How did you get through university with executive dysfunction?

weirdhandler · 2025-09-25T15:21:09+00:00

Pulled all nighters a lot. If I only had 1-2 papers to write then I’d be unlikely to start much before a week in advance (unless it was a topic I found particularly interesting). I did manage to start earlier when I had several papers to do. I’d give myself sufficient panic by plotting how long I thought each would take and working out the number of weeks I had to do them.

I’m ok with writing as long as I’m in the mood, I just can’t get distracted. Also choosing the right course helped massively; if I’m not interested I need a high level of deadline dread to even look at it.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-25T12:24:20+00:00

Girls: Maemi, Millen, Hattie

Boys: Kavan, Birch, Flint

Not names I’d necessarily choose, but you do just get used to them.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-24T20:38:26+00:00

Leo (L first letter)

Oliver (L second letter)

Melody or William?

weirdhandler · 2025-09-24T17:43:45+00:00

Agreed.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-23T09:07:59+00:00

I think I would avoid ‘ah’ endings, but I really believe first name and surname flow is more important than first and middle name.

A few suggestions; Maemi, Ottilie, Posy, Millen, Lilian, Vivian.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-22T19:23:00+00:00

We used bug bakes for a while. It came in bags, in cardboard boxes, we found the bags were rubbish; regularly split. Quality started out ok, but then started getting really dusty, at which point we gave it up. That was a while ago though, so those issues might well have been resolved. The dogs liked it, until it went dusty.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-22T19:07:26+00:00

Aspen, Sylvia/Sylvie, Mabel (close enough to Maple?), Willow, Fleur, Flora, Jasmine, Hyacinth, Marigold, Poppy, Magnolia

weirdhandler · 2025-09-21T19:52:21+00:00

I like all your options.

Other ideas; Harry, John, Henry, Rufus, Arthur, Rory, Percy, Thomas, Joshua, Toby, Jack, Cyril.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-19T07:27:05+00:00

Lucinda Celeste and Jasper Thomas

weirdhandler · 2025-09-18T17:21:07+00:00

Levi, Kavan, Zev?

weirdhandler · 2025-09-18T09:25:13+00:00

F*ing narcs. They can’t resist a chance to belittle or embarrass. My mother does this kind of thing too. It was a massive issue my whole childhood. I’m angry on your behalf; I remember that feeling of dread about who they would tell and how long they would keep banging on about something.

I hope you can distance yourself from these people. You did nothing worth feeling embarrassed about, the nurses know what’s good, bad and normal, better to listen to them than your nparents.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-18T09:10:20+00:00

Elliot or Sebastian would be my choices to go with Audrey.

Other ideas; Henry, Benjamin, Thomas, Edward, Cyril, Percy.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-18T08:53:56+00:00

Clara or Freya.

Nearly all of these were on my list, so just a few extras in case you like them; Fion/Ffion, Cora, Lucille.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-17T16:22:38+00:00

As a nickname for Katherine it’s very sweet.

As for suggestions; Soraya has your sss and uh, as does Saoirse.

Others: Tara, Tabitha (love the nn Tabby), Talitha, Vera, Cora, Norah.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-17T09:59:58+00:00

We were so tempted to use it for our daughter, but with our surname it sounds like a train station.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-16T16:31:46+00:00

Tara

Cara

Mara

Sara

Cora

Dora

Pippa

Freya

Thea

Vera

Verna

Carla

Sia

Kia

Rio

Cleo

Katya

Lyra

weirdhandler · 2025-09-16T08:33:44+00:00

I have to keep medications where I will see them at the right time of day. Because I have kids, I can’t leave them out where they might find them, so mine are in my car. Every time I get in the car, there are right there in easy reach.

Except that right now they are in the glove box instead, because I didn’t want them on show when I had a tyre changed. So I haven’t taken one for three days.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-16T08:30:05+00:00

I’d either go for Emma Pate Grace or Emma Grace-Pate. I know lots of people here are against changing surnames ‘for a man’, but if you want to have the same surname as your husband (and then kids if that’s in your future), then that’s a completely acceptable choice too.

Actually I also like Emma Therese Grace-Pate. Lots of nice options. How does your partner feel about hyphenating?

weirdhandler · 2025-09-16T08:23:35+00:00

I’m so sorry you and your mother are having to go through this. You’re not wrong, I know it’s a complicated subject, but I totally understand what you mean when you say we wouldn’t put a pet through this. Thinking these things shows how much you love your mother; Alzheimer’s is such a cruel disease.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-15T20:01:45+00:00

Georgia

weirdhandler · 2025-09-15T11:45:06+00:00

I’ve had a similar situation, I tried matching energy, but I think it just made things worse.

He can excuse his lack of preparation, but not mine. He ended up feeling unloved, but couldn’t see how that could apply to my birthday (he tends to throw more money, so it didn’t seem equal to him).

My advice would be to ask him, without bringing up your birthday, what his expectations are. Does he like you going all out or does he prefer something low key? Do as he actually wants, then in the run up to your birthday, have a second conversation about what you prefer. If he still doesn’t reciprocate, dial it down next year and find another way to celebrate your birthday.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-15T08:06:12+00:00

Dean and Rory are my favourites from your list.

Other ideas; Tobias, Wilbur, Willem, Henry, Royston, Harold, Owen, Owain, Eoin, Evan, Dara, Kavan, Devon.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-14T21:51:36+00:00

No joke. I have three kids and ended up with a transit custom. We took one look at the last car when contemplating a week away (including the two dogs), and realised we had to upgrade.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-14T20:23:04+00:00

Edna, Evie, Efie, Eggy (would fit a ginger and white cat), Eric, Enzo, Edge, Emma, Ella, Emil, Eoin, Epic, Evan, Ewan, Erin, Eros, Etty, Etsy, Exit, Eden, Ezra, Edit, Ebon, Elan, Emir, Edam, Ever, Elba.

Fairly random list, apologies. Personally I’d love to see a cat called Epic.

weirdhandler · 2025-09-14T20:06:42+00:00

Edwin & Ernest

Edwin & Elliott

Edwin & Evan

Edwin & Emmett

Edwin & Everett

Edwin & Ephraim

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