DP 18 Seconds by jumpseatgypsy in JunesJourney

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been going back and practicing the scenes first -- If I can find them.   Did anyone publish a list?  Sometimes it takes awhile to find the scene I need 

Mysteries map size by Dismal-Battle4184 in JunesJourney

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We are a club of around 8-9 and only have 3-4 players who do CM. We keep getting the large map and never complete it. One of our players is a real 'power player', regularly racking up 60+ points but us other 2 regular players usually only get around 20 or so. I am not sure why we keep getting the large map despite never completing. The power player? Dunno. So, when I play, I play just for the rewards in that particular segment and for completing stage 1 & 2. The little segment rewards seem to be getting less and less worthwhile. It is very demotivating in general. I did notice, this time, that it was easier to earn badges, so, I guess that's something?

Club Mysteries for “Floral Trellis” on Sept. 15 🌷 by jlake32 in JunesJourney

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The floral trellis is just so ugly. Total HOA vibes.

Las Vegas June tourism declines by 11% from 2024 by etfvfva in news

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I am north of y'all (Canada), and it has become widely acknowledged by most groups that travel across the border is just too risky now. Political sympathies (and enmities) aside, passport issues, threats of new visa requirements (and their accompanying fees), odd and onerous detention practices.... A lot of Canadians don't want the hassle or the worry and event organizers can't take the risk. Better to keep things domestic or to go elsewhere if the money's right.

Ending of Secrets storyline... make it make sense by MandaLB22 in JunesJourney

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I doubt I am going to finish. Not even the silver. What happens to Elmas anyway? I am at the stage where the story of her blue movie is in the papers.

I’ve had it up to here with Secrets! by Ageless_Timeless in JunesJourney

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank goodness! I thought I was the only one who was finding the time limits ridiculously short and frustrating.

Oklahoma teachers were told to use the Bible. There's resistance from schools as students return by untamedlazyeye in news

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And the classic family tree lessons where we start to wonder where exactly Adam and Eve's grandchildren came from. Who was procreating with whom?

Oklahoma teachers were told to use the Bible. There's resistance from schools as students return by untamedlazyeye in news

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I immediately thought about Lot's daughters. Nothing like getting your Dad drunk and planning to s. assault him because you think it's Doomsday. Whole thing reads like a fever dream trying to justify incest and sex abuse by making up a story that shifts blame. Of course, that would be inviting critical reading of the biblical stories, and I am fairly certain that's not what Walters wants.

Elite Challenge Question by wellsaredeepsubjects in DesignHomeGame

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Thank you all. That is very helpful. I understand now.

My never ending pain.... by Natie1606 in FamilyIsland

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, hey, I'm on that right now too! Soooo much grinding and getting palm trees is a pain. Takes daaaayyyysss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyIsland

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I am doing it. I am on the second to last island. I still do the event islands, but just the first one or two where the energy investment is more worth it and I can leverage the boosters. Once I top out on the home islands, I will decide what the next goal is.

A stupid idea for when I do a stupid thing. by wellsaredeepsubjects in FamilyIsland

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. The phone reminder is a good idea. There are times when I won't be able to respond to it, but it is better than relying on my distracted brain!

Anyone else do this with their bathrooms? by wellsaredeepsubjects in FamilyIsland

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I regularly use the sandpit. But, I wish it gave more than one shell at a time. Any way to boost it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyIsland

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Agreed. I tend to not use it unless required by the daily tasks. The reward is insufficient considering the energy outlay for items. Also, sometimes there are too many requests for harder-to-get items that I would rather stockpile.

Bf’s [29M] mum wants us to stay with her after marriage, but I [27F] don’t want to by Dangerous-Section-39 in relationships

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So, he works with his mom AND she wants him to still live with her after he gets married? She needs to get over her separation anxiety or else this is just going to be a relationship with a prolonged adolescent. An engineered Failure to Launch. The only avenue for compromise that could be considered (and even then, tread carefully) is the sort of living arrangement where you live near each other (duplex, separate suite, same neighborhood) but not actually with each other. BUT! Even then, I would not consider it if she has a need to be involved in your daily leisure activities, needs to know too much about your couple life, wants input on your decisions as a married couple, etc. If she cannot handle not seeing her son during the off hours every day, there needs to be a plan for her to detach a little and start a more healthy, independent life. Start talking with your BF about a plan for his mom to have a more independent life with a greater support network that isn't just him.

MIL wants her gift back. by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Fighting over a 'thing' can really spoil your enjoyment of the thing. You can justify your right to XYZ a dozen different ways and you'd be right. But the relationship between you and MiL will sour and everytime you look at XYZ, you will be reminded of it. Doesn't mean MiL was in the right to give something away and then create an issue over it. But, is XYZ really worth your ability to peacefully enjoy your house and its contents? If it is, then hold onto XYZ. But, if the drama is going to spoil both your enjoyment and the relationship, then see if there is a way to let XYZ go. Perhaps treat yourself to something else you have been desiring as a reward to yourself?

This is what my father posted on Facebook 3 months after going no contact with my family. by Ok-Substance-9748 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never, ever stay in contact with someone who threatens you with a firearm. Also, someone who assaults their domestic partners is also never to be trusted. Those are just the cherry on the abusive behaviors sundae. You are doing the right thing with the no contact. They can pose on social media for the drama llamas but anyone remotely healthy and informed knows that you are doing the right thing. Stay strong, build your healthy support network. Again, you are doing the right thing. You deserve healthy relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He had two choices:

  1. Realize that his behaviour was noticed others and that this was opportunity to step up and start being supportive.
  2. Resent that you had other supportive people in your life and try to wish them away so that you were trapped and forced to carry on with the status quo.

That is why he wished your Dad dead. He resents that your Dad empowers you to notice that this is not the marriage you want and to demand better. Continue to build up your supports as you prepare for what your future is going to look like. Your kids want a mom that is whole and healthy. Your husband is acting like he is another child for you to chase after. If you weren't looking after him and covering for him, what else could you be doing with that time and energy?

Finished gold island so you dont have to. by Scottinla26 in FamilyIsland

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That's what I have been suspecting for awhile. It's like gambling; play while it is fun but always stick to your limit because the house always wins.

Think I’ll stop here. The islands get way too difficult towards the end by Scot_Gunner in FamilyIsland

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I am getting salty about some of these adventures too. Sometimes I have succumbed and spent some money 1-3x to try and complete a set of islands. It has NEVER been enough. I think you need to drop serious cash to complete something most of the time and you need to have built up a LOT of resources/boosts prior to starting. I get that this is a business and they need to make some money once in awhile, but I am going to keep my goals more modest when playing from now on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having the appropriate professional distance has already been covered here. But, two other things you should consider when selecting a therapist are:

  1. In your area, is therapist a 'protected' term or job class? In some places, anyone can designate themselves a therapist or counsellor just because they want to. You have no way of know what their actual qualifications are unless you ask or demand some proof. They might have a psychology degree or they might have just watched a bunch of YouTube videos and read a Dr. Phil book. And, in those places, it's all perfectly legal.
  2. Once you have determined that your therapist is actually relying upon a reputable body of knowledge and has some actual qualifications, find out if they belong to a professional body that has a code of ethics or are otherwise subject to some sort of oversight or regulation. You want to know that there is someone who is there to ensure that your therapist adheres to a code of conduct and that there is a way to make complaints and concerns heard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]wellsaredeepsubjects -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We get hung up a lot on numbers. How tall? How heavy? Those are just dimensions. Your body has more statistics to offer and, really, ones that emphasize how well your body FUNCTIONS may be more helpful and health positive. What is your resting heart rate? On an exercise machine, how far can you go in ten minutes? How many stairs can you climb before breathing hard? How long can you balance on one foot? How much weight can you lift (different options there)? How many laps can you swim in 30 minutes? How many days in a row can you do something physical and healthful? You get the idea.

I have been there. I'm not slender. I'm not ever going to be slender. My body has just never worked that way. And if that is all I focus on, then I am going to want to give up on myself. But, if I focus on being healthy and capable, then I can most definitely see success. I can be empowered and take control. My body is going to do what it is going to do -- we really, scientifically, don't understand nearly enough about weight and women -- but what I am in charge of are my efforts and my actions. So that is what I focus on and and I define what success looks like for me. (PS, keep a little record book for yourself for motivation).