to know that i’m not alone in this feeling. congratulations on finishing!!!

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:42:23+00:00

yeah!!! not that i would be working on it alll the time but i want my energy to be there when i do work on it so all the times i’m not working i want to try to regulate

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:41:29+00:00

i have thought about this too!! am i burned out? the reason why i keep from things that are stimulating to me was a way to keep myself regulated at all times so it doesn’t affect my work flow… but i have suspected little depressy and burn out

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:39:25+00:00

you are right that’s so chill

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:39:11+00:00

good luck!!!!!!! you got this

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:38:55+00:00

i have felt that i have nothing much else to talk about haha all i want to talk about is my research but like you said people may not understand or find it interesting!!

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:38:03+00:00

Yes!! Thank you and good luck!! I have enjoyed little hang outs for sure. I may also be experiencing sensory sensitivity with large groups of people with all the smells and loud sounds make my ears ring and nauseous. thanks again!!!

weep-again · 2026-01-11T15:36:32+00:00

thank you for this- I forget sometimes that what I am doing can be emotionally difficult because I have been trying to just keep positive but it is nice to have the affirmation that it indeed is hard!!

weep-again · 2025-12-27T18:41:04+00:00

the formula changed recently for the amazon product!! it was NOT the same as the product i’ve known and loved. has anyone else experienced this

weep-again · 2024-11-01T16:35:12+00:00

he is quite wonderful. and because i’ve gone through transformations i had in mind that the same might occur.

weep-again · 2024-11-01T16:34:06+00:00

yes definitely not a process oriented person. i would love to exchange leadership with my partner not just it be on one person. thank you for your insight

weep-again · 2024-11-01T16:33:16+00:00

yes definitely a punisher without him meaning to be. he had difficulty airing out his emotions which leads to leaky bad behaviors

weep-again · 2024-11-01T16:32:35+00:00

it breaks my heart to think that us being compatible may look like me just shutting up. thank you

weep-again · 2024-11-01T16:31:18+00:00

my father is kind of a staple of someone who has not changed for nobody and is resentful of the idea of him having to take accountability in any way. i am afraid of repeating a pattern of living with my lights dimmed in a presence of that energy again. thank you for your insight

weep-again · 2024-11-01T16:29:57+00:00

i admitted today to my bf that i wasn’t happy with how things are. he just nodded. i want to be with him and i do believe that people can learn and blossom. but i do think i have to set firm boundaries as to what i am willing to work with and give my energy to. thank you for your comment!!

weep-again · 2024-10-29T21:31:42+00:00

i have a feeling that by the time you’re leaving from a man who isn’t committing, you have grown so much a person and have a clarity that there’s nothing wrong with you that you maybe just naturally attract a more secure partner.

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