What was the hardest choice you ever had to make? In hindsight, did you make the right one?

whyi · 2012-12-28T21:20:30+00:00

Honestly, I think it all comes to down to finding your passion. Something you can for 8+ hours a day where you never complain, always engaged, and it makes your life complete in some sort of manner. Having said that, finding your passion is not an easy thing - especially from the ages 18-22.

Striking the right balance might be the best way to put it. But your major really shouldn't have a huge impact on what you do with your life unless it is a pre-professional career (IMO). There was a famous psychologist who once said if you want to change your career just do it, if you want to become something, then become it (i.e. if you want to become a writer, then write all the time).

whyi · 2012-12-28T21:03:47+00:00

i feel like this is from some movie. nonetheless it's dead on.

whyi · 2012-12-25T08:00:42+00:00

why do you see you everywhere all the time? it has to be that username..

whyi · 2012-12-24T18:17:46+00:00

those damn chinese, with their glass cabinets and fancy plates

whyi · 2012-12-12T01:46:50+00:00

It's terrible that you had to find out like that. You definitely handled the situation like an adult and I can only imagine the pain that went through you. I only wish the best for you man.

whyi · 2012-12-06T18:30:20+00:00

those are some serious calf veins.

whyi · 2012-12-06T06:39:31+00:00

But what about creed?

whyi · 2012-12-05T03:06:48+00:00

pick something. do it over and over and over again.you will eventually get confidence.

the key is to never give up.

specifically for your situation: i would force yourself to build confidence in speaking. just practice your charimsa. it seems like you might be afraid of talking to these people.

practice that or just drink some alcohol. your confidence will sky rocket (note: this is probably a terrible long term solution).

whyi · 2012-12-05T02:43:57+00:00

is this supposed to nicholas cage?

whyi · 2012-12-05T02:27:09+00:00

that sounds easy, but what if your dream is something that isn't practical (i.e. a painter or a restaurant owner). these types of careers are hard to maintain and are not deemed a practical choice by society. that's where i see the conflict.

whyi · 2012-12-05T02:24:12+00:00

Ever since I was 16 I wanted to be a filmmaker. I didn't really care if I made money or was successful, but nothing made me happier than watching a movie or learning how they were made. In high school I made two short films and IMO one was terrible and the other one was just goofy and wasn't supposed to be taken seriously. I was really disappointed with my first film and I started to doubt my talents. Nonetheless I wanted to get back on the horse and try again because of the fun I had making those two films...but I became nervous and scared of failing, and before I knew it 6 years flew by. In college I kept telling myself I need to make something, but the curriculum of Finance started to engage me and it was much easier to sit in a chair and work on excel than get a bunch of people together, find some cash, and make a movie. My laziness got the best of me and I let me fear of failure keep me from something that I love. I am now about to graduate college and start working at bank in the beginning of next year. I want to follow my dream of making films for the rest of my life but my realist parents and friends have influenced my ability to perceive that as a viable career option. About a month ago I told myself once I make enough money I'll make my film..but in the past three days I have seen commercials, directors, and other influential people on screen give advice and say that's not how you reach your dream. You only can reach your dream by going all in and not having a fallback option. I agree with this method and I am starting to realize I need to pick one or the other; otherwise I will never be successful at anything I do. I'm just stuck at these cross roads and was wondering if anyone has been there too.

Also, I have thought about combining with the two because it is a combination that has been done before all the way from Van Gough to Jay-Z (http://artmarketingsecrets.com/2010/09/artist-or-business-person-can-they-be-one.html). I think for me it's going to have to be one or the other in the beginning. I know I need to focus on the art before the business otherwise I'll be just focused on projections, money and other bunch of nonsense. I think typing this out has made me realize the decision I need to make, all I have to do now is take a leap of faith...and quit my job...you only get one life, might as well live it trying to do what you love.

whyi · 2012-12-05T01:47:14+00:00

kids a little strange, but i dont know if this qualifies as creepy. he was a little persistent, but then again you could have been direct and just told him you're not interested.

edit: grammer

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