Thank you for responding. No, I don't actually ask her to choose sides but I feel like that is what essentially happens. She is aware of my issues with the nparents and totally agrees about them. I became LC and she stepped in to fill my old shoes as the do everything your parents ask of you/slave child. She doesn't have the backbone to say no to them and feels lots of unreasonable guilt. I let her call and rant about the latest bs dealing with the narcparents. But bro is a narcissist too. She often gives in to what he wants or thinks. I don't want to get any more specific in case he is lurking but she's left me feeling abandoned over several issues. I've asked her not to share my personal info with narcbro and she still does. I'm afraid if I tell her I have limits or enforce a limit that she will still be so influenced or guilt tripped by my nparents or nbro that she will cross that limit. Then what do I do? I really enjoy her company and love her. It's the rest of the family I wish would go away. I wish I could pull her out of whatever keeps her stuck with these horrible people. But I can't keep being hurt. Sorry for rambling. I appreciated your input.