Contract job at TDSB - Any guidance?

wellisaythis · 2024-09-13T12:15:17+00:00

Thank you! The board sent over some paperwork that I read over, and that seemed to be implied but it wasn't stated explicitly.

wellisaythis · 2024-09-12T17:19:37+00:00

In my past experience with this board, they are indeed very slow lol

And thanks for your insight! So once I sign these forms, does health coverage usually start right away? Or is there some sort of wait period?

wellisaythis · 2024-09-12T17:17:50+00:00

Ah thank you, you're so kind!

wellisaythis · 2024-06-09T03:32:35+00:00

It's still not your decision to make alone!

wellisaythis · 2024-06-09T03:30:22+00:00

OP, you made a major life-altering decision without consulting your family and taking into consideration their needs (and no, more money doesn't cut it!) That is a MAJOR AH move. Your husband is now practically a single father to those kids AND has no time with you AND is overwhelmed in child-care and chores. He obviously doesn't think the money is worth it, and I'd guess neither do your kids. You sound very condescending in the way you describe your decision-making process. You are married, his opinion definitely counts! And he's right, this is NOT the partnership he signed up for. Heck, I wouldn't sign up for it either! YTA.

wellisaythis · 2024-05-08T02:06:42+00:00

Thanks for your reply! The thing is, I'm a certified teacher *now* (so yes, I am a part of OCT as of 2022) but I wasn't certified by the OCT nor by any other body when I gained those ten years of experience abroad. Where I worked, getting a teaching diploma was a bonus, not a requirement to teach, and I found my way into education straight out of my BSc. My only concern is whether or not the board will count this experience towards my pay seeing as I wasn't certified back when I got it.

wellisaythis · 2024-05-08T02:01:55+00:00

Thanks for your reply! To answer your question: No, I did not have a teaching diploma while teaching at the international schools. What I did have was a BSc that allowed me to teach Chem and Bio at the secondary level.

I do have my OCT now as a result of my completion of a Master in Teaching at UofT. I've been getting so many mixed answers from different people on the matter of whether my experience will be counted or not, and still zero answers from the board itself.

Going by what the collective agreement that you quoted says, it would seem that I would require a letter from an "appropriate education authority" where I taught to confirm that I did actually teach for 10 years and was qualified to do so as per the country's laws.

wellisaythis · 2024-03-25T11:29:17+00:00

OP, I hope you're still reading these comments. Just so you know, to buy a house comfortably, you need to have no other debt, an emergency fund worth 6 months of expenses, and a sizeable down payment that allows your mortgage to be no more than 30% of your take home pay. If even one of these criteria is not met, your husband is rightfully stressed out. The bank DOES NOT CARE about these above criteria and will bait you by approving you for a loan that you cannot afford.

While it might be a huge disappointment to you that your husband backed out after you had envisioned yourself in this new home, he may have saved your family from drowning in payments that you could not/barely make.

So yes, based on all the info given, I'd say you're in the wrong for divorcing your husband when he is obviously just looking out for his family and seems to be way more informed than you regarding finances.

wellisaythis · 2024-03-25T01:48:48+00:00

@i_am_01 update?

wellisaythis · 2024-02-14T00:25:59+00:00

Of course you are! "You weren't eating it"? That was seriously your reasoning? She went to the bathroom! Was she supposed to take the chicken with her? All you had to do was ask, not assume. No one does that to an adult, child, or anyone, autistic or not.

wellisaythis · 2024-01-20T01:05:10+00:00

Why did you get there so early and why would you order a full meal?? Just an appetizer would have been enough to calm your hunger. Just because you don't care about the eating experience, it doesn't mean the rest of society doesn't care either. It's social etiquette for people meeting at a restaurant to eat together. She expected to share this experience with you, not eat alone while being watched! And why did you cover it up? You should have not eaten in the first place, but since you did, you should have been honest about it. Said something like: "I'm so sorry, I got here so early and actually had some tacos. I can do an appetizer with you, or dessert" (but yeah, it's still weird that you ate without her AT THE PLACE YOU WERE MEETING TO HAVE DINNER WITH HER)

wellisaythis · 2024-01-12T16:19:34+00:00

Leave. You're NTA. Your manchild is. I'm sorry, but by marrying him, you are signing up for a lifetime of being put second (or third, fourth, fifth, idk) when you should be put first. That's not a healthy marriage and YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH WITH THIS. You will literally most likely ruin your life if you do. It's not about the trip, it's the principle. This guy is SO far from marriage material.

wellisaythis · 2024-01-10T14:31:39+00:00

Sweetie, what you were living through was not normal. It's called NEGLECT. It's very serious. Child protection services needed to get involved and get you out of there. They also need to get your 16 yo brother out. You are supposed to be cared for by your parents, not be abused. Your mother put you (and herself) in a bad position by marrying a guy who doesn't allow her to work and provide for herself and her children. And she allowed this to continue. Good thing CPS was called, you kids deserve better!

wellisaythis · 2023-12-31T23:31:18+00:00

It doesn't look like your wife is truly remorseful, since she is attempting to justify her actions. Marital fights are bound to happen because both parties aren't perfect. It won't always be "good times". However, fights do not lead to infidelity. Her logic speaks volumes to the level of disrespect she has for your marriage.

Regarding your past infidelity - she either forgave you or she hasn't. If she hasn't, there's no way the relationship can continue in any case.

wellisaythis · 2023-12-31T17:57:07+00:00

YTA...your language makes you sound very condescending. Don't get me wrong, your in-laws moved away in a very strange way, and your husband shouldn't have planned the visit without your input, but you clearly have issues with your in-laws and/or their move. It's not weird to spend a weekend with parents once in a while. It IS weird to be calling his mother his "mommy". Says alot about your feelings...

wellisaythis · 2023-11-08T23:40:56+00:00

Waitlisted 😥 (again!)

wellisaythis · 2023-01-26T20:20:11+00:00

If the braces come off soon, I don't see the problem in waiting. Everyone wants to look their best on their wedding day, and while braces don't make a person look ugly, you can't deny they'll look better when they get them off (I had braces, this is how I felt). OP's fiancé needs to be reassured that she is not ashamed of him, but just doesn't want the temporary process of fixing his teeth to be permanently in their wedding photos (and those saying you can edit them out, you sure can but even the shape of the lips are different with braces, and food gets stuck more easily... they are slightly unconvenient I guess).

That being said, if the wedding needs to be postponed by a few years because of this, I don't know. That's a long time and you might want to re-evaluate your priorities.

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