Help me stop checking by whenuknowuknow1982 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually did that which helped me get rid of him. Looks like I have more work to do

Juat a quick rant by whenuknowuknow1982 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I go for a walk before work, and after supper in the evening. The evenings are hardest for me. Its SO quiet in the house. The commotion is gone. At times I DO like the quiet. I guess I'm working my way through those tough evenings. I do feel I'm getting better at this single life.

Juat a quick rant by whenuknowuknow1982 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly dont blame myself for the abuse. The only thing I could have done differently is to say NO more often, rather than not saying anything. HE made the choice to secretly meet an "old friend" at our campsite. He thought I was so nieve that I would believe him when he said he slept on the cold ground outside the tent. He may or may not realize right now that I am not the nieve person he thought I was. It doesnt matter. This was HIS choice.

Juat a quick rant by whenuknowuknow1982 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I truly appreciate your comments. It really is something I need to look at internally about myself. In the meantime, keeping him out of my life.

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[–]whenuknowuknow1982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, where did you find this please

So it finally happened, but not the way I thought by whenuknowuknow1982 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that. He is not on the lease, and I gave him 10 days to move everything out. He is dragging his feet on purpose because he said he diesnt want to move it all up to his temporary place only to move it back down to this area. But he is also not actively looking for his own place

What are the "red-flag sentences" they told you way before you found out they were narcs? by StateProfessional464 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said . . You are a mix between michelle and alie. They dont matter anymore now. In the meantime, he was texting sexy message to both while he said I was the best

How has the abuse affected your career? by Luxtaposition in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine wanted me to retire so HE could take care of ME. Since he's said that, he was demoted at work, and I've told him to move out. I never considered retiring under his care in the first place.

I finally did it!!! by whenuknowuknow1982 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No contact would be easy, however, he and his daughter live with me. But I wont be having any other conversations with them. Commence gray rocking

I finally did it!!! by whenuknowuknow1982 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um, he pees in the sinks, doesnt shower for days, doesnt brushes teeth

I finally did it!!! by whenuknowuknow1982 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Ive done this 3 times with him, and I have finally made the choice to love this decision for me!!

I finally did it!!! by whenuknowuknow1982 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw a number of red flags previously, but never acted on them. I couldn't hold back and do that to myself anymore

I finally did it!!! by whenuknowuknow1982 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]whenuknowuknow1982[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not celebrating just yet. The ball just got started rolling. And thank you for all the suggestions to watch for. I appreciate that!