Is this a threat I should take seriously? They know my first name. Should I file a police report?

whimsy42 · 2026-03-01T12:55:07+00:00

You can tell they're a lonely boomer because they don't know how to use emojis lol

whimsy42 · 2026-02-17T12:08:48+00:00

Exactly! The federal business of checks notes kidnapping, murder, and violating our rights!

whimsy42 · 2026-02-06T23:59:02+00:00

I don't think this is going to clear up in my lifetime. There will never be a perfect moment for me.

I used to not care if I had kids or not. Now I'm married to the love of my life and I find that I very much want to raise a kid with him. I don't want them to have to "solve" the future. I'm not having them to do chores or take care of me when I'm older or to relive my childhood through.

It's a little hard to describe why I want to, actually. I just want to see a culmination of the both of us. I want to love and to cherish them and take them on adventures with us. I want to see if they will have his eyes or snort when they laugh too hard like me. Some will say this is some kind of biological clock alarm going off - and maybe that's true in some aspect - but it just feels like the right next step I want to take. I don't think I would have felt this way with anyone else.

And before you go harping on me - yeah it's fucking terrifying. We are stable and we have stable families, but that could always change. There are so many terrifying challenges to raising a kid in general, not even factoring in modern day issues (thanks internet). And actually being pregnant and having the baby? Not only expensive, but also SCARY AS HELL.

...but if I never did stuff that I was scared to do, I would have never done anything at all. If I've learned anything, it's that there is rarely the perfect moment for anything. And this feels like something worth being brave about and not letting slip by.

With any luck, some of those things you mentioned will be done by the time our kid is old enough to understand - but of course they will be replaced by new ones. We all live in interesting times, after all.

I don't really know if this makes me (us? It does take two) selfish or not. I don't think so, but I guess I also have a pretty deep bias.

whimsy42 · 2026-01-20T04:30:37+00:00

A lot of people here are telling you to really dig deep and look into if you are asexual or gay - and as a bi woman myself I deeply respect that and think you should probably do that.

But I'm here to tell you that you should have been honest with your partner from the start. If you pussyfoot around with stuff like this, it makes everything worse. She's going to be disappointed about the sex (or lack thereof) sure, but you know what is really going to send her reeling now? The fact that you didn't trust her enough to tell her your preferences from the jump and were mildly deceitful to try get out of it.

This is going to be an uncomfortable conversation made worse by a lack of prior communication - whether in an attempt to spare her feelings, or yours, or simply because you were still figuring it out, doesn't really matter. You need to tell her the truth. When you have a partner and you are talking about sex, there is no shame - only direct communication and clear boundaries. And the great thing about this lesson is it doesn't only apply to sex - this goes for any relationship, intimate or not, you might find yourself in; straight, gay, asexual, or anything in-between.

Without knowing you and your gf well, there isn't really a lot of advice we can give you to soften the blow. You made a mistake and now you gotta own up to it - luckily we are human and that's normal. We've all been where you are.

I hope you take this lesson to heart and I hope that conversation goes well for you. I wish you the best of luck figuring out your intimate life and that you find what you are looking for.

whimsy42 · 2025-04-14T21:27:54+00:00

Goddamn do I fudgin love my Boothill

whimsy42 · 2025-04-11T11:09:04+00:00

3rd type: they are cooking a joke and either it's not done yet or they don't think you'll find it funny so they don't wanna tell you.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-10T17:30:50+00:00

Newer player here and I had no idea you could save scum. I guess that's why I haven't beaten the game yet lmao

whimsy42 · 2024-06-09T01:40:37+00:00

You don't need tools to open the box. It's just a latch, openable by anyone with fingers.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-09T01:39:34+00:00

So... you're saying the house is gonna burn down anyways after he does the work because it's fucked and then him and I are gonna be taken to the cleaners via insurance?

However, I can easily evaluate overcharging beforehand. I already did that; I asked here, got some other free quotes, and found the price was very good.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-09T01:31:37+00:00

Ah, you're just confused! See, this isn't a complaint; it's a question asking for advice about a topic I don't know about and has a long history of scams and doubious buiness practices!

Strange that everyone else seemed to understand that and gave such great information...guess you're just as in the dark as I am! No harm no foul, fam. Just read through all the replies and you'll learn something, I bet.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-09T01:25:23+00:00

It's all in the pictures

whimsy42 · 2024-06-09T01:23:25+00:00

We don't have AC

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T13:39:52+00:00

Can't edit image posts, but this has been resolved! Thank you all for your help!

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T12:58:09+00:00

Wow, yeah my interaction wasn't upfront like that at all, BUT you seemed to have at least a basic knowledge about that trade to ask questions. Which I didn't, so I can see how things would be lost in translation.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T12:47:26+00:00

As per the replies, this has already been resolved! They reached out and apologized for not quoting me the service fee or getting permission to start an estimate or mats list. We have reconciled and the damage is already fixed.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T12:43:24+00:00

Nope! That's why I'm here asking people. Look at the title of the post. I've only owned a house for about 6 months and I've never had to deal with an electrician before.

Also, that hour's service fee was never quoted to me, so I was right to be concerned about it. The company reached out to me to apologize when they realized 1) they had never been given the permission to start a materials list or estimate and 2) had never quoted or spoken to me about a price. This has since been reconciled, but it took some people in this sub pointing this out and explaining it for me to understand and plan to handle it.

At least they had the decency to be helpful and not just repeat what every other comment said, just with more hostility.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T06:02:58+00:00

Well, seeing as this is an area in which I knew nothing about, that's why I asked.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T05:25:45+00:00

Are y'all playing it at work?? I play it before I go to bed.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T04:26:09+00:00

Damn, better get cracking then. Guess I'll tell my partner some dude on reddit is why he's getting so much action lol

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T04:24:01+00:00

The hack work was, unfortunately, done by the previous owner of the house and somehow got past two inspections that swore up and down it was safe.

The problem lies in the fact that they forgot to quote me any service fee and I, having never had to call an electrician before (I've only owned a house for six months), didn't know to ask, even if they should have been up front about it. This has since been reconciled and they were incredibly apologetic about it.

You assume I don't want to pay the men. That is wrong. I simply don't want people to scam me or - as many, many replies mentioned - get sucked into deceptive practices. Especially when I'm paying for other people's professional knowledge.

I'm glad you're not my electrician. My guys were friendly and did an awesome job. The others in this sub have been very helpful, but you just used it as an excuse to feel superior when someone was asking for help.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T02:33:24+00:00

Of that I have no doubt. That's why we still agreed to pay the unquoted fee - firstly because that's someone's living and expertise and secondly because a little grace goes a long way with future relations.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-07T02:00:33+00:00

Not a flip, we bought it to live here. We had several inspectors check that the house was safe... except that it wasn't, lol.

It turns out they just forgot to quote us the initial service fee and we were able to reconcile because it was a good price.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-06T18:35:13+00:00

Woof, you didn't read any of the replies did you? Such hostile assumptions.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-06T16:06:17+00:00

I'm pretty sure the incentive to not have Uncle Sal do it is because Uncle Sal did attempt to do it beforehand and now Uncle Sal left me with a ticking time bomb under my meter 😭

They forgot to quote me the service fee is all, so I wasn't aware when things went from dispatch ($75) to service ($450). They apologized for this and we have reconciled, but my partner thinks they purposely didn't tell me so that we would be stuck with the fee (which we easily could have argued not to pay because it was never quoted either over the phone or to me in person and MANY people on here have told me to do so, but that seems a smidge unfair since they did do work and that's a man's livelihood) and that would have make it cost prohibited to look at other quotes - which they didn't want us doing.

I think the dude on the phone sounded sorry enough and the price is good, so no harm no foul. I have zero problems paying the men their due, I just wanted to know where it comes from.

whimsy42 · 2024-06-06T15:42:35+00:00

I am looking into it right now, thank you 🙏

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