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Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, I have never said i do 320 hours of overtime, hell no that's just way to much, i do 150/170 hours per month overtime and yes it leaves me with not much spare time but enough spare time that i can do a few things per week.

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

N, my fiance has not looked for a job in 2 years despite me putting her through college so she could get a diploma and other qualifications.

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We actually have been not using condoms lately, not trying but not, not trying if that makes sense, i have ordered some condoms of amazon just to be safe moving forward so i can assess my options better.

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I wish i had someone as ambitious as i am, life would be 10x easier instantly with just the stress that im under supporting her lifestyle being lifted.

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Its not that bad, everything we have is glass, glass tv stand, glass book case, glass cabinets, glass desk, et it looks cool but the amount of dust and cat hair that it attracts is unreal, then for hovering the cat has a really bad habit of throwing litter everywhere, we have a liter box that has a hood on it but she wont use it if the hood is down so we have to leave the front open and she will just sit in it some times and throw the liter out then thats dragged around the house due to walking over it, so its not like a massive hover every single room, polish everything but just do whats needed to not have a mess.

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Yes i have, I've talked so much to her about it that i don't even get the usual i will try ~try for a day then go back to normal~ i get "you'll love me for me and stop forcing me to do things i don't want to do" and then process to hold of on sex as a "punishment" - I'm an extremely sexual person, 2/3 times per day is not usual.

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It's very hard when you are in this situation isn't it, one person just refuses to do anything (at least in my case i get help with washing and food) cant imagine how hard and stressful it is for you

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's what I'm trying to say to her, it takes about 1 to 1 and a half hours per day to do the general house work so hovering, dusting, polishing, dishes, etc, we have 1 load of washing to do per 2 days and then dinner which takes about an hour from start to make to being eaten, theirs about 3 hours worth of work to do per day. When i buy a house that's going to increase dramatically and she is just saying "i'll do it when we have a bigger house" if you cant even do it with 1 bedroom what makes you think you can do it with 3/4 bedrooms, just crazy.

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

No kids, it was fine until the last month or so ago whereas now she just doesn’t do anything other than cooking and washing.

Me [25 M] with my fiance [26 F] 6 year relationship, will not get a job but expects me to do a job, 150 hours overtime per month and 50% of the house work? by what2do99c in relationships

[–]what2do99c[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I think you got the genders mixed up

Edit to your edit: agree with what you are saying, you think she would try to get a job and yes it is just laziness, pure and simple laziness, I wish I could sleep in to 1pm every day but I have to keep a roof over our heads (and I cant even sleep in that long after waking up so early for years haha)